Does anyone know of any good shiurim or sefarim to get someone to stop using the internet for bad?
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OPTION 1 - Web Chaver
You might want to consider using Web Chaver.
Essentially you designate a good/trustworthy friend as your 'chaver' and they receive a weekly summary of any potentially risky sites that you may have visited. The fact that you have someone basically checking up on you, is a good form of 'shmira' in unto itself. Or to quote them:
WebChaver uses the power of a good relationship to help keep you safe online & offline. And of course not only friends, but a parent, spouse or even Rebbe make an excellent chaver too!
The software works in four-steps:
1) Screen Monitoring - The software periodically captures screenshots of your screen activity, even while offline, and stores them securely on your device.
2) Screenshot Analysis - Advanced artificial intelligence analyzes those screenshots, on your device, for explicit or questionable imagery.
3) Screenshot Processing - The software rates the images, blurs them to protect your privacy, then prioritizes them based on content.
4) Activity Reporting - Your weekly report, sent to your chaver, includes a rated selection of blurred screenshots, any circumvention attempts and other activity providing a complete accountability solution.
It has several high-profile haskamos here.
OPTION 2 - TAG
Technology Awareness Group (TAG) is an international organisation geared to helping filter all electronic devices. You can see all their centres and contact numbers here. You can either take your devices or they can come to you and help make your phone / laptop etc. internet safe.
A quick snippet from the UK site says:
TAG – an acronym for Technology Awareness Group – is a global organisation founded in 2009 by the Vaad Le’Tohar Hamachna – which was a coalition of Rabbanim lead by Rav Matisyahu Solomon Shlita and the Skulener Rebbe Shlita. TAG was established in light of concerns raised at the Kinus Klal Yisroel, about the hazardous nature of modern technology and specifically the internet. TAG’s mission is to keep the public informed of the continuously evolving and precarious nature of the internet and modern technology. Additionally, TAG provides guidance and assistance to the public via the TAG Hotline, local TAG Offices, marketing, consulting, outreach, public events, seminars, training, and filter drives.
TAG operates globally with 42 locations and hundreds of volunteers worldwide. The TAG Hotline is staffed by volunteers 20 hours a day, answering calls and queries pertaining to the internet and technology related questions.
TAG volunteers are able to install and configure many different filters on numerous device types and operating systems. TAG volunteers also provide filter related purchasing advice and respond to complex queries via phone and email.
TAG offers physical or software based removal of FM radio capabilities for many MP3 players, and WiFi removal from cameras, laptops, computers and other devices. TAG can also remove or disable video recording features on select camera models upon request.
A few Shiurim to get one started...
On Guard Your Eyes - over 400 shiurim available via phone.
YU Torah - 'SHMIRAS EINAYIM - a little less curious, a lot more s'char' by Rabbi Noam Singer
Teshuva on Shovevim - Shemiras Einayim - Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein
Some English seforim that may be of interest are as follows:
Positive Vision: Real-World Strategies for Shmiras Einayim by Rabbi Avrohom Neuberger. (You can view some sample pages on the linked page)
The blurb reads as follows:
Shemiras eiynayim? Kedushah? They are fantastic concepts - for tzaddikim. But for me? The first thing you should know is: You can do this. The second thing you should know is: You will be much, much happier.
With hundreds of thousands of copies in print, The Chofetz Chaim: A Lesson a Day taught us how to make shemiras halashon an integral part of our lives. ,Now the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation, which produced A Lesson a Day, shows us that shemiras eiynayim, even in today's world - especially in today's world - is both vital and doable.
These daily readings pack a powerful punch. They're short, illuminating, practical, often funny, and always right on target.
What is kedushah and how do we acquire it? What is the single most effective way of avoiding temptations? What factors make it harder to "just say no" ? Positive Vision offers strategies and insights based solidly on Torah hashkafah combined with a deep understanding of the challenges we face in today's world.
In the past years Klal Yisrael learned that guarding our tongue leads to innumerable benefits in our personal and communal lives. Now, with the help of these daily readings, we'll enrich every facet of our lives. And, yes, we'll learn to tap into the kedushah that is the birthright of every Jew.
The Practical Guide to Shemiras Einayim by Rabbi Shaul Wagschal
A halachic guide for men
The immodesty that surrounds us presents one of the most formidable challenges of our time.
How do we protect ourselves?
The answer is: Take the first step and learn the halachos of guarding your eyes.
Reb Yisroel Salanter advised that one of the best ways to overcome the yetzer hara is to study that subject’s halachos. This invaluable guide by renowned author and posek Rabbi Shaul Wagschal, z”l, provides a clear and simple way to do just that.
Features a helpful halachic summary chart!
Enlighten Our Eyes by Rabbi Yosef Shlomo Goldschmidt
The sefer "Veha'eir Eineinu" has inspired and encouraged people from a wide-spectrum of backgrounds to strengthen their commitment to Shmiras Einayim. 80,000 copies have been published making it a popular and unique classic.Rabbi Zev Leff, Rabbi of Moshav Matityahu, wrote the following: "The author deals with a sensitive but necessary subject in a most delicate, refine and masterful manner. He presents solid practical advice as how to achieve this most important quality. I highly recommend this work to everyone who wants to be aided in fulfilling this crucial area of Torah observance. I commend Rabbi Goldschmidt for a truly magnificent contribution to Torah literature."