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Dec
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comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
I have heard it from a few friends... one friend (a baalas tshuva) said she complained to a rabbi about her husband never sleeping in her bed. She said the rabbi seemed surprised by the question and indicated that the practice was normal.
Dec
31
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
In the English link, the footnote said "sleep with him" means "in one room", so it actually seems to reinforce the concept that they are in separate beds, even during the days of purity
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@sabbahillel, no
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@DanF, the term "never" is correct. They never sleep in the same bed. I didn't say they never occupied the same bed temporarily to have relations. Please correct your answer to remove your misunderstanding of my question.
Dec
30
comment Hamapil immediately before sleep, but what about undressing?
I heard of a yeshiva where the rule was to say HaMapil in the Beis Medresh, in order to prevent socializing in the dorms at bedtime. Clearly they did not think the interruption was a vital issue
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@NBZ, please explain this "prishus" and if it is halachic and what the source is
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@NBZ, that's what I meant by "give it up"... they get married and aquire the possibility... by never doing it, they are "giving up" that possibility... just like if I offer you a position but you turn it down, you are "giving up" the opportunity I provided you
Dec
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revised married couples never sleeping in the same bed
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Dec
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comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@NBZ, yes, that is what I am referring to. So my question remains: is there any source? do these people believe it is halacha? it's very disturbing to me, as it seems the marriage is missing a vital component. I don't understand why a couple would give that up unless there was some halachic reason. Is it reasonable to insist on not following this practice before getting engaged?
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
I did not misuderstand.... these couples do not ever sleep in the same bed, just as I stated in the question. I am not saying it is all Orthodox couples, but I have heard it several times... it may be only the more "yeshivish" and/or "chasidish" ones
Dec
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asked married couples never sleeping in the same bed
Dec
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Dec
29
accepted Wait 6 hours after milk?
Dec
29
comment Wait 6 hours after milk?
Except that it was well beyond one hour from breakfast time... he was in a yeshiva with a schedule... breakfast would have been about 3 hours before this simcha
Dec
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asked Wait 6 hours after milk?
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Oct
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comment What to call the 7th Lubavitcher Rebbe
Yes I have definitely seen non-Lubavich chasidim say "The Rebbe" to refer to their own rebbe. I have even heard them say "The Alter Rebbe" to refer to the founding rebbe of their own chasidus
Oct
3
comment Why were the Tanayim and Amoraim so easily offended?
Each Tanna and Ammora had their own group of "followers", somewhat like today's chassidic rebbes. When their "rebbe" is insulted, the followers could lose respect for the Torah itself, even though another Torah Scholar is insulting them.
Oct
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answered Why were the Tanayim and Amoraim so easily offended?
Sep
29
comment Identifying a chasid
If you are a real levush maven, you don't have to ask