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comment Non-statutory Torah service
I was answering the "is it possible" part of the question. "how this works" ... I don't understand the question.
Jan
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Jan
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answered Non-statutory Torah service
Jan
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comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@SethJ, why is it "appropriate" to not sleep with your spouse? What is the halachic basis?
Dec
31
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
Just having a hard time comprehending how a far-fetched "Maris Ein" or a perplexing claims of "impracticality" or "not tznius" are allowed to upend a major part of married life... sleeping together with your spouse
Dec
31
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
So cuddling in bed is "not appropriate in the bedroom"?
Dec
31
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@yoel, do you know if Chabad is included?
Dec
31
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
I have heard it from a few friends... one friend (a baalas tshuva) said she complained to a rabbi about her husband never sleeping in her bed. She said the rabbi seemed surprised by the question and indicated that the practice was normal.
Dec
31
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
In the English link, the footnote said "sleep with him" means "in one room", so it actually seems to reinforce the concept that they are in separate beds, even during the days of purity
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@sabbahillel, no
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@DanF, the term "never" is correct. They never sleep in the same bed. I didn't say they never occupied the same bed temporarily to have relations. Please correct your answer to remove your misunderstanding of my question.
Dec
30
comment Hamapil immediately before sleep, but what about undressing?
I heard of a yeshiva where the rule was to say HaMapil in the Beis Medresh, in order to prevent socializing in the dorms at bedtime. Clearly they did not think the interruption was a vital issue
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@NBZ, please explain this "prishus" and if it is halachic and what the source is
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@NBZ, that's what I meant by "give it up"... they get married and aquire the possibility... by never doing it, they are "giving up" that possibility... just like if I offer you a position but you turn it down, you are "giving up" the opportunity I provided you
Dec
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Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
@NBZ, yes, that is what I am referring to. So my question remains: is there any source? do these people believe it is halacha? it's very disturbing to me, as it seems the marriage is missing a vital component. I don't understand why a couple would give that up unless there was some halachic reason. Is it reasonable to insist on not following this practice before getting engaged?
Dec
30
comment married couples never sleeping in the same bed
I did not misuderstand.... these couples do not ever sleep in the same bed, just as I stated in the question. I am not saying it is all Orthodox couples, but I have heard it several times... it may be only the more "yeshivish" and/or "chasidish" ones
Dec
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Dec
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Dec
29
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