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Your question seems to concern balancing considerations of mar'is ayin and shalom bayis (family harmony). One source you might consider is the ruling of R' Moshe Feinstein (Igros Moshe OC 2:40) regarding entering a non-kosher restaurant: And therefore, there is even reason to prohibit entering to eat items that are known to definitely be kosher (e.g. ...
A source for using the name of the mother is the gemara Shabbos 66b: Abayei said: Mother told me that all incantations should contain the name of the mother.
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