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The prohibition comes from Devarim 22:5, for which Rashi provides commentary as follows. Please click on the image to view "full screen" mode. Rashi is citing from the relevant section of the Babylonian Talmud (b. Nazir 8:1a, II.4.E [Folio 59A]), which appears as follows. Please click on the image to view "full screen" mode. The yellow highlighted area ...


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From Rav Aviner's tshuvot (text) Wearing Wife's Jacket in the Cold Q: Is it permissible for a husband to wear his wife's jacket if he is cold, or is it forbidden on account of "Lo Yilbash" (the prohibition of cross-dressing)? And what about visa-versa? A: It is permissible, since the purpose is not to wear it but simply to warm up (Shut ...


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Besides the multiple practical problems with this approach (including the fact that the woman has to agree to accept the Mitzvos or you have to sell away her within a year, at which point, why won't she just convert?), the Rambam writes (Hilchos Havadim 3:6[4]): אין עבד עברי מותר בשפחה כנענית, עד שתהיה לו אישה ישראלית ובנים, אבל אם אין לו אישה ובנים, אין ...


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Medrash Rabba Vayetze 71 says that he did not divorce Leah since she had children. כיוון שראה יעקב מעשים שרימתה לאה באחותה, נתן דעתו לגרשה, וכיוון שפקדה ה' בבנים אמר לאמן של אלו אני מגרש


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Regarding your assertion that "chosson & kalla shouldn't see each other during the week before the wedding.": You may want to read Rabbi Dr. Ari Zivotofsky 's essay on the subject of What’s the Truth about ... a Chatan and Kallah Not Seeing Each Other before the Wedding?. Basically: "This practice has no basis in Talmudic or medieval writings, and ...


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Dam Chimmud happens whenever she commits to getting married and starts preparing for the Chuppah. (Shulchan Arukh YD 192:2) Nowadays that is usually a few months before the wedding. As long as she counts 7 clean days after that she's fine. (Issues can arise if wedding dates are changed, but seeing each other has nothing to do with it.)


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Dam chimud is from a sudden proposal, not a preplanned event.


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According to Rambam Laws of Idol Worship it is forbidden as it is considered "ornamenting oneself with a man's ornaments": יא [י] לא תעדה אישה עדי האיש, כגון שתשים בראשה מצנפת או כובע, או שתלבוש שריון וכיוצא בו, או שתגלח ראשה כאיש; ... הכול, כמנהג המדינה. A woman shall not ornament herself with a man's ornaments, for example a ritual head wrap or ...


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Answer to question 1: Chabad have an article. Key points: Once inside the room, the couple breaks their wedding day fast. It is also a time when the bride and groom customarily exchange gifts. Many grooms use this time to present the bride with a diamond ring.3 The bride also dons all the jewellery which she removed before the chupah. Chabad ...


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What goes on in a yichud room is really supposed to be no one else's business. That's why is called a yichud room ... But, since you want to know, I can speak from my wedding as well as that of my relatives and close friends: First, in most cases, the chassan and kallah are hungry because they have fasted the whole day, and sometimes, the bit of wine ...


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Remember that man for good and Chanania ben Chizkia is his name for if not for him the seffer Yechezkel would have been hidden, for his words contradict the Torah. What did he do, he brought three hundred barrels of oil and sat in the upper dwelling and expounded. Shabbos 13b. Just so happens that the things that Yechezkel said which contradicted the Torah ...


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According to מעדני מלכים no. 187, citing the כסף משנה to Rambam, Hilchot Avel 2:1 that only things that are "מפורש בתורה ממש," only things that are absolutely explicit in the Torah are considered to be mitzvos on the Biblical level; if it's not absolutely clear, then it is considered to be "מדברי סופרים." He doesn't consider "שארו" to be absolutely ...


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Several of my friends and I, myself, did an informal proposal at the girl's parents' home, at the point that he was interested. I suggest doing this, of course, if there is a high assumption that the girl will agree, otherwise, everyone is in for a lot of embarrassment. Part of doing this, is that it is considered courteous to inform the parents and ...


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In some more "Yeshivish" circles (this was pretty normal among my crowd in Yeshiva), the custom is to propose with a bracelet, not a ring, and it is usually done with some formulation of "will you marry me." If the "question" is asked, people are careful to do so without any witnesses, to prevent the marriage taking halachic effect. The kneeling thing is ...


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The Ba'al HaTanya writes in Torah Or about this Halacha: אך דהנה ידוע שהדבר שברצון נק' פנים ומה שהוא נגד רצונו נק' אחור ובשעת מ"ת היה כל רצון ישראל אליו ית' וכל עניני הגוף היה בבחי' אחור. כמארז"ל על כל דבור פרחה נשמתם ובאמת היה להם גופים. אך לפי שכל עניני הגוף היה בבחי' אחור ונמצא כמו שאין להם גופים וממילא היו בבחי' פנים כמים הפנים וגו' וכמ"ש ועל דמות ...


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See commentary Ohr Hachaim on Breishit 29:28. He explains that it was a belittlement of Leah that she was married by deceit, and this fact would diminish his love for his wife. Therefore, he registered a complaint to Lavan. However, at the same time, Ya'akov was willing to accept what had occurred and didn't attempt to divorce Le'ah. (I'm unfamiliar with ...


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Excellent question. There are many times when we find ourselves in situations which require us to give up what we'd prefer. Agreed. But think about it from Rachel's perspective. She wanted to be married to him! (And my impression is that even after he was stuck with Leah, she still wanted to be married to him.) Rabbi Yaakov Kaminetsky basically makes ...


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The answer is that a Cohen who has relations with a non-Jewish woman is not removed from his sanctity and therefore not permitted to marry a woman who's had relations with non-Jews. רמבם הלכות איסורי ביאה פרק יט:א איזו היא חללה: זו שנולדה מאיסורי כהונה; וכן אחת מן הנשים האסורות לכהונה שנבעלה לכוהן, נתחללה. אבל הכוהן עצמו שעבר העבירה, לא נתחלל. ...


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R' Yosef Eliyahu Henkin (פירושי אירבא סימן ד) held that it does not actually matter if the wedding was valid, as they are living together with intent to be married. Rav Henkin adopted the novel view that even if their intent to be married is not necessarily through Kiddushin, and even if they don't know that consumation of marriage can create Kiddushin, ...


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No. It is completely normal for frum-from-birth Jews to date and marry ba'alei teshuvah (aside, perhaps, from particularly insular charedi groups). The safek mamzer issue arises in very specific and rare circumstances, such as a Jew who was given up for adoption under certain conditions. But in practice, Orthodox rabbis today go out of their way to rule ...


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I've never in my life heard of any rabbi, no matter "how Orthodox" he is, asking a regular person who did not grow up orthodox to show papers to prove he's Jewish - as long as he claims his mother is Jewish. There is a Tosafoth in Tractate Yevamoth that states that anyone appearing before a rabbinical court and claiming to be Jewish is believed absent any ...


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In summary: if we can reasonably ascertain his (or her) maternal Jewish ancestry, and he (or she) wasn't born from a woman who remarried without a proper religious divorce, then there's no conversion necessary. This fellow isn't a "Conservative Jew" who has to magically become an "Orthodox Jew"; s/he's a "Jew" who currently affiliates Conservative and keeps ...



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