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I don't think one can visualize the churban bais hamikdash without a change in life and perspective. However, I did hear of a summer camp, which had the kids build forts and other buildings, and then on Tisha B'av the counselors burned it all down, and deestroyed it. This apparently helped the kids gain an appreciation of the feelings of loss with the ...


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Rav Moshe Feinstein (Igrot Moshe OC 1:168) holds that in general one can have a wedding on the night of 17 Tammuz when necessary, but says in that same teshuva that for sure when the fast is Nidche that you can't have a wedding Saturday night. (I assume all other restrictions follow.)


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R. Moshe Feinstein zt"l says (Igros Moshe, vol. 5 (Orach Chaim part 3), no. 80) that one may buy them even during the Nine Days, "because it is solely for the purpose of a mitzvah." (By contrast, he says that one should not buy a new tallis during this time, because it is a garment and is subject to the same laws.)


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I think it helps to study mishnayos or g'mara (Midos, Tamid, Yoma, P'sachim, perhaps others) about the avoda and miracles in the bes hamikdash. (Likewise, the musafos ("yotz'ros" of musaf) of Yom Kipur.) It gives one a feel for what's missing. Reading the ArtScroll kinos helps one focus on the loss and gives an idea of the difference that the churban made ...


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Seth, all of the detailed laws regarding when you don't have to worry about listening to music and when you do are really just applications of a single broader law: When Av comes around, we restrict our joy. Actions that are done for joy are improper. If they are done for other reasons, thats OK. For example, building for joy is prohibited. So I can't ...


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Rabbi Moshe Feinstein says yes, "if needed". (I.e. there's a legitimate reason why you couldn't do the wedding a day or two earlier.) His cousin-once-removed, Rabbi Joseph Dov Soloveichik, said no. Rabbi Soloveichik's argument: "if the Talmud debated whether the fast starts at night, and some later rabbis thought you start saying the fast-day prayers at ...


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The Debriciner, Rav Moshe Stern in Shaalos U'Teshuvos Be’er Moshe 3:77 says it is permissible. The reasoning is that the Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 550:2 says that bathing is permitted on the three fasts (Tzom Gedalia, Asara B’Teves, and Shiva Asar B’Tammuz). Although the Acharonim argue on the Michaber and our minhag is to be Machmir, the Pri Megadim says ...


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There are two reasons for not swimming, one applying more than the other: The Mishna Berurah 549:1 has a piece explaining that the purpose of the fast is a means toward introspection and teshuva. He concludes that those who fast and go on pleasure walks have grabbed the unimportant (tafel) and abandoned the important (ikar). A second point is brought in ...


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The Mishna Berura (OC 551 sk 32) rules that one may shave or take a haircut to look nice for Shabbat if one generally does that action at least once a week.


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Not having a television, and not being a big music guy anyways, I've only seen bits of the program at my fathers house while it was on, and that was many years ago. Nevertheless from memory and/or assumption I would suggest the following issues: T.V. in and of itself isn't so poshut (simple, i.e. it isn't a given that it is permitted in the first place, I ...


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When I was a student at Yeshivat Har Etzion, R' Binyamin Tabory gave a Shi'ur on Ma'aseh Rav, based on the Rav's teachings and Minhagim. When he discussed Sefirah, the Three Weeks, etc., he said that if, hypothetically, one could go to a movie at all (which he did not feel was so simple, for reasons relating to issues of modesty - he said he once went to a ...


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First, let's address the issue of shaving during the 3 weeks generally. According to R' YB Soloveichik, Shiurei HaRav Al Inyanei Aveilut V'Tisha B'Av, pp. 20-21, there is "a basis for shaving one's beard during this period. He contends that the observances of the three week mourning period are patterned after the twelve month period of mourning that one ...


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Nitei Gavriel Bain HaMatzarim page 101 says that one may get engaged during the period of 17 Tamuz - 29 Tamuz, however no music or dancing is allowed. Page 102 says that according to Ashkenazik custom we do not get married the entire 3 weeks, however Sefardic custom is to allow weddings during the period of 17 Tamuz - 29 Tamuz. Page 105 says that one is ...


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Visit. The ruins are still sitting there.


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The Askenazi may attend and fully paticipate in dancing at the wedding (Rivevos Epraim 6:298,Nattie Gavriel 14:10 FOOTNOTE 20)


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 3:1 says that the prohibition of cutting hair beyond 30 days is only for a parent, which requires one to be told that he looks unkempt prior to taking a haircut. For one who is mourning a child or sibling the prohibition is only for 30 days and then may cut his hair immediately after the 30 days whenever he wants because the Aveilus ...


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There are 2 issues. The first is the happiness of wearing fresh clothes. This applies from Rosh Chodesh until after Tish'a b'Av (specifically 1/2 day on the 10th for Ashkenazim). Shulchan Aruch 551:6. Garments meant to absorb sweat are not worn for happiness, but to prevent being uncomfortable. So the custom is to wear fresh pajamas and undergarments. I ...


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From Halachically Speaking (Vol 6, Issue 8), "The Three Weeks": There is a discussion among the poskim if one has to refrain from the actions which are not done during the three weeks from the morning of Shiva Asar B’tamuz or even the night before? Most poskim say that one should refrain from doing these activities even from the night before, from ...


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On the surface level, yes, but more importantly is whether one should. The three weeks are a rather auspicious time and over the centuries Jews have tried to prevent taking on major activities during that time. My recommendation would be to hold off until after 9th of Av, the 15th is especially an auspicious day to get married. There are also questions of ...


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In O.C. Siman 551, the Rema, who extends the issurim of the week of tisha b'av to the previous Rosh chodesh, permits wearing "linen garments" for the honor of Shabbos. [ The Magen Avraham (14) extends this to washing clothes on Thursday for Shabbos. The Magen Avraham then brings the Darkei Moshe who says that the practice was not to wash in honor of ...


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Although people say that one may not go swimming for the first time during the Three Weeks, there is no halachic source for this practice. It is therefore not considered a binding custom and it is permitted without Hataras Nedorim (Piskei Teshuvos 551:46).


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In addition to the other excellent answers, I want to point out one more source because of its direct relevance to the specific question asked. The Talmud records (Megillah 5b) that Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi publicly bathed in the city of Tzippori on the 17th of Tammuz. Tosfot and Rashba there already point out that he was making a public statement that the ...


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See SA YD Siman 245:10, The teacher should not strike him (the student) harshly only lightly. Also see the Mishna (Makkos 8) and the Gemara on it (8b). Also see here and here.


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This article by Rabbi Dr. Asher Meir of the Orthodox Union cites the same Shulkhan Aruch passage, and implicitly rules that it is still in effect.


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For Ashkenazim, it seems that an individual cannot buy furniture during the Three Weeks but a couple or a family can: http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5761/matos.html http://www.torah.org/advanced/weekly-halacha/5765/matos.html Sefardim disagree and do not allow it: http://dailyhalacha.com/m/halacha.aspx?id=947


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Generally, if the music is not for one's specific enjoyment, you can listen to the music. In your scenario, you are not the one listening to the music, anyway - your child is. And, s/he is not even listening for the enjoyment of the music, itself, anyway. Plus, there may even be more leniencies for a child below bar / bat Mitzvah, anyway. In summary, I ...


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I found this: http://shulchanaruchharav.com/The%20Three%20Weeks/default.aspx?_ftnref1 The sources seem to be Mishna Brura: תקנא/טז and Magen Avrohom תקנא\י Kitzur Shulhan Aruch says that it is permissible for someone whose profession is musical instruments to play in a Goy's house, that implies I guess that it's prohibited otherwise. You're right, it's a ...


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Its in the Ben Ish Chai Shana 1 hilchos Tisha ba'av halacha 25 where he brings such an idea.


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I'm copying cmb's clear answer from a similar topic (good chazara): this issue depends on whether you are sefardi or ashkenazi. although a minority opinion holds that if one always has a meaty rosh chodesh seuda then he may do so on rosh chodesh av as well, however the vast majority of poskim - including the chayei adam (133,15) and mishna brura (551, 58) ...



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