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Feb
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Apr
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Jan
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comment Kissing the hand to catch a cold?
@Aryeh Yes. Offer the rabbi constructive criticism in private while showing him respect. Softly rebuking the rabbi is in line with the mitzvah of rebuking a fellow Jew so he does not sin, as it says in The Torah הוכח תוכיח את עמיתך ולא תשא" עליו חטא" (Vayikra: 19; 17). In addition the prohibition of "לא תעמוד על דם רעך" - not standing idly by the blood of your fellow" (19; 16) also refers to protecting others from monetary loss or other harm. (See Rambam Sefer HaMitzvos - Prohibition # 297)
Jan
15
comment Kissing the hand to catch a cold?
@msh210 Perhaps. However, if what he has is not communicable (e.g., asthma) and he says he feels sick, he should clarify that he has something non-communicable like asthma. Typically when someone acts sick and says they are sick, it is because they have something communicable and others should be wary to avoid coming into contact with that person. At the very least, they should be chosheish that the person truly has something that can be caught.
Jan
13
comment Kissing the hand to catch a cold?
By the way, I know of someone in Israel who has the flu now. Little babies can be at much higher risk, so if the rabbi - or anyone else - is irresponsible, that can risk the life of a little baby. It is the obligation of a person to act responsibly so as not to cause harm to others.
Jan
13
comment Kissing the hand to catch a cold?
If the rabbi is shaking hands notwithstanding his having a cold (especially at the present when he has a cold), it is likely such advice would not work. Just inconspicuously explain that you don't want to catch a cold. He should understand.
Jan
13
answered Kissing the hand to catch a cold?
Jan
8
answered Can a Jew marry a Free Mason?
Jan
2
comment May we intervene with Religious OCD sufferers?
Context is also important - e.g., a person may think they see a problematic behavior engaged by another person but are incorrect due to lack of context.
Jan
2
comment May we intervene with Religious OCD sufferers?
Exactly. I agree. The distinction is necessary. If a person repeats Hashem's Name contrary to halacha - or violates halacha otherwise due to feeling a need to do so, that may indicate a problem - particularly if a person does this regularly for an extended period of time (e.g., over the period of a few years, for example). When judging whether a person is acting contrary to halacha, it is important that the person doing the "judging" be familiar with the halacha to know whether the other individual is acting in line with any halachically acceptable psak.
Jan
2
comment May we intervene with Religious OCD sufferers?
See added introductory note above the answer. I thought that my answer did not appear to be critical of the questioner. However, sometimes when others review an answer, they may see areas that could use added clarification. I appreciate those comments - יישר כחכם!
Jan
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Jan
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comment May we intervene with Religious OCD sufferers?
I'll add an intro. sentence clarifying that my answer - where critical - is directed at some people who jump to conclusions about OCD - often with faulty basis - and certainly the criticism is not directed at the questioner. Repeating a sentence of davening 20 times - especially regularly - would certainly be different than a person who spends more time on davening because they say more tefillos and try to have added kavanah. Btw, concerning pausing in Shemoneh Esrei there are limitations (not pausing longer than it takes to recite the entire S"E between b'rachos...) limiting duration of S"E.
Jan
2
comment May we intervene with Religious OCD sufferers?
I was making a general statement and did not refer to the questioner as making any problematic statements with respect to people who may have OCD. I did not criticize the questioner. Instead parts of my answer that were critical are directed at some other people (again, not the questioner) who quickly conclude that a person has (or likely has) OCD using as their guide certain behaviors that may not be "typical" - such as a three hour Shacharis (vs. 45 minutes). By Shacharis, I refer to all of the tefillah, as well as additional tefillos associated with Shacharis, some of which are optional.
Jan
2
answered May we intervene with Religious OCD sufferers?
Jun
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awarded  Nice Answer
May
18
comment What are “universal minimum” standards of tznius for halachic purposes?
@AdamMosheh, (1.) There may be cases when we choose a lenient p'sak, if reasonable and well supported, rather than push someone away from observance altogether (see Taz, YD 334). (2.) Distorting sources to arrive at a predetermined, desired p'sak - that's what's outside of the mainstream about it. That approach undermines the integrity of the halachic process.
May
18
comment What are “universal minimum” standards of tznius for halachic purposes?
@AdamMosheh The second basis is that there is a machlokes about whether kol isha is a general issur, or whether it is also assur to recite Shema within earshot of a woman singing. Somehow, the latter opinion morphed into "it is ONLY assur to hear a woman singing during Shema, but in general it is fine." These are examples of why these opinions are "outside of mainstream p'sak," as I said.
May
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comment What are “universal minimum” standards of tznius for halachic purposes?
...The Sridei Eish held that the combination of the following factors should permit youth groups where mixed singing is done: (1.) No single voice is prominent, (2.) the leniency of the Divrei Chefetz (which he found cited in the Sdei Chemed), and (3.) the desperate need for European youth groups for kiruv. Even looking at the Divrei Chefetz by itself, it is talking about hearing non-romantic kol isha without any intent to enjoy it. Somehow, the article morphed this into listening "specifically for the sake of sexual pleasure" or listening to explicitly "lewd songs" and "erotic content."….
May
18
comment What are “universal minimum” standards of tznius for halachic purposes?
@AdamMosheh - Two main reasons are given in the article for permitting listening to kol isha in general. The first is derived from a little known sefer called Divrei Chefetz, which was cited by the Sdei Chemed. The Divrei Chefetz said that, if the person does not listen to the song for enjoyment, it is muttar to hear a woman sing zemiros, dirges, or lullabies to put children to sleep, because these kinds of songs are not romantic. The Sdei Chemed defended the reasoning behind this opinion as sound, but nevertheless disagreed with it and stated that it ought not to be followed….