Premarital relationships for noahides [duplicate]

Question

Shalom, I am a 16 year old noahide and therefore quite young. I want to ask if it is permissible for a noahide to premarital relationships (of course only with the opposite gender and therefore sexual intercourse to). With sexual relationships i mean "true love" like husband and wife. Furthermore do I have to live with the person in one home or not (I obviously am too young to afford myself a home). I thank you a lot!

Answer 1

It must be prefaced that everybody must abide by the laws of the land that they live in. In the context of sexuality; your age, the age of your partner, and the legal age of consent in your country/state, MUST be taken into account.

It’s important to note, that even though the Torah does not prohibit premarital sexual activity for Noahides (with people of the opposite gender who are permitted to them by Torah law), it still doesn’t mean that in the long run, engaging in such activity is a good idea for them.

We read in Genesis (2:18) that God says; that it’s not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helpmate for him.

This means that man needs to have a steady companion in life; not just someone to hang out with on weekends, or to have a fling with here and there.

Lust fulfillment, without long term commitment, doesn’t help man to be not alone.

Dating is about forming a meaningful connection, and a real relationship with the other gender. Getting physical, before a real relationship has developed, greatly diminishes the odds of such a relationship ever developing.

Casual sex also cheapens the sex act into something transactional, which in the long run, hinders a person from being able to enter into long term relationships that are not built solely on lustful attraction.

Therefore, while occasional premarital sex might take care of your immediate sexual urges, for now, nevertheless it’s only a temporary fix.

You need to look with maturity at the bigger picture, which includes learning life skills, in preparation for married life. One very important life skill; is learning a trade, through which you can provide for yourself and your family. Other life skills include becoming a better person through character development, and learning how to get along with people, in all types of life situations.

If you work on this, people will notice how you stand out and excel in these areas, which overall, will make you into a more desirable marriage prospect.