If two people have intercourse, can it sometimes be considered that they are now married on some level, or in any sense? I don't remember the sources, but there is a concept that a man gives a part of himself, or his soul, don't remember the exact term, to a woman when they have intercourse. My questions are:

  1. Does the woman also give a part of her soul to the man she sleeps with?
  2. Can intercourse be considered marriage without them getting married, or even any talk of marriage, if on a spiritual level, intercourse means you are physically united as one, and marriage is meant to be that on a spiritual level, so if there is also some exchange on a spiritual, soul-level from intercourse only, then have any chazal ruled that intercourse is akin to marriage in any sense? Or are there no opinions that state anything of the sort?

If not, an equally helpful way to approach the question would be, "What is the spiritual status and change of a man and woman who have intercourse, but are not married, in a scenario when they are in love but not married, and maybe can't get married for circumstances outside their control, and also, in a scenario when they are not in love?"

Thank you

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    There is no need of a Rabbi for a marriage. Only two witnesses ar needed. An intercourse that appened without marrital intention is nothing from marrital point of view. That is called Biat Zenut.
    – kouty
    Apr 4, 2022 at 5:37
  • Thanks. Can you translate Biat Zenut (with short summary if meaning is not clear from its name?) Maybe I should change the question to, "what is the spiritual status of a man and woman who have intercourse, but are not married?" Apr 4, 2022 at 5:39
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    There is no Jewish notion of transient marriage. I.e. all marriage is permanent. Therefore, if cohabitation is done with the intention that this act will create marriage, then the two are married. If not, then they are not, even if the couple lives together for many years. This is the halachah. Kabbalah never disagrees with halachah, it only provides an inner rationale.
    – pcoz
    Apr 4, 2022 at 5:46
  • It's not allowwed to make marriage by intercourse, from a rabbinical prohibition. Zenut addresses sexual intercourse without marrital intention in this case.
    – kouty
    Apr 4, 2022 at 5:47
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    – kouty
    Apr 4, 2022 at 5:49


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