I'm asking this question as a follow up to my other question - Honoring a parent vs. Shalom Bayit - which has priority?
The main answer given in that question indicates that honoring one's parents generally has extremely high priority. However, when that conflicts with the observance of a Torah law, then, one should not listen to the parents.
With these conditions in mind, I'd like to follow up with a practical question.
Elder care is a huge concern for the "sandwich" generation. Families have to make difficult decisions between their own family's "health" and their parents. The problem is compounded when parents live some distance away.
In viewing the answer in the linked question, there seems to be "equal weight" Torah commandments between educating your children and honoring your parents.
So, assume that someone's parents requests that that the child live with them so that s/he can care for them, and assume that they do not want an aide or others to do this job. With these two "equal" Torah commandments in mind, can a child absolve himself of honoring his parents request completely (i.e. living with his parents, specifically)? Can / should s/he find an aide or place them in a nursing home so that someone else can care for them, and override his parent's objections? And, can s/he absolve him/herself of other solutions if the parents insist on no other solution other than his living with them?