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Like many things in life, this will obviously depend on the specific situation. For example, if the relevant people understand your lifestyle and why you would be sensitive to this issue before it came up would be a very different question than if they are militantly opposed to your zealous bigotry. I had a close relative marry a non-Jew, and I actually ...


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Its a gemara in Kesuvos 68a its a statement of Rav Elazar : דאמר רבי אלעזר בואו ונחזיק טובה לרמאין שאלמלא הן היינו חוטאין [- שאנו מעלימין עין מן העניים אבל עכשיו הרמאים גורמים לנו - רש"י] בכל יום שנאמר (דברים טו, ט) וקרא עליך אל ה' והיה בך חטא Rabbi Elazar says let's go and thank the cheaters - without them we would sin [because we hide our eyes ...


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The Rambam in Hilchos Issurei Biah 12:6 holds there is an issue kares,see the chapter in detail. See also the Shulchan Aruch Even Haezer 16 with the meforshim who hold its not only a Rabbinic prohibition but rather a Torah prohibition. The saying is just an immature attitude of relationships on a whole and is entirely prohibited.


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The Gemara in Bava Metzia (59a), in dealing with the prohibition of causing anguish - Onas Devarim, says that it is imperative to speak to ones wife nicely, for they cry very easily. אמר רב לעולם יהא אדם זהיר באונאת אשתו שמתוך שדמעתה מצויה אונאתה קרובה The Gemara is saying to take into account the levels of sensitivity of each person. The fact that a woman ...


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The Rambam is of the opposite opinion. Although he brings the concept of such a person not having a portion in the world to come, he mentions nothing about it being a fourth exception to יהרג ואל יעבור - requiring martyrdom (see the Derech HaTeshuva to the Rambam Teshuva 3:14 who notes that Tosfos and Rabbeinu Yona's opinion is amazing as it is "clearly" not ...


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Recommendation: just send your regrets that you will not be able to attend. Explaining your issue will only cause hurt feelings, for no good reason. More generally, I see only a few options. Decline while challenging them directly and definitely hurt their feelings. Or decline without challenging them and let them feel you're trying to be respectful about ...


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I would suggest sending a message to the Chabad headquarters. Contact Us Lubavitch World Headquarters 770 Eastern Parkway Brooklyn, New York 11213 Phone: 718 774.4000 Fax 718 774.2718 Email: info@lubavitch.com


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Rambam lists confession as an aspect of t'shuva (Yad, T'shuva chapter 2) and possibly of independent value (chapter 1). He notes that t'shuva is insufficient for interpersonal sins and one must appease the wronged person (end of chapter 2) — but that doesn't mean it's unnecessary! (Note also that Rambam's wording "neither t'shuva nor Yom Kipur atone, ...


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the talmud in ketubot 17 says one should be "meurov im habriot" (lit.mixed with others). Rashi there says to strive to do the will of each and every person. this implies being sensitive to the individual needs of each person and behave according to how that person wants to be treated.


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Most Rishonim hold that the obligation to love a fellow Jew does not demand a person to feel a specific emotion. Rather, it asks of a Jew specific actions. A Jew must act towards his fellow with care, protecting his property and his honor. Notably, the Ibn Ezra holds the mitzvah to be literal. Sources are provided below: The Rambam writes: Mishneh Torah, ...


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I haven't, yet, located any articles or sources that address this issue directly. However, there is a general rule that "The law of the land is law" - of course hwen the local or gov. law doesn't directly contradict halacha. Many townships / municipalities have already instituted certain laws that are geared to considering enighbors and maintaining a ...


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Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 124:7 limits the obligation to shush to chazoras hashatz.


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This is in the begining of Shaarie kedusha. I also saw a peirush of this in a sefer called Olam Hamidos. The main idea was, that a person can fake how he is to the outside world, but to a spouse you are with all the time and there is no faking your true middos. Also a person may be afraid to lose a friend if they act badly around them, but ones spouse is ...


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Believing 'evil tongue' during elections While elections accentuate the problem of having to base our actions on information that could be false, the problem is a broader one of how do we know what is true. Proverbs 2:1-11 My son, if thou wilt receive my words, and hide my commandments with thee; So that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and ...


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source that the husband can beat her through bais din if you are looking for him hitting himself see @Double AA's answer משנה תורה - ספר נשים - הלכות אישות - פרק כא - י כָּל אִשָּׁה שֶׁתִּמָּנַע מִלַּעֲשׂוֹת מְלָאכָה מִן הַמְּלָאכוֹת שְׁהִיא חַיֶּבֶת לַעֲשׂוֹתָן--כּוֹפִין אוֹתָהּ וְעוֹשָׂה, וְאַפִלּוּ בַּשּׁוֹט. טָעַן הוּא שְׁאֵינָהּ עוֹשָׂה, וְהִיא ...


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While the rules were written in the way that they were for a reason, that reason doesn't necessarily mean that people actually placed stumbling blocks before the blind, that could just be a concise and precise way for the Torah to express the idea of misleading someone. (I wrote about that here and here.) The reason for these kinds of phrases may be to ...



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