New answers tagged minhag
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I don't know that it is necessarily a Chassidish custom, but it is an Israeli one. Some sources include Orchas Mishpat 1. Yabia Omer 3 Even HaEzer 13, Trumas HaDeshen 2:232, Rashba on Bava Basra 175a and Nahar Mitzrayim 192b.
According to Rav Ovadiah Yosef who sums up most of these sources in his responsa in Yabia Omer the reason to to halakhically ...
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While you have brought no evidence to suggest that it shouldn't be allowed (I believe there is quite a bit, although it's outside the scope of this answer), that's not what happened.
Changes in language occur organically. Compare, for example, Cockney English to the Queen's English to standard American English (and even the latter to Appalachian English).
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No. Cheesecake is just delicious.
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According to the Siddur HaRashash as set forth in Shaar HaKavvanot 89a(the paragraph that starts with the words זהו הסדר).
Tikun Leil Shavuot:
Genesis 1:1-Gen 2:4
Gen 6:6-6:12
Gen 11:30-12:3
Gen 17:25-18:3
Gen 22:22-23:3
Gen 25:16-21
Gen 28:7-12
Gen 32:3-8
Gen 36:41-37:3
Gen 40:21-41:3
Gen 44:15-20
Gen 47:23-28
Gen 50:24-Ex 1:3
Ex ...
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Shulchan Aruch (OC 560:4) states regarding the prohibition on wearing crowns after the destruction of the Temple:
וכן גזרו על עטרות חתנים, שלא להניח כלל, ושלא יניח החתן בראשו שום כליל, שנאמר: הסר המצנפת והרם העטרה (יחזקאל כא, לא); וכן גזרו על עטרות הכלה, אם היא של כסף, אבל של גדיל מותר לכלה; ודוקא לחתן וכלה, אבל בשאר כל אנשים ונשים לא גזרו.
And so ...
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See the Magen Avraham, Orach Chaim 225:4.
He points out a couple things:
It is a Mitzvah for the father to make a Seudah (festive meal) on the day his son turns 13 (enters his 14th year, i.e. not the evening he turns 13, but the next day). This is equal to the obligation to make a Wedding Seudah.
If the son makes a Drashah (Torah speech/lecture) in honor ...
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My rabbinic sources in Rome tell me that there is no written source, but that this is local minhag. --SF
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The Ezras Torah calendar in which the laws are supposed to be based of the opinions of Rabbi Yosef Eliyahu Henkin, gives permission to groom on the Friday before Lag B'Omer but not on the Friday before the three days of hagbalah. I would assume the the difference is because in the latter case the Friday is Rosh Chodesh and many prohibit grooming on any Rosh ...
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I recently heard that Rabbi Elyashiv Zatzal always made a Siyum on Erev Pesach. Once a fellow asked him that he was not a Bechor as his mother had prior miscarriages so why does he make a Siyum every year. He said he knows he is not a Bechor he does it since the Rav is supposed to make a Siyum.
It is quite likely that often a Bechor makes the Siyum since he ...
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Halichos Shlomo 1 1:7 says that a lady who gets married to someone who holds that it is required to wait 3 hours after eating meat before eating dairy, and until now she always held 6 hours, may change her Minhag to her husbands and is not required to do Hataras Nedarim.
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This is an excellent question that is best asked to your local Orthodox rabbi.
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One important aspect of the question, which should not be minimized, is the public humiliation to the bride, who will be mortified that her lack of virginity will be revealed to her friends and family. Chazal say (Berachot 43b) about embarrassing someone in public that it ...
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There are some good websites that discuss the various cantilations, or trope. Wikepedia has a good discussion, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cantillation , there are other sites which explain the various trope.
In summary, the basic trope we use are:
Torah - year round;
Torah - special for Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur;
Haftorah - year round;
Megilla Esther;
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To intentionally read the Ketubah errantly is problematic. Our modern custom of reading the Ketubah comes from two primary halakhot in the Shulhan Arukh:
Choshen Mishpat 45:2
2 If the Head of the Beis Din is familiar generally with the document,
and his personal scribe who he trusts and who fears him reads it to
him, he may sign the Shtar without ...
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For starters: in Ashkenazic custom (which I think the questioner was assuming), the kesubah has already been signed (i.e. executed) before the chupah, so the reading is nothing more than a pause between parts of the ceremony. It's accomplishing nothing of a halachic nature any more than reading the latest stock numbers would be, hence many rabbis have been ...
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The actual dispute is not about which direction to wrap, but the location of the loop through which the retzua is threaded. We find this dispute in the Biur Halacha (27:2 ד"ה המנהג), he quotes the Beis Yosef in the name of the Mahari Ben-Chaviv who holds that while the "yud" should be located at the bottom of the tefillah the loop should be located at the ...
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January 27th is probably the most universally accepted non-Jewish holocaust remembrance day. It is the anniversary of the day that Soviet Troop liberated Auschwitz-Birkenau in 1945. It was designated by the UN in 2005 and as of 2004 at least 12 countries have some type of official observance on this day. Israel has designated this day, not as a holocaust ...
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Rama writes, when discussing how to spell the various Hebrew months in a Get (Shulchan Aruch EH 126:7):
אייר, בשני יודי"ן; ואם כתב בחד יו"ד, פסול, אם לא בשעת הדחק. ויש נמנעין ליתן גט באייר, אך במקום הדחק נותנין וכותבין בב' יודי"ן.
Iyar is spelled with two Yuds. If one wrote it with one Yud, it is invalid except in pressing circumstances. Some ...
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During the week before the wedding the Chasson and Kallah do not see each other, so she can't go to the Aufruf.
Instead they hold a Shabbos Kallah for her. There is no source that I could find that requires this, it's just something people do to make the Kallah happy.
Note that this is an Ashkenazi custom, Sefardim don't have an Aufruf or a Shabbos Kallah.
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The Biur Halacha (136) provides a list of individuals who take precedence for aliyot. Among them he lists a groom on the Shabbos before his wedding and a groom on the Shabbos after his wedding. Based on this, the standard practice is to call a groom up to the Torah on both the Shabbos before and after his wedding.
Among Ashkenazim the Shabbos before is ...
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It's not pleasant, but I've heard one scholar indicate there are sources that the original Ashkenazic custom was to make a big announcement of the wedding in advance to make sure this fellow doesn't already have a wife out there who's unaware of what he's doing.
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This ceremony is an American phenomena, it was invented by caterers and is the only of many creative ceremonies to have "stuck" from the early days of American Bar Mitzvah celebrations in ceremonial halls. You will find it across the spectrum of Jewish groups (including some Orthodox) but will generally only find it in ceremonial halls and not in synagogues ...
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There are different minhagim when to count the days of observing aveiolos and there are those who are machmir and follow all customs.
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The Shulchan Aruch haRav writes (OC 445:7)
ואם לא מצא שום חמץ בבדיקתו טוב לשרוף הכלי שלקח לבדיקה כדי שלא ישכח חובת הביעור לשנה הבאה וגם כדי שלא ישכח לבטל ביטול השני שנתבאר בסי' תל"ד:
If one didn't find any leaven in his search, it is appropriate to burn the vessel which he search with [the next morning] in order that the process of burning [on ...
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Those who do say Tachanun probably do so because 14 Iyar is not listed as a day where Tachanun was customarily omitted by the Tur, anyone quoted in the Beit Yosef or Bach, by the Shulchan Aruch and its Mapah, the Levush, the Eliya Rabba, the Taz, the Magen Avraham, the Beiur haGra, the Chayei Adam, the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, the Mishna Berura and others. ...
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In the Rodelheim tikkun, all the Tanach and Shas parts as mentioned above will be found, but minus any of the Zohar, Sefer HeYetzira, etc. mentioned.
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The Lubavitcher Rebbe (Igress Kodesh vol. 2 pg. 353) quotes the Darkei Chaim VeShalom of Munkatch, that although the eating of the Korban Pesach took place on the night of the 15th of Iyar, since they would offer it on the 14th we customarily eat Matzah then - as the beginning is considered the main thing. (However, the Munkatcher would be careful to eat ...
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Megilas Taanis (perek 2) says that the 14th of Iyar, the day of the shechita of the Pesach, one does not make a hespid. It does not restrict this to those who are bringing the Pesach so it seems that it is a special day for everyone.
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In public one has to conform with the minhag of the place. Like putting on t'fillin on chol hamoed if everyone else does. Minhagim can change like if new people come and they become the marjority. For someone to change like chabad try to make everyone do, cannot be considered right.
Those who visit Crakow and daven in the 'rmo' shul all daven ashkenaz even ...
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In his Luach Hayom Yom, the Lubavitcher Rebbe explains the message of Pesach Sheini: "The theme of Pesach Sheini is that it is never too late. It is always possible to put things right. Even if one was tamei (ritually impure), or one was far away, and even in a case of "lachem", when this (impurity etc.) was deliberate - nonetheless he can correct it." This ...
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