A question for those out there who try and guard their tongues, but more apropos here, their ears!
When I hear loshon hara, I think to myself “I don’t want to hear this, but how do I say it?” It’s not always (ever) easy for me to straight out say “I do not want to hear or speak Loshon Hara.” Admittedly, I get a little uncomfortable saying that.
I have found, due to that the awkwardness, that I end up listening to Loshon Hara instead of saying anything that might be awkward, which is far worse.
So, MY community, my question to everyone is:
Have you found a way that you are comfortable telling a friend or family member that you do not want to hear or speak Loshon Hara without feeling uncomfortable?
P.S. I know an answer could be: “just tell them and don’t be uncomfortable!” If I could, and maybe one day, I would. However, I am looking for a way to say it that is easy and not awkward, but at the same time gets the point across that I am not interested in this conversation.
So... tell me what you say when you do not want to hear Loshon Hara!