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I'd say try anonymously contacting Rabbi Zylberman, who is involved in official Orthodox conversion standards for many institutions; he'll best know what to do (if anything) depending on the specifics of the case. But this is a job for a professional. Though honestly if the new convert is clearly keeping absolutely nothing whatsoever immediately ...


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The Talmud (Yoma 4b) relates: ויקרא אל משה וידבר למה הקדים קריאה לדיבור? לימדה תורה דרך ארץ, שלא יאמר אדם דבר לחבירו אלא אם כן קורהו. מסייע ליה לרבי חנינא, דאמר רבי חנינא: לא יאמר אדם דבר לחבירו אלא אם כן קורהו. לאמר אמר רבי (מוסיא בר בריה דרבי מסיא משמיה דרבי מוסיא) +מסורת הש"ס: [מנסיא]+ רבה: מניין לאומר דבר לחבירו שהוא בבל יאמר, עד שיאמר לו לך אמור - ...


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If you don't mention a name and it's not possible (ever) to work out who you are speaking about, then there's no prohibition of Lashon Hara (see Sefer Chofetz Chaim, Hilchos Lashon Hara 3:4, where this is implied). אסור ספור לשון הרע הוא אפלו אם אינו מבאר בעת הספור את האיש שהוא מדבר עליו, רק הוא מספר סתם, ומתוך ענין הספור נישמע להשומע על איזה איש כון ...


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There are a few different cases here: A. The guy/girl is hiding a severe condition, one that any normal person would need to know about (e.g. untreated severe bipolar disorder). You'd be obligated to proactively tell the other side about this (assuming you're not bound by whatever professional privacy laws), assuming you know what you're talking about, ...


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There's a discussion in the Nishmas Avraham (is that what it's called? the book on the halachos of medicine) about whether someone who had one testicle removed because of a strangulated inguinal hernia, who is IIRC (but see that book to be sure) allowed to marry Jewesses (not considered a פצוע דכא), needs to tell potential spouses about his condition. I ...


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First thing I'd do is consult a local rabbi, who may have a better assessment of the situation. Also, if the word does need to be spread that the place is not recommended, it will probably be more effective coming from him. (He's also likely to be better protected if the restaurant sues for defamation or something.) But for theory's sake (or pretending ...


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You are quite right that a private conversation would be the best path to follow. Because someone does something wrong in public doesn't mean they should necessarily be rebuked in public. StackExchange itself offers no way of initiating a private conversation. Even creating a restricted-access chat room allows anyone to view what you have said. I think your ...


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In the Sefer Ikrei Dinim in the back of the Chofetz Chaim (Klal 3 Number 19 Note 1) the Chofetz Chaim discusses this. The Chofetz Chaim says that if the purpose of doing this is in order for others to learn from it and he is certain that no one will know whom he is discussing then it is permissible. However the person has to be extra careful that no one ...


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With respect to the actual question, one is permitted to lie to protect another person from harm, which would include embarrassment. See Bava Metzia (23b) third item, where one may lie to protect a person from being taken advantage of. See also Sanhedrin (11a) another story where a lie was employed to save another from an uncomfortable situation. See Sukkah ...


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The Shalo Hakadosh (Parshas Vayeshiev) writes that from the words "ויבא יוסף את דיבתם רעה" (Yosef brought evil reports to his father), it seems that Yosef did not fabricate these stories (otherwise it should have said he "made up" the reports). The Midrash relates that Yosef would tell his father that his brothers were guilty of eating meat that was not ...


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Israeli rabbinic courts have attempted to nullify conversions by other courts where they considered that the convert was not sincere at the time of the conversion. The Rabbinical Council of America has objected: See http://blogs.jta.org/telegraph/article/2008/05/06/999936/rca-speaks-out-against-attempts-to-nullify-conversions. In favor of nulification is ...


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This is a rather famous story I believe. R. Hershel Schachter in Nefesh Harav (pg 150) quotes Rabbi Soloveitchik: (loose translation) there's no novelty in saying that the Chofetz Chaim said that one cannot speak lashon hara about oneself (i.e. it's obviously prohibited), because after all, the whole concept of 'maris ayin' shows that a person doesn't ...


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Rabbi Samson Rephael Hirsh - Shemos 32:22 - explains that actually Aharon took the blame on himself by saying that it was not the Jews fault that they made a Egel, they were in a bad situation and I assisted them. כי ברע הוא - אהרן לוקח את כל האשמה על עצמו, וגם אינו מספר על נסיונותיו להשהותם במעשיהם. הוא אומר, כאשר בא העם בהחלטיותו, כפי שהוא תמיד ...


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A point to remember when there is reason to discourage the shidduch is that Lashon Hara for a to'eles is permitted only when there is no other way to achieve the same constructive outcome. My Rosh Yeshivah told us that as a teacher of many eligible bochurim he often received inquiries about the suitability of a particular student. If there was indeed some ...


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Unless you need to protect Beryl from eating in Shmeryl's home or other need to protect Beryl (say from using Shmeryl as a halachic witness) - then I would think not. In light of the fact that the Chofetz Chaim says that you should not even say something good about a person if it may be later construed as bad, it would seem that saying something we think ...


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There are some objective questions that can be asked that may help. BEHAVIOR/ATTITUDE OF STUDENTS How much of the school day/year is devoted to teaching of midot? Does the school arrange activities outside of the school that would encourage good character like field trips to nursing homes for "Bikur Cholim"? A subjective but perhaps more easily ...


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Any question that serves a useful purpose- not just out of curiosity- would be considered l'toelet- for a purpose and likely does not fall under the category of lashon hara. All of that assumes that one is really considering sending a child to the school, and one would need to let the person you are asking know that that is the reason you are asking. (As ...


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Preface: I don't think my answer actually happened, I just like the way the pieces fit together. According to the Talmud in Kesubot (63A), Ben Azzai was engaged to the daughter of R' Akiva. So, assuming the opinion in Masechet Sotah (4B) that Ben Azzai married and later separated from his wife, since "What could he do, his soul desired Torah, let the world ...


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SEFER CHOFETZ CHAIM Day 30 – Without Names All forms of loshon hora are prohibited even when no names are mentioned, if it will be possible for people to determine who is being discussed. Furthermore, if names are omitted but the story will reflect badly on an entire group of people, it may not be spoken. Speaking critically about an unnamed student at a ...


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See http://mi.yodeya.com/questions/258/restraurant-warning If you feel the restaurant quality is poor, then to tell others as much (so they won't get a bad experience) would be "lashon hara for constructive purpose" (l'toelet), just like if someone asked "do you think this would be a good shidduch" or "should I go into business with this guy?". Just make ...


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The OU is a very reliable Hashgacha on which ALL Hashgachos rely. If you eat anything processed in any way then you are eating food that is certified by the OU. They have many big Gedolim who are in charge including Rabbi Belsky, Rabby Genack, Rabbi Schachter and they are absolutely reliable. They may have standards which some people disagree with (Cholov ...


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I would think a critical point here (though not necessarily the only point) would be the concept of lashon hara leto'elet -- something that's necessary to be said for a productive purpose. Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz has a lecture on the subject where he asks if one can be an investigative journalist and stay within the laws of lashon hara. Well, what is the ...


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Artscroll "Chofetz Chaim, A Lesson A Day" book, (page 68) states that derogatory speech may not be said even of someone who allows this to be said about himself, because "to speak negative of one's fellow is shameful in itself". The source for this (endnote 18) is given as Beer Mayim Chaim 2:28. The note further states (my translation from Hebrew): ...


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The following is from a Torah Tavlin parsha sheet (M'tzora 5774): A famous story is told about the holy Chofetz Chaim ZT”L, who sat next to a Jew on a train traveling to Radin. The traveler was unaware of the identity of the man sitting next to him and he mentioned he was going to see the great Tzaddik of Radin. R’ Yisroel Meir protested and said ...


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If what are saying about yourself is in a contrustive way and will help someone else or help yourself to become inlightened and aware of how to change for th positive, then it is permitted to say loshon hara about yourself.. The Chofetz Chaim writes this in his book a lesson a day - loshon hara 2 vol. One should read this to get a better insight Hope this ...


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I think that the general point is that in Halacha, corporations don't exist. Think about it this way: I sell an old laptop on ebay. Am I now corporate? I sell 5 old laptops on ebay. What about now? I sell 5000 new laptops on ebay. yada yada yada I am HP. Am I a corporation now? Even multiple owners doesn't change anyting. If two brothers bought a ...


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Assuming the review is accurate and constructive, it would be 'l'toeles' - for a constructive purpose - even if negative. An analogous case would be informing someone that the person they're doing business with has a history of dishonesty. That being said the Chafetz Chaim has a great deal on how to go about Lashon Hara l'toeles. The best summary I found ...


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First, let's establish that Rabbi Akiva's chidush at the end is not that Jews aren't affected by astrology. That he knew in the beginning just like the previous case of Shmuel. R' Akiva/Shmuel were assuming that the victim could daven and be saved. The chidush at the end was that tzedaka can also save even from an abnormal death. So need R' Akiva tell ...


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If Shmeryl made an active decision to throw Judaism out the window, the Chofetz Chaim says that the prohibition of lashon hara would no longer apply to him. Otherwise, given today's usual circumstances and usual listeners, to say "Shmeryl wasn't raised keeping Shabbat and doesn't (yet) observe it" will neither upset Shmeryl nor harm him (unless he's trying ...


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The Rambam in Hilchot Deot defines Lashon Hara as "something that could harm, upset, or frighten" its subject. The Choftez Chaim accepts that definition. The "unless you need to protect Beryl" (Lashon Hara for a constructive purpose) clause is only needed if the content itself is damaging/upsetting (e.g. "Shmeryl has severe schizophrenia", or even "Shmeryl ...



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