I see Orthodox and Hasidic rabbis advising couples where adultery has been committed against the other not to get divorced or not to take that attitude immediately, to dialogue, to find out how far this relationship can be fixed. My question is, doesn't Judaism demand immediate divorce in case of adultery even if the innocent party forgives the adulterer? Or when they speak is it more directed towards gentiles? Don't the Gentiles have something similar? Has anything changed in the approach to adultery? Did it stop being that sin as if it were something of no return? Even if today it is not possible to apply capital punishment, did this mean that the adulterer could have a new chance even if the penalty is now in the hands of heaven?
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1Where do you see?– Gershon GoldNov 20, 2022 at 20:27
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I'm from Brazil and a well-regarded rabbi here when asked what to do in case of discovering adultery, he did not immediately recommend divorce, suggesting that he talk to the one who betrayed him, expressing his feelings and his pain and trying to find out if there is salvation for this marriage . So unless you understand Portuguese I can send you the video in question that addresses this– ThalesNov 20, 2022 at 20:30
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1If you can't name the Rabbi it is impossible to formulate a response.– Gershon GoldNov 20, 2022 at 21:39
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2When a married woman lives with another man willingly, she becomes forbidden on her husband. He would be obligated to divorce her. Whether she can repent or not, would help her relationship with hashem, but it won't permit her back to her husband.– ShlomyNov 20, 2022 at 22:01
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4Perhaps he is talking about the man who sinned and forgiveness by his spouse.– Gershon GoldNov 21, 2022 at 0:17