If your parents pay for you to go to school and you ditch, is that stealing?

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I don't think it would considered pure stealing of money, though it might be.

Certainly, however, one who skips school when one's parents believe that they are attending is committing 'geneivas daas' by misleading their parents. This is derived from the prohibition of stealing found in the Torah (Leviticus 19:11).

  • "Be holy?" That's not explicitly about stealing. Could you flesh out your derivation a bit more?
    – Isaac Moses
    Apr 16, 2010 at 14:25
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    I think he meant 19:11, "לא תגנובו". (The prohibition against stealing in the Ten Commandments - or Ten Declarations, as you prefer to call them - refers to kidnapping, so that's not relevant here.)
    – Alex
    Apr 16, 2010 at 18:16
  • Yes, I meant 11. Sorry.
    – Tzvi
    Apr 18, 2010 at 3:34

How can it be stealing? Stealing requires that the thief walk away with something to which he is not entitled. All the kid gets here is free time. The cost to the parents is the same, so he can't be stealing their money.

He is, on the other hand, wasting their money. It seems analogous to taking the dinner he was served and throwing it out. It isn't theft because he was given the food freely, but he is not using it in the way it was intended. Arguably, a plate of food is a gift on the condition that it be eaten, in which case it could be theft, but this seems a slightly unusual understanding. I don't think parents think, "This is a gift on condition" when paying tuition or when making dinner.

  • Do they have to actively think it for the condition to take effect?
    – Double AA
    Aug 24, 2012 at 18:30

I would be interested to know if their was any actual halachic literature on the subject but it seems to me the answer is pretty clearly no.

Parents pay for a service, that their children obtain an education, not for a continuous task to be preformed like an assembly line. In other words every moment in the classroom does not translate into a moment of education and this is understood by all involved. While a certain amount of time is generally required to reach the goal, achieving the goal is a process and it is possible to "catch up" after an absence.

This is not to deny that skipping cannot have negative consequences or that it is not inappropriate, but it seems to me that it is inappropriate for what it is, skipping, without needing to make it into something else.


absolutely! one who skips school on purpose with no significant reason, is stealing from their parents money. also a student who disturbs his/her class is stealing, no only from his, but also everyone Else's parents money! -any world-

  • If a student disrupts a class in a public school, is that not considered as stealing "time" from the learning, even if it's a secular class.
    – Ken
    Apr 18, 2010 at 12:12
  • If it is stealing then what difference does it make if they have a "significant reason" short of pikuach nefesh?
    – Yirmeyahu
    Aug 24, 2012 at 23:08

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