Shalom, I am a 16 year old noahide and therefore quite young. I want to ask if it is permissible for a noahide to premarital relationships (of course only with the opposite gender and therefore sexual intercourse to). With sexual relationships i mean "true love" like husband and wife. Furthermore do I have to live with the person in one home or not (I obviously am too young to afford myself a home). I thank you a lot!

  • I believe yes, but I don't know if I could rely on the person because I unfortunately don't know if the person is a rabbi or just expert. I just want more opinions on that.But still thank you. Jul 28, 2022 at 16:00
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    And how can you rely on random internet users who respond to this question
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    Jul 28, 2022 at 16:31
  • Some of them have a really high reputation. I believe the person in the other post. Jul 28, 2022 at 16:51
  • @Kindnoachs ooooh someone has a special someone in their life am I right😂 Jul 28, 2022 at 21:10
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    @CuriousYid unfortunately not, but I don't pressure myself, I know that haShem has somebody for me which I maybe soon get to know. Jul 28, 2022 at 21:47

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It must be prefaced that everybody must abide by the laws of the land that they live in. In the context of sexuality; your age, the age of your partner, and the legal age of consent in your country/state, MUST be taken into account.

It’s important to note, that even though the Torah does not prohibit premarital sexual activity for Noahides (with people of the opposite gender who are permitted to them by Torah law), it still doesn’t mean that in the long run, engaging in such activity is a good idea for them.

We read in Genesis (2:18) that God says; that it’s not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helpmate for him.

This means that man needs to have a steady companion in life; not just someone to hang out with on weekends, or to have a fling with here and there.

Lust fulfillment, without long term commitment, doesn’t help man to be not alone.

Dating is about forming a meaningful connection, and a real relationship with the other gender. Getting physical, before a real relationship has developed, greatly diminishes the odds of such a relationship ever developing.

Casual sex also cheapens the sex act into something transactional, which in the long run, hinders a person from being able to enter into long term relationships that are not built solely on lustful attraction.

Therefore, while occasional premarital sex might take care of your immediate sexual urges, for now, nevertheless it’s only a temporary fix.

You need to look with maturity at the bigger picture, which includes learning life skills, in preparation for married life. One very important life skill; is learning a trade, through which you can provide for yourself and your family. Other life skills include becoming a better person through character development, and learning how to get along with people, in all types of life situations.

If you work on this, people will notice how you stand out and excel in these areas, which overall, will make you into a more desirable marriage prospect.

  • I don't look at sex as just a fun hobby I want a real relationship which leads to marriage and of course would treat my wife/partner the best I can. As I mentioned I don't just want intercourse I want a wife/girlfriend to love and live with forever. Jul 28, 2022 at 19:56
  • @Kindnoachs You’re a red blooded male, and it’s normal to have sexual desires. It’s also convenient to have someone to love and live with forever; because that enables you have easier access to fulfilling your desires. If that is your primary goal, then you need to give it your best shot, which in my opinion involves developing a deep relationship with her as a person, and can only be accomplished through abstinence before marriage. But as a Noahide, that is your own personal choice, and the Torah leaves it up to you to work out what you think is the best approach for you. Jul 28, 2022 at 20:34
  • I am very thankful that you helped me so much. If I soon find maybe even my dream girl/wife, than I believe it is very important to get to each other very well, after that I believe it even can be good to have intercourse to strengthen the bond each other, what is your opinion on that? Jul 28, 2022 at 20:59
  • @Kindnoachs In my opinion, if someone is not enough of an adult to get married, that means that they’re not considered mature enough to take responsibility for their actions. Therefore they should not engage in adult behavior, such as marital relations, which requires an extreme level of personal responsibility. Jul 28, 2022 at 21:23
  • Do mean by "an adult" the age or just how ripe the person is. Jul 28, 2022 at 21:46

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