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According to this (https://asknoah.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=2027), Noachides are not permitted to have premarital hookups. Sex is permitted in a permanent/long-term relationship, which is considered equivalent to marriage. But is there a minimum length of time for such an arrangement? Can a person engage in relations if she stipulates that the relationship will last for a week, or until both parties decide to move on, and so forth.

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  • That would depend on the societal rules for a divorce. A marriage lasts until death or a divorce ends the relationship. Aug 6, 2021 at 18:51
  • If both parties agree to move on, or even one party, the "marriage" is nullified with that.
    – Chatzkel
    Aug 6, 2021 at 19:37
  • The Gemara Yoma 18b says that Rav and R Nachmsn married women for 1 day and then left them, with no need for divorce. Although most commentators explain that they were never really married, the Yavatz explains that they were married as a pilegesh. So we see that a pilegesh could be four a specific account of time. The Rambam Ishus 1;6 sends to indicate that marriage like a pilegesh would be allowed for a Noachide, just like people before the Torah.
    – Chatzkel
    Aug 6, 2021 at 21:45

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I know of no Halachic problem with a Noahide having premarital hookups with non-Jewish women; including “one-night stands”.

The thesis posited in the linked article; that for Gentile men, having sex without the bond of marriage “is deemed to be immoral and disdainful in G-d's eyes”, is not supported by any Halachic sources.

The article later appears to backtrack a bit, and states, “Although such relations are not clearly forbidden for Gentiles, it is a repulsive act, even if done in a temporary fashion.” This is an admission that the author has not clear source that forbids gentiles from engaging in such relations. Again, his pejorative assertion, that even for Gentiles, it is a repulsive act; is also not sourced in Halacha.

Non-Jews do not necessarily need to be married, in order to be allowed to engage in sexual intercourse. See Maimonides (Yad, Ishus 1:4) regarding harlotry between Noahides, and there is no apparent fault in a non-Jew paying a sex worker for her services.

Also in his Guide to the Perplexed (3:49) he says that prior to Sinai, having relations with a sex worker was a permissible act, on equal moral footing of an Israelite, post-Sinai, having relations with his wife.

Maimonides (ibid.) refers to the story of Judah and Tamar (Genesis 38), and explains that the “shame” mentioned there (v. 23) merely refers to the fact that even in their society, matters of sexuality were best left un-discussed. Judah was also concerned that he would loyally fulfill his contractual obligation of paying the harlot for her services, and neglect to do so would constitute a form of theft.

While non-Jews are not necessarily considered to be married, even if they engage in sexual intercourse, however if a Noahide is interested in having a longer-term relationship, then that might be considered the Noahide equivalent of “marriage”. That will have Halachic implications, in that the woman can’t have any relations with other men during this time period, as long as she’s considered married to her current sexual partner. The time period of Noahide “marriage”, is until one of the parties decides dissolve their relationship [see Maimonides (Yad, Melachim 9:8)].

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  • Yeah. If the classical sources said that prostitution was allowed, kind a big leap for AskNoah (they're Lubavitch Hassidic by the way) to go on a tirade about "hookups", while in a footnote saying "okay not prohibited..."
    – Shalom
    Aug 8, 2021 at 16:25
  • @Shalom Regardless of the religious affiliation of the writer, the linked article is erroneous, as it implies Gentiles are obligated to refrain from sexual actions that may not be considered punishable in a Torah-based court of law, but nevertheless are abhorrent to G-d and a departure from the ways of upright, pious living. The truth is, that granted that moral standards are very noble and idealistic. However if Hashem didn’t command Gentiles to adhere to these certain standards, then pretending that these standards are mandatory for them, is a distortion of Torah, and a sin in itself! Aug 8, 2021 at 17:12
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    @IsraelReader I'm an Italian Noahide, and I 100% agree with your excellent answer. "The Divine Code" is certainly a good book, but it has the limit of mixing the Halakhah with moral or self-styled considerations, which have nothing to do with legal questions.
    – Amos74
    Aug 8, 2021 at 17:38
  • @Shalom I tried to leave a comment on the AskNoah website, However you need to be a member to be able to comment. When I tried to register, I got the following message: Sorry, but you cannot register at this time because the administrator has disabled new account registrations. Aug 8, 2021 at 19:23
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    Thank you for your answer. Rav Dovid Schochet concurs that gentile relationships form and break at will, without any minimum period necessary. And wow, I commend you guys for your commitment in uncovering and investigating the truth. Aug 10, 2021 at 7:24

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