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Most people have a favourite bad feeling like feeling sad or lonely. If you indulge in your favourite bad feeling of hating yourself then similarly you should indulge your friends with their favourite feelings which is probably something different. The fundamental obligation of ve'ahavta le'reachah ke'mochah is to respect your friend, not to love them. ...


@Cashcow's answer is (excuse the bad pun) "on the money". But adding to this concept is understanding the adage properly. The proper translation of ואהבת לרעך כמוך is "Show love to your friend as you would do to yourself." On the surface, the translation doesn't seem "novel" and in line with your question. But, there are some key words here, and you should ...


Practise it via the version of Hillel the Elder: "That which is hateful to yourself, do not do to your fellow man". Having taken that on board, perhaps address your self-hatred with his other maxims: "If I am not for myself who is for me? And being for my own self, what am 'I'? And if not now, when?" (quoted from Perkei Avot).


First of all love your fellow as yourself is not encouraging self love. A person who focuses on themselves has no room to love others. Rather the focal point of loving another Jew is in recognizing the source of the Jewish soul which is Hashem and how all Jewish people are not really separate but make up the totality of one person. On the one hand all Jews ...

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