I once heard that when you start raising a child while the child is still under the age of 2, there is less concerns about Yichud later on. I have not found any source for this and was wondering if anyone ever heard of this and from where this is coming from.

I assume that this is based on the following:

כל המגדל יתום בתוך ביתו מעלה עליו הכתוב כאילו ילדו" (גמ' בסנהדרין דף י"ט ע"ב). משמע שדינו של המגדל (מאמץ) כדין יולד. השאלה היא האם זה "כאילו" ילדו, או "ממש" ילדו. ונפ"מ לאיסור ייחוד.

There are alot of sources confirming that and some even say that it counts for Pirya Veribya, and many sources explains that "Hamegadel Yusom" does not necessarily have to be someone that don't have a father.

But the "age" is not mentioned anywhere. I can imagine that if you take in a 18 year old boy it won't be considered "raising" him, so it has to be a starting point...

Any help would be much appreciated.

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    For others - the text you quote comes from mygod.co.il/אימוץ-ילדים-בסיכון-לאור-ההלכה but I can't see who this is. – Avrohom Yitzchok May 30 '19 at 16:08
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    Where is your quote from? – DonielF May 30 '19 at 16:39
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    FWIW the Shulchan Aruch brings down that Yichud is permissible with a girl under 3 and a boy under 9 (EH 22:11), but nobody AFAICT qualifies this ruling with “if they were familiar from before then they can continue secluding themselves after.” OTOH I recall a Midrash which quotes a woman who said that a man she grew up with rejected her in favor of a less-pretty woman, because since he knew her in her youth, she was less pretty in his eyes. – DonielF May 30 '19 at 16:47

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