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R' Moshe Feinstein in Even HaEzer 4:60 writes that it is absolutely prohibited, not just as a nice practice, but involves a Torah prohibition. Among other points, one thing he writes is that in his understanding of the Rambam, speaking to a woman in an affectionate manner is included in the Torah prohibition of illicit relationships.


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What is Shiduch? Jastrow translates "שידוך" as a "preliminary negotiations" to betrothal (אירוסין). He also cites Kiddushin 12b as the source for his defintion; there, the gemara discusses the case cited in your שלחן ערוך. (he also cites Yerushalmi Kiddushin, which also discusses this case) I heard it also is called the market As for "I heard ...


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Shadchanim often suggested the match, in addition to working out the financial settlements. I reference Gluckel of Hamleyn, a memoir written in the late 1600s/early 1700s. The writer was a wealthy and prominent Jewish woman who lived in Germany in those times. She had many children and was very involved in marrying them off with the appropriate financial ...


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In some more "Yeshivish" circles (this was pretty normal among my crowd in Yeshiva), the custom is to propose with a bracelet, not a ring, and it is usually done with some formulation of "will you marry me." If the "question" is asked, people are careful to do so without any witnesses, to prevent the marriage taking halachic effect. The kneeling thing is ...


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Rashi on Breishit 26:2 (@Yez is correct). Summarizing Rashi and Sifsei Chachamim's emmendations - Yitzhak was considered as a sacrifice (which, he was from the akieda). Sifsei Chachamim says he was considered Kodesh Kadashim ("most holy") and such sacrifices were not allowd to be taken out of the azarah. The entire land of Israel was considered the azara at ...


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Shiduch means a discussion concerning marriage. The mashal my rebbi told me about this was where do you want to live what do you do etc. Basic dating conversation, nothing special really. The flip side is seeing a woman on the street and without saying two words to her first, proposing. How decent does that sound? Does it sound like anything more than pure ...


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This is a responsum of Rabaz (vol. 2: Even Haezer, ch. 21) (of 19th-20th century Romania); not Radvaz (of 15th-16th century Egypt).


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Yes, both R. Chaim Kanievsky and R. Dovid Feinstein have expressed opposition towards this practice, because one can't get to know a picture. See here.


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In my (limited) experience, this is a fairly common thing. Rabbis often meet many different people in the course of their work, and person A might be a woman who has been looking for a match, while person B might be a man looking for a match. Many derivatives of this exist, such as "person A has brother/sister looking for a match," etc. In this case, ...


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Another popular site is JWed. It is different from SYAS in that people contact each other directly, without a shadchan.


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If the boy-girl or parents are not religious, usually they will do it the non-religious way. Your question was on the Satmar community. This process is being done by most Hasiddic communities not particularly Satmar. Also, I'd like to point out that by 2nd marriages, they do go out a lot more and not inside their parents' home. They also communicate ...


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Several of my friends and I, myself, did an informal proposal at the girl's parents' home, at the point that he was interested. I suggest doing this, of course, if there is a high assumption that the girl will agree, otherwise, everyone is in for a lot of embarrassment. Part of doing this, is that it is considered courteous to inform the parents and ...


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If at this park, at that time, it is common that people walk by and there is no block (such as locked passage etc) on the path that leads to it, and the spot at which the couple are is clearly visible, as in most cases of a public park, there is perfect compliance with the Yichud rules. In many Ultra-Orthodox communities, one would not rely on a place where ...


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The relevant Halachot are in the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch in סימן קנב - אסור יחוד ושאר קרבות בנשים (I only [loosely] translated the relevant parts.) :סעיף י"ג כְּבָר הֶאֱרִיכוּ גְדוֹלֵי יִשְֹרָאֵל זִכְרוֹנָם לִבְרָכָה בְּסִפְרֵיהֶם הַקְדוֹשִׁים בְתוֹכְחוֹת מוּסָרִים עַל הַמִּנְהָג הָרַע בְּאֵיזֶה מְקוֹמוֹת שֶׁאֵינָן בְּנֵי תוֹרָה וְיִרְאָה, ...


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Okay, a couple of things going on here. "Shidduchim" translates as "courtship", i.e. dating someone and getting to know them before marrying them. A shadchan is a matchmaker. We say a person is "in shidduchim" or "holding by shidduchim" if they're at the point in life that they're looking to meet someone to marry. You could say: "Sara is looking to find a ...


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One good website: http://shidduchim101.com/writing-shidduch-resumes/ Writing a resume is not a perfect science; you can modify it to fit your personality, background, and hashkafic approach. In general, if you want to put something on the resume, you may; if you don't want to, you don't need to. It may be very helpful to get a hold of several resumes from ...



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