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The Talmud (Bava Kama 92a) states: כל המבקש רחמים על חבירו והוא צריך לאותו דבר, הוא נענה תחילה Anyone who asks for mercy for his friend, and he needs that thing too, he is answered first. So you should consider praying for other people who have predicaments similar to your own. (Inspired by this answer.)
The Talmud says when you look into a prospective girl you should look into her brothers (Bava Basra 110a). Rav Yaakov Kaminetzky is reported to have said that this no longer applies, as it was said in a time when girls stayed in the home and that was their primary sphere of influence. However, today a girl will be influenced by a much broader sphere and ...
The first quality that comes to mind from the Torah is good Midos. Avraham did not want Yitzchok to marry the daughters of Canaan (Breishis 24:3 and Kli Yakar there) since he did not want Yitzchok to learn from their bad Midos. When Eliezer goes to find Rivka his test is if she is a Baalas Chesed, again checking out her Midos. (Breishis 24:14).
Excellent question. Greetings and welcome to J.SE! German and Sephardic Jewish men begin wearing a Tallis many years before marriage; the question if anything is why those of Eastern European ancestry wait until marriage. I'm told that once a man gets married and starts wearing a Tallis, the practice (I wouldn't say "must", but certainly "normative ...
There are number of people one may not marry. This includes non-Jews, close relatives, and married people. For some Jews it also includes converts, mamzerim, divorcees, or others. (Sources include Rambam.) One should make sure that the person one is planning on marrying isn't in any of these categories.
Here is a comment posted by Rabbi Yossi Jacobson, in response to a question on one of his essays: The way I understand it is this: In most cases, when we follow the proper guidelines in life, we marry our “bashert.” But not always. Sometimes people get divorced because it is not the “bashert;” yet it is a necessary step in their journey in ...
For a great resource on various events that happened on Tu B'Av throughout history, check out Larry Domnitch's The Jewish Holidays: A Journey through History. Regarding singles events, he cites the fairs in 16-17th century Poland. On page 113-114, he writes: In those days, matches were often made at fairs where the multitudes gathered. In the book Yeven ...
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