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The woman can ask but the torah specifies that the man must write (order the writing of) the divorce document and deliver it to her. There are cases in which the court can order the man to write the get, but he must be the one to write it (or order it written) and it must be of his own free will. This is similar to the rules of getting married in which the ...


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A Cohen may divorce his wife. The Mishna and Halacha mention special rules for the divorce procedures of a Cohen, so it follows that may do so: For example, in the laws of how to write the names of the husband in a Get (a divorce document) in Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer 129:19 - סימן קכט - דיני שם - it says: לֹא נָהֲגוּ לִכְתֹּב בַּגֵּט לֹא כֹּהֵן ...


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Rashi in Beshalach on "chamushim" states that all those left behind died during the three days of darkness. Every member of Bnai Yisrael who survived left in the Exodus. Thus, if a husband or wife was left behind, the person who left was a widow or widower.


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It is a gemara in Pesachim 112a which talks about advice from the chachamim (I don't believe this is quoted in the poskim-not sure ): לא תבשל בקדירה שבישל בה חבירך מאי ניהו גרושה בחיי בעלה דאמר מר גרוש שנשא גרושה ארבע דעות במטה ואי בעית אימא אפילו באלמנה לפי שאין כל אצבעות שוות Do not cook in a pot that your friend already cooked in.What does this mean: ...


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I doubt you would find any Halachic authorities who recommend giving a conditional Get. The reason being that after giving such a Get, he may not seclude himself with his wife. If he did seclude himself - and there are witnesses, then even if she subsequently fulfills the condition on the Get, she is only possibly divorced - הֲרֵי זוֹ סְפֵק מְגֹרֶשֶׁת. ...


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It is very difficult to find accurate statistics on divorce, and differences between countries are so great that any answer can only be useful from a specific countries' perspective. Finding prevalence statistics specifically focused on shidduchim is even harder. On of the problem of using divorce statistics is that part of the high reported rates of divorce ...


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The Rambam's language strongly implies that the answer to your question is no. He writes that the reason why we say that it is merely the case that "his inclination is forcing him" to do evil is because he wants to remain Jewish and his general overarching will is to do the right thing: מֵאַחַר שֶׁהוּא רוֹצֶה לִהְיוֹת מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל וְרוֹצֶה הוּא ...


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Rav Menashe Klein brings different opinions here (in קונטרסים גיטין on סימן קכ"א). He quotes the Shut Maharik 63:3 who says that this reason of the Rambam does not apply to someone who converted away from Judaism, however here he says the Rambam agrees that the Rabbis simply invalidated the Kiddushin because of how much they wanted to avoid an Aguna - so in ...


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Your question uses some ambiguous language. You asked "Why can't a woman decide by herself to divorce?" The answer to your question depends on what you mean by "can't." On a simple level, the Torah lays out the procedure for divorce. Part of that procedure is the husband writing a bill of divorce (called a get) and giving it to the wife. When we understand ...


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Is there a need to appear before the beit din? If so, it would seem to make sense to find a beit din locally to avoid travel expenses. The best way is for both spouses to appear before a beit din. (If necessary, or the couple can't stand to be in the same room, then the husband can appear before one beit din and arrange for a proxy to deliver the Get to ...


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If an nonOrthodox "get" is obtained, the divorce is probably invalid and the people (if they were married to begin with) are probably still married. This would be because the "witnesses" who signed the get are probably not valid and the "bait din" that had the get written probably do not know the technicalities of a get. Given that a valid bait din is used, ...


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There may be a better source for this but see אבן העזר סימן ז סעיף ט and there in the בית שמואל and the חלקת מחוקק that deal with this. It seems clear from there that they are forbidden to remain in the same house, even without Yichud.


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Maybe the simple reason is that for the husband to have stability (and a man will take care of somthing/someone that is his, that can not be taken away much better then somthing that can leave) Marrige is not what it seems now (a new idea maybe less then 100 years) to the western world In short, the answer is because this is what G-d Almighty told us. ...


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Shulchan aruch even ezer 119.3 one should not divorce his first wife unless he found her cheating. hagah: Aside from this, the rabbis said: "if someone divorces his first wife, the alter cries tears upon him". This is specifically talking in their days (time of the talmud), when they frequently divorced a woman even against her will (this is when the ...


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A woman can't ask for a divorce because the stipulations in the Torah, and the halacha do not grant her the power to ask for a divorce. For more details on that, read everyone else's answers. However, women were given the power to initiate divorce during the time of the Geonim. During the time of the Geonim, women were granted the power to initiate divorce ...


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The Reform movement generally doesn't require Gittin. Conservative practices will vary. An Orthodox Get will be accepted by all denominations. And if either spouse later chooses to affiliate with some other movement, it will be accepted there too. I know a Reform rabbi who got divorced; he arranged for an Orthodox Get for his wife. It kept everyone's ...


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Rav Moshe Feinstein, z"l, maintained that marriages performed by the new, modern-era Jewish movements (that are based on a rejection of traditional halacha, e.g. Conservative, Reform, Reconstructionist; henceforth: neoJewish) are completely invalid in the eyes of halacha. He even went so far as to suggest that these marriages were less valid than secular ...


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Short answer: No, the wife of an old fellow cannot demand a divorce. Sources and/or details You are only quoting half the requirements - occupation. Health also plays a role. See Shulchan Aruch, Even HaEzer סימן עו - חיוב עונה for the full details. א: עוֹנָתָהּ כֵּיצַד, כָּל אִישׁ חַיָּב בְּעוֹנָה כְּפִי כֹּחוֹ וּכְפִי מְלַאכְתּוֹ. וְהַטַּיָּלִים, ...


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It's only a precautionary marriage which is unlikely to actually continue and, in the unlikely event it did continue but didn't work out, they could always get a divorce. They also likely had a very different cultural expectation from marriage back then that didn't require the same level of agonizing. Finally, it sounds a lot like the gemara a few dapim ...


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I would assume that practical considerations will govern many people's decisions. (E.g. if there are young kids around and she doesn't want to confuse them.) In theory, though, Rabbi Moshe Feinstein's opinion was that when a woman gets married, she changes her customs because it's logically equivalent to the Polish Jew 300 years ago who finds himself ...



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