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First things first, You're human. You can't help being attracted to women, Gd made you that way. Only the whens and wheres are your responsibility. Also remember that this area is a very difficult one to conquer, so don't get down on yourself if you fail to climb Everest the first few, or dozen, or hundred times. Getting a warning beforehand helps, so you ...


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The commandment to avoid negative reactions is on you, not your wife nor her friends. Of course they shouldn't be deliberately provocative, but if, for example, a normal conversation held in one part of your house bothers you in another part because of kol isha, or if the visitor is dressed appropriately and you are still distracted, this is largely a ...


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This is one of those areas where he really, really needs to be consulting his rabbi. As noted in the question, you can't just flip a switch and -- boom! -- you're observant; it's a process. But, per Avot 2:5, you also can't say "I'll do it later"; later may never come. Only your own rabbi can help you chart a path between these two extremes. (Which is ...


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R' Shneur Zalman of Liadi says in Chapter 32 of Tanya (colloquially called the "Lev" of Tanya - the heart of Tanya) that one can have true love of a fellow Jew only if he views his soul primary and his body secondary (since our souls have one root, so there is no cause for division, machlokes, etc.) Therefore, The Alter Rebbe’s answer follows from his ...


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It is commendable that you want to help your friend improve her observance. However, I see some issues with the approach you're proposing here. How do you think she will react when she finds out what happened? "Is this the reward of torah, that I should lose my livelihood for it?" Yes working on Shabbat is a serious violation of halacha, but you will not ...


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Answering this as a logical question would seem to include "lifnei ivar lo siten michshol" which also includes "blessing" a deaf person who would not hear you. When you say embarassing an "anonymous" person, does this mean for example causing embarrassment to someone by using his (or her) login name (such as my SabbaHillel reference). In this case, since I ...


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It seems that the Torah puts two separate obligations on you – hakarat ha'tov and tochacha (rebuke). You owe your Client some thanks because he could have tried to avoid paying altogether or caused you more costs in recovering the debt. For this attitude, see here -a small quote: “Moshe gets to the well. The daughters of Midyan are in trouble and ...


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The Rambam in הלכות דעות פרק ו says: יד חייב אדם להיזהר ביתומים ואלמנות--מפני שנפשן שפלה למאוד ורוחן נמוכה, אף על פי שהן בעלי ממון: אפילו אלמנתו של מלך ויתומיו של מלך--מוזהרין אנו עליהן, שנאמר "כל אלמנה ויתום, לא תענון"‏ טו והיאך נוהגין עימהן--לא ידבר אליהם אלא רכות, ולא ינהוג בהן אלא מנהג כבוד; ולא יכאיב גופן בעבודה ולא ליבן בדברים, ויחוס ...


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First of all, I can only mirror what people said before me: ask your LOR!!! Halachically (please don't take it as a psak for this case) it is okay. In Hilchos Geirus a well known Haloche is cited: that a Ger has to take upon himself all Mitzwos at the moment of Geirus. One of the Meforshim (I would have to look up exactly which one it was) adds that a Tinok ...


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The distinction is found in the Mishna (Yoma 8:9 (English)): עברות ש​​​​​​​​​​​​​​בין אדם למקום, יום הכפורים מכפר.‏ עברות ש​​​​​​​​​​​​​​בין אדם לחברו כד, אין יום הכפורים מכפר, עד שירצה את חברו.‏ את זו דרש רבי אלעזר בן עזריה, (ויקרא טז) מכל חטאתיכם לפני יי תטהרו, עברות ש​​​​​​​​​​​​​​בין אדם למקום, יום הכפורים מכפר. עברות ש​​​​​​​​​​​​​​בין ...


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First decide if you really want to mend the relationship. The way to do this, is to apply the conditions of repentance to this person. Read the entire chapter 4 of chovos halevavos shaar teshuva here and how he applies it to human relationships (it's short). if he/she has truly fulfilled them, then it is proper to forgive them and overlook their iniquity in ...


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In Pirkei Avot, Chapter 1 Mishna 12, we are told: Hillel and Shammai received the transmission from them. Hillel said: Be of the students of Aaron, loving peace and pursuing peace, loving people and bringing them closer to Torah. In Pirkei Avot d'Rabbi Natan, what it means to be like Aaron is expanded: (taken from this website) if Aaron would ...


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I can give one example where we see that the punishment serves to restore one's status. Certain crimes that a person commits disqualify him from serving as a witness. However, if he receives punishment and, depending on the crime, takes steps to distance himself from what he has done, he returns to his status as a viable witness. The details of these ...


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If you wronged them in a matter between one person and another, then obviously yes. Just as if you'd embezzled funds from someone or broken their heart. If they were perfectly happy with the act then I don't know what an apology is trying to accomplish. E.g. if I went out with my buddy Ted and we ate cheeseburgers, I need to confess to G-d and repent for ...



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