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Deuteronomy 34 6: ולא ידע איש את קברתו עד היום הזה. In סוטה י׳ד ע׳א we find רבי חמא בר חנינא giving the reason it was hidden so that the Jews would not be able to go pray at his grave when going into galus. אמר רבי חמא בר חנינא מפני מה נסתר מקום קבורתו של משה מעיני בשר ודם, שגלוי וידוע לפני הקב׳ה שעתיד בית המקדש ליחרב וישראל יגלו מארצם, שמא יבאו לקברו של ...


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A calendar is important for the dead - this way the living can figure out when their Yarzheit is, and say Kaddish and learn as a Zechus for the Neshama.


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Deuteronomy 34:5-6: וַיָּ֨מָת שָׁ֜ם מֹשֶׁ֧ה עֶֽבֶד־יְהוָ֛ה בְּאֶ֥רֶץ מוֹאָ֖ב עַל־פִּ֥י יְהוָֽה׃ וַיִּקְבֹּ֨ר אֹת֤וֹ בַגַּיְ֙ בְּאֶ֣רֶץ מוֹאָ֔ב מ֖וּל בֵּ֣ית פְּע֑וֹר וְלֹֽא־יָדַ֥ע אִישׁ֙ אֶת־קְבֻ֣רָת֔וֹ עַ֖ד הַיּ֥וֹם הַזֶּֽה׃ So Moses the servant of the LORD died there in the land of Moab, according to the word of the LORD. And he was buried in the ...


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Encyclopedia Judaica's entry for "Hamadan, Iran" says: The Persian Jews identify Hamadan with "Shushan ha-Bira," which obviously is a mistake. An essay entitled "Esther’s Tomb Iran's Jewish queen defies decay and dissolution." by the Diarna Project offers an alternative explanation for the tradition that the tomb is in Hamadan: Mount Alvand, which ...


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From Chabad.org The basic grave formation in most cemeteries is arranged according to families. There has been a custom in later centuries, observed by many memorial societies, of burying men and women in separate sections. Neither custom is obligatory. One should make inquiry regarding this procedure before one joins the society, in order to avoid ...


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To summarize this book: Rabbi Moshe Sofer considers it an unacceptable attempt to emulate the gentiles. (Responsa Bet Shearim, YD No. 402). In a similar vein, R. David Tzvi Hoffman cites Rabbi Samson Raphael Hirsch (in Shut Malmad Lehoil Part II YD Number 109) opined that putting flowers on a grave is forbidden as imitation of non-Jewish practices. ...


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Nitei Gavriel Aveilus2 67:20 only mentions placing a stone or some grass on the gravestone. There is no mention of a preference as to where the stone comes from. This leads me to believe that there is no preferred option.


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Nitei Gavriel - Aveilus 2 67:3 says that after searching in all the Sefarim of many different Kehilos, Chevra Kadishas, and Aveilus, he could not find a source for an unveiling. He mentions on the bottom that the Steipler was once discussing this with his son Reb Chaim Kanievsky, and he said that it is most likely not of Jewish origin.


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Daily Halacha brings this in the name of Rabbi Yehuda HaChasid and says that this restriction is Kabalistic. Nitei Gavriel - Aveilus2 88:1:1 mentions this in the name of Magein Avraham 581:16 quoting the Arizal, Rabbi Yehuda HaChasid 12, Shela, Elya Raba 224:7, Rabbi Akiva Eiger 376 and others. In note 2 he brings a possible reason from Damesek Eliezer. ...


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Lots of different practices about this. There is a point in coming together approximately a year after the burial to make sure the tombstone is set up properly. Otherwise, Rabbi Moshe Feinstein was not in the habit of visiting family graves, and he said he was following the custom of the Volozhin yeshiva that way. Yet before he left Russia (and he had a ...


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You asked: How is this done? Do you dig up the earth to a certain depth? Do you dig a trench? Do you dig holes at certain intervals? It's a Mishna in Ohalot 16:4 which says: הַבּוֹדֵק, בּוֹדֵק אַמָּה עַל אַמָּה וּמַנִּיחַ אַמָּה, עַד שֶׁהוּא מַגִּיעַ לְסֶלַע אוֹ לִבְתוּלָה.‏ You check by drilling 1-Amah holes at 1-Amah intervals. They are reach ...


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A search online shows that funeral homes' giving out calendars is not a Jewish thing. (And the question of why funeral homes in general give out calendars is off-topic on this site.)


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Non-Jews can come to the service at the cemetery to honor the person. So I would presume they can come be in the cemetery as long as they ask at the front for any respectful instructions (such as walkable areas.) Non-Jews as well as Jews visit the famous graves of patriarchs and matriarchs in Israel. Hope that helps.


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Shaar Breslav contains the teaching from: לקוטי מוהר"ן תורה קח that מקום גניזת הצדיקים קדוש בקדושת ארץ ישראל The Rebbe quoted the possuk "צדיקים ירשו ארץ" as an indication that the tzaddikim inherited their burial place to sanctify it with the holiness of Eretz Yisroel. The site quotes the שדי חמד" מערכת ארץ ישראל א" that it is a great mitzvah to ...


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The newer Madrikh, by Rabbi Bulka, says the point is for the family to get together to make sure the tombstone is properly in-place (hence the Hebrew term, "hakamat matzeiva"); he then says the "unveiling" practice, whereby the stone is first covered by a cloth and then given a dramatic reveal, "has no basis in Jewish practice whatsoever." (Me: yet it ...


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This very much depends on who you want to accept it. For some authorities a Magen David or a Hebrew inscription (especially ת.נ.צ.ב.ה) may be enough, but for others the gravestone alone is not sufficient, and other proof may be required (for example, being buried in a Jewish graveyard). For the Rabbanut in Israel a photo of a gravestone with a Magen David is ...



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