My mother is Jewish and I was raised Jewish. My dad converted in the reform tradition and I know what that means. Recently he's become ill, I am scared of what that means. I am incredibly close with both of my parents. They have been married just over 45 years and I am struggling to come to grips with their mortality as they age. How do I daven for a non-Jew in times like these. To put it into context, my father is seeing an oncologist tomorrow and I have a good idea of the outcome. Any wisdom or guidance would be helpful.


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The standard approach is to Daven for him as (name) ben (father's name) based on the Maharshal, although there are other customs.

See here and here for example.

See also Yechaveh Da'as 6:60 for more on praying for a non-Jewish parent.

Wishing him a speedy refuah sheleimah and may you all share many more years of excellent health.

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    Thank you for your kind and quick answer.
    – Channan
    Commented Nov 19, 2020 at 14:06
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    My pleasure. And if you want to drop the name in the comments, I would be happy to Daven for him and I'm sure many of the other generous and helpful Mi Yodeya users would as well.
    – Eliyahu
    Commented Nov 20, 2020 at 4:06
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    Agree. To clarify, his first or first and middle name and his father’s first name please.
    – Damila
    Commented Nov 20, 2020 at 4:17
  • Could you find this Maharshal for me. I couldn't when they were quoting it for Trump
    – robev
    Commented Nov 20, 2020 at 6:31

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