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See Rashi on Gen 3:16 - "And to your husband will be your desire": for intimacy, but, nevertheless, you will not have the audacity to demand it of him with your mouth, but he will rule over you. Everything is from him and not from you. From here we see a woman can hint somehow but not initiate verbally.


I'm not aware of a requirement that one or the other must initiate relations. But it is brought in the Chesed L'Avraham that ideally the woman should. וכן הענין בסוד התשמיש כשהתעוררות בא מהזכר אותו התשמיש אינו לשם שמים כי אם לשם תענוג, ואע"פ שאי אפשר להיות התחלת התשמיש שלא יהיה לשם תענוג מצד זה נולדה הערלה כנזכר לעיל, אבל הזוכה לאשה כשרה שכל תשמיש ...


Tachat Hatapuach orarticha. See Shir Hashirim 8, 5 and see Rashi: מִי זֹאת עֹלָה מִן הַמִּדְבָּר מִתְרַפֶּקֶת עַל דּוֹדָהּ תַּחַת הַתַּפּוּחַ עוֹרַרְתִּיךָ שָׁמָּה חִבְּלַתְךָ אִמֶּךָ שָׁמָּה חִבְּלָה יְלָדַתְךָ׃ Who is this that cometh up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved? Under the apple-tree I awakened thee; there thy mother was in ...


Strictly speaking you would say it is the other way round, the most intense form of intimacy we can experience is a mashal for an intensity of intimacy not able to be experienced in this world. See Rav Gifter's introduction to Artscroll Shir Hashirim.


Very good question. I think that you can find this mashal in almost all prophets (to read haftarot will give a good sample) and in Shir Hashirim See Mishna Yadaym 3, 5: אָמַר רַבִּי עֲקִיבָא, חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, לֹא נֶחֱלַק אָדָם מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל עַל שִׁיר הַשִּׁירִים שֶׁלֹּא תְטַמֵּא אֶת הַיָּדַיִם, שֶׁאֵין כָּל הָעוֹלָם כֻּלּוֹ כְדַאי כַּיּוֹם שֶׁנִּתַּן בּוֹ ...

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