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The Rema in Even Ha'Ezer 1:6 writes that one fulfills the mitzvah of p'ru u'revu with a child who is a mamzer, which by definition is out of wedlock: היה הבן ממזר... קים המצוה If the child is a mamzer, he fulfills the mitzvah. Minchas Chinuch Mitzvah #1 explains that it is not a mitzvah haba b'aveira using the idea of the Shaar HaMelech Hilchos ...


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Pischei Teshuva Y.D. 116:6 quotes Adnei Paz as permitting it, but then quotes the Adnei Paz's corrigenda as indicating that it should not be done for reasons of Ein HaRah (if both are alive) or inheriting a bad Mazal (if one has passed away). That latter view seems to be predominant in practice (see e.g.).


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Being "Raised Jewish" in this context means that, to the degree that there is any religious experience in the home, it is of Jewish origin. So if they go to a house of worship, it will be a synagogue. If they do something of a religious commemoration in the month of December, it will be Chanuka, and most significantly if the child asks what religion they ...


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Aruch Hashulchan 1:17: Even if he has a son and daughter from an unmarried woman whom he did not marry with chupa and kidushin…, nonetheless he has fulfilled the command of p'ru urvu… for, after all, they are his offspring and fit to have children.


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You may be referring to the Chidushei Chasam Sofer on Bava Basra 57b. The gemara there states as follows: בעא מיניה ר' יוחנן מרבי בנאה... שלחן של ת"ח כיצד שני שלישי גדיל ושליש גלאי ועליו קערות וירק וטבעתו מבחוץ והא תניא טבעתו מבפנים לא קשיא הא דאיכא ינוקא הא דליכא ינוקא ואי בעית אימא הא והא דליכא ינוקא ולא קשיא הא דאיכא שמעא הא דליכא שמעא ואי בעית אימא ...


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Rashi Kesuvos 89b - Mar Keshisha Umar Yenika says that Rav Chisda had two sons and both had the same name.


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Chiram, the craftsman who designed much of the first Beis Hamikdash, was the son of a widow (1 Melachim 7:14). The woman from Tzorfas who hosted Eliyahu was a widow with a son (1 Melachim 17:9-24), and there's a Midrash (don't remember the location) that he grew up to be the prophet Yona Also the "wife of one of the disciples of the prophets" (2 Melachim ...


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It may be worth investigating Tzipora, the wife of Moshe Rabbeinu. She raised their sons without him between the time that he returned to Egypt at God's command and when Yitro brought her and the boys to join the Israelites in the desert (Exodus 18:1-4), which was either after the Exodus or after the Assembly at Sinai when the Torah was given. So, she ...


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There is a wealth of material in this issue in the mamzerus responsa beginning from around the period of the Noda B'Yehuda. Basically, the Talmud states clearly that a woman may continue to have her period until 3 months into her pregnancy (Niddah 7b and 8b): מעוברת משיודע עוברה ... וכמה הכרת העובר סומכוס אומר משום רבי מאיר שלשה חדשים A pregnant ...


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Since your wife is not Jewish, as you mention in the comments, your son is also not considered Jewish per halacha. That doesn't mean that you can't tell your son a bit about his Jewish ancestry. Whatever aspects are important to you, you can simply tell him. If you love doing volunteer work and feeding the hungry, you can tell him about how Judaism ...


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The Sheiltot (R. Achai Gaon, 8th c.) says that although a parent can forgo his honor, he cannot forgo the prohibition against striking and cursing. שאלתות (פ׳ משפטים סוף סא): האב שמחל על כבודו, כבודו מחול, ה״מ כבודו, אבל הכאתו וקללתו, לא. The Minchat Chinuch (R. Joseph Babad, 19th c.), on the other hand, holds that a father can forgo the prohibition against ...


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I finally found the Sefer Lulei Toratcha stories with Rav Shach on the parsha.Parshas Matos 30:4. Rav Shach answered that she should name the child Shmayah since it is similar to the name Shimon and in this way she can be miskayim the neder a little bit.


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King David had two pairs of sons with the same name. See 1-Chronicles 3:6-8. But Rashi there explains that the older sons died and he later named his new-born sons after them.


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Depending on where you live, you might actually be able to take a class. In many cities (at least in the US) there are "Introduction to Judaism" classes, taught by local rabbis. These classes are mainly aimed at people considering conversion to Judaism, but they are also attended by people like you -- born Jews who for whatever reason don't know much about ...


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see Rambam Hilchot Deot he ends off there in ch.5 Whoever conducts himself in this manner [may be assured that] not only does he sanctify his soul, purify himself, and refine his character, but, furthermore, if he has children, they will be handsome and modest, worthy of wisdom and piety. [In contrast,] whoever conducts himself in the ways ...


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The Mishna (Sanhedrin 8:1) says the the word "son" is used intentionally to exclude a daughter, in this case. The Talmud (Sanhedrin 69b-70a) says that while it would be reasonable to also punish a wayward daughter, it is a divine decree that it is not so.


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Here's Rabbi Yona Reiss' lecture (mp3), "Dividing Assets in Divorce Proceedings." He was the director of the Beth Din of America for many years (and now handles similar matters in Chicago), so he's dealt with this practically a lot.


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The Reform movement believes in patrilineal descent (at least of 1983, when it was a radical departure from thousands of years of traditional Judaism). So if your father is Jewish, then you would be considered Jewish by the Reform movement (but not the rest of Jewry) whether or not your mother is Jewish. Whether your mother is Jewish according to Reform ...


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I am going to point to a different mitzvah - Ben sorer umoreh requires that both parents willingly transport the child to Beis Din for both the initial warning and the final judgement. If either relents or refuses, the child cannot be punished. No such dispensation is provided for in the case of cursing or hitting your parents. @Shokhet notes that the ...


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Your question has various aspects, but as they are all related, I hope that my answer addresses all the items in some fashion. Q1 - You may want to read Ohr HaChaim's commentray on the verse you cited. While not directly indicating what the halacha is, he implies that from the wording, the concept is that the parents should tell the story of Pesach at night ...


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It seems from the Tiztz Eliezer that one would not be required(However,see the Shevus Yaakov). שו"ת ציץ אליעזר חלק טו סימן נה ד"ה הנה הא הנה הא גם בספרי שם הא כתוב דמההיא דשמואל אין ראיה לדבר כי אם זכר לדבר בלבד, ויעוין בספרי דבי רב שם שמבאר שלהכי הוא רק זכר לדבר בלבד, כי י"ל דמה ששמה ידה על ראשה לא היה זה אלא דרך צער ויגון ממה שאירע לה עם אחיה, ע"ש, ויתר ...


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Rashi to 11:6 states that David's intention was to have Uriah sleep with his wife, and then he would think that she was pregnant from him. שלח אלי את אוריה . שהיה מתכוין שישכב עם אשתו , ויהא סבור שממנו היא מעוברת : Also, as mentioned in a comment by Shmuel Brin, it is not universally accepted that the divorce was retroactive. Tosfos to Shabbat 56a, ...


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Shulchan Aruch 270:2 מציאת בנו ובתו הסמוכים על שולחנו אע"פ שהם גדולים ומציאת בתו הנערה אע"פ שאינה סומכת על שולחנו ומציאת עבדו ושפחתו הכנענים ומציאת אשתו הרי אלו שלו (וה"ה אם הרויחו בסחורה או במלאכה (נ"י ססי' קע"ז בשם עיטור) אבל אם מת אינו מוריש מלאכת בן אחד לשאר יורשיו) (הגהות שניות דמרדכי דב"מ)‏


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I understand by raising children you mean to teach them mitzvot Yes there is in the Talmud a queen ( Queen Helena in Lydda) that taught (rose) her sons to sit in a suka See suka 2b If you will answer [with regard to her seven sons] that her sons were minors and minors are free from [the obligation of] the sukkah, since [however] she had seven, ...


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I don't think that such a question is for a blog. the accepted psak is that as Double AA has written, however just for the sake of something different here's a Chidah (Chomas Anach Shmuel 2 11 4) ותבא אליו וישכב עמה וכו' פי' ואין כאן חשש אסור משום הבחנה כי היא מתקדשת מטומאתה מנדתה וכיון שהיה לה ארח כנשים ודאי אינה מעוברת וגם היא פנויה כי היה לה גט מבעלה דכל ...


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Hagar raised Yishma'el alone after the two were exiled from Abrtaham's house (You didn't indicate that you were seeking only "Jewish" sources). Naomi raised Machlon and Kilion after Elimelech died


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I am not sure exactly what you are looking for, but two good guides for how to raise children are: Zeriah u'Binyan beChinnuch by Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe Chovas HaTalmidim by the Piacetzna Rebbe, Kalonymos Kalman Shapira (the whole book is worthwhile both for parenting and one's own growth, but the introduction addresses parents specifically as I recall).


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It would appear that the statement "lo tov" o be alone which was applied to the Adam is based on the example of the animals. Considewr Rav Hirsch and Rabbi Sorotzkin discussing the meaning of that and why it is "not good" for a human being to be "alone" and how that means that Adam had to learn from the animals that he required a partner. Note that hashem ...


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This question it is similar to the case of a person who is adopted by a Jewish family and can call himself after the name of his adoptive father. When an adopted child is called to the torah, how are they named? has my answer to that question It might not be an exact duplicate because of the specific case given. In that answer, I state that I have known ...


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From here: [the moderator] asked the rabbonim in which area do they see the most mistakes being made with regard to Pesach observance. Rav [Hershel] Shechter responded that earlier, it had been asked how much time people should allow their children to spend on the sheets that they prepared in school. “I think that that’s a major problem,” said ...



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