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Like many things in life, this will obviously depend on the specific situation. For example, if the relevant people understand your lifestyle and why you would be sensitive to this issue before it came up would be a very different question than if they are militantly opposed to your zealous bigotry. I had a close relative marry a non-Jew, and I actually ...


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A few things to consider: People's attitudes toward religion can change over a lifetime. She's not religious now; that could change, especially when children arrive on the scene. You're currently ok with marrying someone not of your religion; what happens if you find yourself becoming more evangelical in the future? (I'm not trying to assume or offend; ...


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For many purposes of Jewish law, Muslims are treated exactly on a par with members of other faiths. Judaism doesn't recognize intermarriage - in either direction - as valid (Code of Jewish Law, Even Haezer 44:8); indeed, a Jewish man would have to be prepared to give up his life rather than have sexual relations with a non-Jewish woman (Shach, Yoreh De'ah ...


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As @GershonGold said, an Orthodox rabbi would not approve your husband's conversion while he is still married to you, and he would not re-marry you afterward, because doing either of these would create an inter-marriage that is a violation of halacha. One possibility is Isaac's from the comments; he could look into Noachide options. Another is this: the ...


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I can see that your Jewish Heritage is important to you. I recommend that as you try to learn more about Judaism, you visit the Aish HaTorah website - http://www.aish.com/ - which has a great deal of information that would likely interest you about Judaism. On the topic of intermarriage, in the Torah (D'varim 7:3), God commands the Jewish people: "And ...


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If only your husband wants to convert, and you do not want to - according to orthodox Jewish law you would be unable to stay married. Even if both of you convert you would have to remarry under orthodox Jewish law. There is no orthodox Rabbi that would disagree with this, even if he is not super frum. In addition a conservative conversion would not be ...


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The current policy of Hebrew Union College - the primary Reform seminary in the United States (and thus I presume the world) - is not to admit rabbinic candidates with non-Jewish "significant others." This policy is currently being questioned in the blogosphere. From their website: Current policy states that applicants who are married to or in committed ...


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Even people who care about kashrut sometimes find it challenging to manage. Asking someone who is not invested in it to maintain a kosher kitchen is, I suspect, very unlikely to work out, no matter how much good will the people start with. In my marriage we have different opinions about kashrut, and what we decided was that, since I care more, I own the ...


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There is no chain of descent. This is similar to the questions about relatives who convert and the various laws of inheritence. A man who has a child by a non-Jewish woman is not considered to have fulfilled the mitzvah of Pru U'Rvu and the child has no connection with him. This is analogous in the case of the person who blasphemed in the desert. The ...


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Q. Judaism consists of many people blindly following what they are told, A. While we have faith and a normative set of rules, there is constant learning, study and questioning. In some ways, Americans who drive the speed limit are simply following what they are told. Q. ...are intolerable of others' lives, A. I don't know why you would think that. While ...


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Sounds like you have a very complicated situation. This may be a job for a therapist. Again, concepts of "sanctuary for repentance" don't really fit with the vocabulary of Judaism. But for theory's sake: at your average Orthodox Union synagogue, if someone shows up and says "I wasn't raised observant, I was previously married to someone not Jewish and now ...


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There are several places in the Talmud which assume she was taken by force, e.g. Megillah 15a: לך כנוס את כל היהודים וגו' עד אשר לא כדת אמר רבי אבא שלא כדת היה שבכל יום ויום עד עכשיו באונס ועכשיו ברצון וכאשר אבדתי אבדתי כשם שאבדתי מבית אבא כך אובד ממך Rashi there: עד עכשיו. נבעלתי באונס: ועכשיו. מכאן ואילך מדעתי: אבדתי ממך. ואסורה אני לך דאשת ישראל ...


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The Torah uses the male form for the words, and the Sages extrapolated from here that male Amonites and Moavites are banned from the congregation, but females are not. It says on Chabad's Ask the Rabbi page that the decree was made against the men because they did no go to greet the Jews with food and drink. (See Devarim 23:5.) This was not expected of the ...


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Halacha recognizes the difference between Jews and non-Jews. "Race" is such a hard-to-define concept that it would be pretty much impossible for any laws to exist in such general terms. You really would need to explain what you mean by "interracial" for us to give a concrete answer, but I would imagine that in any case, the answer to your question is that ...


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The Mishna Berura concludes that even an unmarried woman who has had relations needs to cover her hair, although we won't force her to do so (M.B. 75:11). ובתולות ארוסות אסורות לילך בגילוי הראש וה"ה בתולות שנבעלו צריכין לכסות הראש ומ"מ אם זינתה ואינה רוצה לצאת בצעיף על ראשה כדרך הנשים אין יכולין לכופה


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A proof that one should divorce is Ezra ch. 10 where he tries to encourage everybody to leave their non-Jewish wives, he does not tell them to stay together to avoid the mizbeach shedding tears. Furthermore he makes no distinction between any cases.


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"If she immerses in a Mikveh and a court of three observant Orthodox Jews finds her Giur to be successful, then she is a Jew, right?" Right, though you'd want to make sure the beis din is widely accepted. See the list of RCA batei din (http://www.judaismconversion.org/batei.din.html), or the list of batei din accepted by the Israeli Rabbanut ...


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This is pretty much open-and-shut. Mishna, Kiddushin 3:13. כל מקום שיש קידושין ואין עבירה, הוולד הולך אחר הזכר; ואיזו זו--זו כוהנת לוייה וישראלית, שנישאו לכוהן וללוי ולישראל. ... וכל מי שאין לה לא עליו ולא על אחרים קידושין, הוולד כמוה; ואיזה זה, זה ולד שפחה ונוכרית. Any union which is valid marriage and no prohibition, the child follows ...


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Esther 2:8 uses the term "Vatilakach" - she was taken. While it doesn't clearly imply "forcibly", there are several hints that this was mandatory. One is 2:3 that says that the king should gather EVERY virgin girl. The text alone doesn't state that Esther was married, so she might have been a betulah. Even if we follow the explanations that she was ...


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Let's start with the captive. This only applies when the Kingdom of Israel is going to war. That has to be declared at the national level and has a particular legal status. As an individual I can't do "war", only "self-defense." What's more, Rambam Laws of Kings and Their Wars Ch. 8 spells out that the Jewish soldier is allowed to be with the captive one ...


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I would say that the "engagement" "celebration would probably be seen as accepting the intended "marriage" as valid. One hashkafic discussion of this is in A People of Destiny Note that "The Rav" referred to below is Joseph B. Soloveitchik who is called "The Rav" by those who learned at Yeshiva Rabbi Yitzchak Elchanan (Yeshiva University). Against this ...


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The idea of Bashert is that soul-mates are actually two halves of a single soul. Jews and non-Jews possess different types of souls. Therefore, a Jew and a non-Jew cannot be two halves of one soul, and cannot be Bashert. A convert is a different story. When a person converts, he receives in some way a new, Jewish soul. That soul is considered newly born, ...


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Recommendation: just send your regrets that you will not be able to attend. Explaining your issue will only cause hurt feelings, for no good reason. More generally, I see only a few options. Decline while challenging them directly and definitely hurt their feelings. Or decline without challenging them and let them feel you're trying to be respectful about ...


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To avoid repetition I will address only the relative prohibition of Jews and non-Jews, not the nature of the prohibition of non-Jews discussed fairly extensively in the linked page. At face value the prohibition of a Jewish nidda indeed seems much more severe. However, R. Yaakov Kamenetzky famously held that it was preferable to maintain a relationship ...


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The people you list did not marry non-Jews. Joseph and Moshe married before the giving of the Torah and the wives converted to the religion of their husbands according to the standards and practices of those times. Rus was a convert and the prophet Samuel wrote Megillas Rus in order to show that she had converted legally from the beginning. I show in What ...


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Since you say that your friend is not Jewish, the aobve answer by Toras Emes 613 applies. But since the question itself raises the question that Freemasons themselves are not kosher, I write as follows: As long as the Freemason is a Jew, and one is otherwise eligible to marry him (e.g. not closely-related, or a divorcee and the man is a kohen), there is no ...


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This requires making a distinction between Jewish peoplehood & religion and the Jewish faith: The Jewish faith is a universal one: strict monotheism combined with a basic set of moral & societal rules (the sheva mitzvos b’nei Noach, the seven Noachide Laws). Any human being that follows these guidelines is on the correct path. Islam has no special ...


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No. One cannot attend an intermarriage service. See TorahWeb for a short hashkafic discussion of this.


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The Gemara in Yevamos (66a) says that we don't let a Kohen's illegal (Jewish) wife's (Melog) slaves eat Teruma, even though according to biblical law they should, since the Rabbis want her to get angry at her husband (I can't eat Teruma, my slaves can't eat Teruma, What am I, a Zona??!!) and get a divorce. The Gemara doesn't differentiate if there are ...


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There's a book of very old responsa of the Conservative movement where this question was asked about a hundred years ago. (I assume the answer was that it's permissible.) As the comments point out, Jews are supposed to marry Jews; but there are Jews of every color. The question is pretty open-and-shut, however. Tendler and Loicke have an essay on defining ...



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