I think that my answer to Invited to Engagement of Girl intending to marry out: Attend/Not-attend? also applies here. The quote is from A People of Destiny

Note that "The Rav" referred to below is Joseph B. Soloveitchik who is called "The Rav" by those who learned at Yeshiva Rabbi Yitzchak Elchanan (Yeshiva University).

With this same compelling line of reasoning in mind, the Rav was also equally adamant that subsequent to the wedding intermarried "couples" must not be included in family gatherings or invited to family semachos, and the like. Inviting the couple as such eo ipso acknowledges and accepts their illicit marriage. Under no circumstances may this acceptance be forthcoming. Let us not delude ourselves into thinking that we would be simply maintaining relations for purposes of kiruv. To the contrary, we are being m'sa'yai'a yedei ovrei aveira, strengthening the hands of those living in sin and creating a chilul Hashem.

May Hakadosh Baruch Hu save us from nisyonos and guide us all along His path of Torah u'mitzvos.

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Of course as Rabbi Avigdor Miller, Rabbi Berel Wein, and others point out, a rav who is an expert in situations of this type should be consulted about the specific case. However, since the man in question is not and cannot be considered to be married to her (no matter what she thinks) one should be very careful to not let it be thought that the situation is being accepted.

I think that my answer to Invited to Engagement of Girl intending to marry out: Attend/Not-attend? also applies here. The quote is from A People of Destiny

Note that "The Rav" referred to below is Joseph B. Soloveitchik who is called "The Rav" by those who learned at Yeshiva Rabbi Yitzchak Elchanan (Yeshiva University).

With this same compelling line of reasoning in mind, the Rav was also equally adamant that subsequent to the wedding intermarried "couples" must not be included in family gatherings or invited to family semachos, and the like. Inviting the couple as such eo ipso acknowledges and accepts their illicit marriage. Under no circumstances may this acceptance be forthcoming. Let us not delude ourselves into thinking that we would be simply maintaining relations for purposes of kiruv. To the contrary, we are being m'sa'yai'a yedei ovrei aveira, strengthening the hands of those living in sin and creating a chilul Hashem.

May Hakadosh Baruch Hu save us from nisyonos and guide us all along His path of Torah u'mitzvos.

Copyright © 2003 by The TorahWeb Foundation. All rights reserved.

Of course as Rabbi Avigdor Miller, Rabbi Berel Wein, and others point out, a rav who is an expert in situations of this type should be consulted about the specific case. However, since the man in question is not and cannot be considered to be married to her (no matter what she thinks) one should be very careful to not let it be thought that the situation is being accepted.

I think that my answer to Invited to Engagement of Girl intending to marry out: Attend/Not-attend? also applies here. The quote is from A People of Destiny

Note that "The Rav" referred to below is Joseph B. Soloveitchik who is called "The Rav" by those who learned at Yeshiva Rabbi Yitzchak Elchanan (Yeshiva University).

With this same compelling line of reasoning in mind, the Rav was also equally adamant that subsequent to the wedding intermarried "couples" must not be included in family gatherings or invited to family semachos, and the like. Inviting the couple as such eo ipso acknowledges and accepts their illicit marriage. Under no circumstances may this acceptance be forthcoming. Let us not delude ourselves into thinking that we would be simply maintaining relations for purposes of kiruv. To the contrary, we are being m'sa'yai'a yedei ovrei aveira, strengthening the hands of those living in sin and creating a chilul Hashem.

May Hakadosh Baruch Hu save us from nisyonos and guide us all along His path of Torah u'mitzvos.

Copyright © 2003 by The TorahWeb Foundation. All rights reserved.

I think that my answer to Invited to Engagement of Girl intending to marry out: Attend/Not-attend? also applies here. The quote is from A People of Destiny

Note that "The Rav" referred to below is Joseph B. Soloveitchik who is called "The Rav" by those who learned at Yeshiva Rabbi Yitzchak Elchanan (Yeshiva University).

With this same compelling line of reasoning in mind, the Rav was also equally adamant that subsequent to the wedding intermarried "couples" must not be included in family gatherings or invited to family semachos, and the like. Inviting the couple as such eo ipso acknowledges and accepts their illicit marriage. Under no circumstances may this acceptance be forthcoming. Let us not delude ourselves into thinking that we would be simply maintaining relations for purposes of kiruv. To the contrary, we are being m'sa'yai'a yedei ovrei aveira, strengthening the hands of those living in sin and creating a chilul Hashem.

May Hakadosh Baruch Hu save us from nisyonos and guide us all along His path of Torah u'mitzvos.

Copyright © 2003 by The TorahWeb Foundation. All rights reserved.

Of course as Rabbi Avigdor Miller, Rabbi Berel Wein, and others point out, a rav who is an expert in situations of this type should be consulted about the specific case. However, since the man in question is not and cannot be considered to be married to her (no matter what she thinks) one should be very careful to not let it be thought that the situation is being accepted.