The website below describes what is apparently an ancient Jewish wedding custom, in which it was apparently said that "only the Father" of the groom "knows" when the wedding would take place.:

[I]n order to maintain the respect and dignity of the father’s place in the home, it would naturally be said “that only the father knows” when it would be time for the son to go get the bride. This did not necessitate that the son did not know because the community would have to know within a reasonable degree of accuracy when the wedding would occur. (Source)

Is there a source for this practice within the traditions of Judaism?

  • The OP is asking whether there is any "Jewishness" about this custom mentioned in his source. Whether the source is suitable for this stackexhange does not matter, since this is a Judaism-related question, not about the Christian background. Please correct me if I'm wrong in this..... The OP could edit his question to make it more suitable.
    – Shmuel
    Commented Sep 15, 2022 at 20:46
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    @Shmuel Yes thank you! The question really has nothing to do with Christianity. It is simply about whether or not the practice described in the source is rooted in Jewish tradition.
    – Bob
    Commented Sep 15, 2022 at 20:48
  • Then you should edit your question, to make it more suitable for this site.
    – Shmuel
    Commented Sep 15, 2022 at 20:50
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    @Shmuel i already did
    – Bob
    Commented Sep 15, 2022 at 20:51
  • I think, to be honest, that the first two customs are not really customs, but common sense. An invitation, back then, needed way more effort than nowadays, when we have mail and other forms of communication. I think that the main question should be focused on if there is a Jewish source on the saying "only the father knows" when it would be time for the son to go get the bride.
    – Shmuel
    Commented Sep 15, 2022 at 20:54


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