My friend wants to work at this place that I worked at. It was a highly toxic place. Every other employee there also felt the same about its toxicity. As far as lashon hara goes, can I tell him in one sentence that he should not work there? Or does Halacha expect me to sit back and let things go their way?

I am very strict about Lashon HaRa, cause i read that there was once a king who did all the aveiros possible except lashon hara....and he never lost a war or something. I very much keep that story in my mind always.


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This would be letoeles, for a purpose, and you could definitely tell him. But you have to be sure that it isn't motzei shem ra, spreading falsehoods. It you really unbiasly know that it is true, then you not only can tell him, you should tell him.

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    – Kovy Jacob
    Sep 16, 2022 at 19:22
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    Toeles is not a blanket heter. There are many other conditions that must be fulfilled.
    – N.T.
    Sep 17, 2022 at 0:24
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    To add to what @N.T. said, you can't harbor negative thoughts about the subject of your speech, you have to have rebuked the subject first, and there has to be no other way of obtaining the desired result (friend not working there) than saying the lashon hara. And even then you can only say the minimum amount. Something like "you don't want to work there" can do (assuming the other person won't assume any worse than it actually is from that sentence). Tone and facial expressions matter as well, and you can't exaggerate. It really isn't that simple.
    – Esther
    Sep 19, 2022 at 18:49
  • That's assuming we're dealing with people who are subject to the laws of Lashon Hara.
    – N.T.
    Sep 20, 2022 at 1:43

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