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Considering the fact that the Torah only writes of one's relationship to one's parents in terms of fear and respect, it would seem that the answer is no (note this Rabbi's answer's bold sentence). The Chayei Adam, however, writes in the beginning of the Laws of Honoring Parents: פשיטא שצריך לאהוב אותם כגופו שהרי הוא בכלל ואהבת לרעך כמוך אלא שבאביו ...


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The Rama 240:25 writes : הגה: וכן אם האב מוחה בבן לישא איזו אשה שיחפוץ בה הבן – אין צריך לשמוע אל האב (מהרי"ק שורש קס"ז). If a father protests a marriage a son does not have to listen. I would assume to get married to a specific girl is also not under kibbud Av.


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Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah 240:11 addresses how to correct a parent when they have made a mistake: ראה אביו שעבר על דברי תורה, לא יאמר לו: "עברת על דברי תורה". אלא יאמר לו: "אבא, כתוב בתורה כך וכך", כאילו הוא שואל ממנו ולא כמזהירו, והוא יבין מעצמו ולא יתבייש. If you see your father violating the Torah, do not say "you have violated the Torah." ...


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Ma'ayaneh Shel Torah quotes the The Chiddushei HaRIM that when Dama ben Nesina lost a huge sum of money because he was honoring his father, it created a Heavenly Accusation against the Jewish people. By giving him a red heifer, G-d showed that while a non-Jew was willing to lose a large amount of money for a Mitzvah that makes sense, the Jews were willing ...


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According to rashi in this weeks parsha, in his second explanation of para aduma from rabi Moshe hadarshan, the para aduma comes to fix the mess from the eigel, just like the maidservant who cleans the mess in the palace that her child made. Accordingly, the para aduma is representative of a good relationship between parent and child. Mr. Nesina was treated ...


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You are obligated to treat them with an attitude of respect, and speak to them respectfully. However, you should still keep shabbos, kosher, and the like, despite their wishes to the contrary. (When it comes to something like a custom or chumra, it can vary.) That means saying "I love you mom, but sorry, I feel that I need to eat kosher", not "mom you ...


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There's a general rule that if a parent asks or makes you violate any halacha, you should not listen to them. As you know, within halacha there are interpretations, minimal requirements and leniencies. You need to have a clear understanding of how these work for each action and situation. So, while I have mentioned a general guideline, there si no tacit ...



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