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That specific formulation is certainly not necessary. The Gemara (Kiddushin 5a) has several variant formulations: כיצד בכסף? נתן לה כסף או שוה כסף ואמר לה "הרי את מקודשת לי", "הרי את מאורסת לי", "הרי את לי לאינתו"-- הרי זו מקודשת How does [betrothal through] money work? He gives her money or monetary equivalent and says to her "הרי את מקודשת לי" ...


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The Minhag is mentioned in sources as early as the Teshuvas HaGeonim (Harkavy no. 65) and the Zohar, quoted by the Rama in Even Ha'Ezer 27:1. It is indeed a Minhag, and is quoted as such in many places (such as here, the Nitei Gavriel) The Rogotchover (Rambam Ishus 3:1) gives the custom a creative halakhic basis: today, when Kiddushin and Nisuin are ...


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Rama, Even Haezer 28:17, in my own loose translation: A guest sitting in someone's home who takes his portion of food and weds with it — she is wed. However, Bes Sh'muel there cites Bach and Taz as saying that marriage is effected only misafek (possibly).


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No. The Rambam writes (Ishus 10:6[7]): וחכמים הם שתיקנו כתובה לאישה, כדי שלא תהיה קלה בעיניו להוציאה The sages are the ones who established a Kesuba for a wife, in order that he should not regard it as easy to divorce her. He also doesn't list the requirement of Kesuba in Sefer HaMitzvos as the Mitzvah of Kiddushin. As to why he terms it that ...


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Step One: The Torah talks about "should a man take a woman ..." (Deut. 24:1) which the rabbis interpret as kiddushin. The couple is therefore absolutely not married (at least via kiddushei kesef) unless he gives her a ring (or other item of value), before two kosher witnesses. Age-old practice is to do it under a chupah, though occasionally a couple may opt ...


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It appears that the wedding ring worn on the right hand is originally a European custom. The custom at the chupah is to put the ring of the kallah's right pointing finger not the "ring finger". The "ring finger" on the right and left hand is a custom picked up from the nonJewish inhabitants of a local area. How the Ring Is Given Despite the fact that ...


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Basically, just don't indicate it's for marriage, and don't do it in front of two witnesses. Yes there's complicated discussions brought down about mishloach manot, plus discussions about engagement gifts. At the end of the day, Rabbi Hershel Shachter shlit'a is on the record that the "single guy shouldn't give single lady mishloach manot" concern is a ...


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See Rema Orach Chayim 695, 4 ואשה תשלח לאשה ואיש לאיש אבל לא להיפך שלא יבא איש לשלוח לאלמנה ויבאו לידי ספק קידושין אבל במתנות לאביונים אין לחוש The Machatsith Hashekel explain that this Chashash follows the svara that if he send a special gift called "sivlonoth". they are certainly already married (according Tosfoth Kidushin 50B). This question is ...



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