wedding ceremony (and reception etc.)

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Holding the bride's hand when giving her the ring

In art I see that it was done example From hukai noshim CH 45 I see that it is required (at least lehat'hila) On many weddings i do not see it done Why is it not done? Was it always like this? (If ...
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Use of phrase ברוך הבא

Based on what I have seen I Nusach Ashkenaz siddurim such as Art Scroll and Birnbaum, among some others, I noticed the phrase ברוך הבא is used at the beginning of a Brit (circumcision) when welcoming ...
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Wedding Blessings (Sheva Brachot)

There appears to be an uproar in "right leaning" circles caused by a bride and groom reciting the last 2 of the 7 blessings traditionally recited under a chuppah together. I have two questions about ...
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A wedding invitation insert to insert into a wedding invitation to inform secular friends and family about the customs of a religious jewish wedding

Is there a wedding invitation insert (in pdf or other presentable formats) somewhere online that one may freely use to insert into a Jewish wedding invitation to inform secular friends and family ...
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Giving Blessings at a Wedding

I have noticed a custom among wedding-goers to receive blessings from the bride and the groom at weddings, usually when they come over to the new couple's table for well-wishing during the meal. Why ...
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chosson, kallah and yichud room

What do a chosson and kallah do in the yichud room? Does the kitzur shulchan aruch, shulchan aruch or mishnah berurah gives us the details as to what the chosson and kallah do in the yichud room?
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Has the minhag regarding weddings during the Omer changed recently?

My father in law was a musician. He explained that other than Lag Ba'Omer and beginning 3 days before Shavuot, there were no weddings at all during the Omer. Even though, there are two versions of the ...
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Is one suppose to engaged or married eighteen years old?

It says in Avos (5:21), "At eighteen years old לַחֻפָּה." What does לַחֻפָּה mean? Most people translate it to mean for the [marriage] canopy, [enter] the marriage canopy or enters the wedding canopy....
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If visiting the kosel before a joyous event, does one tear kriyah?

If visiting the kosel the morning of, say, one's wedding, should one tear kriyah? I am asking whether we should be in mourning for the temple even at a very joyous time. (My guess is yes, partly based ...
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Why do Chabad wedding invitations show the wrong time?

It has recently come to my attention that Chabad wedding invitations in the US are often bilingual Hebrew/English and the time given for the wedding on the Hebrew side is wrong (perhaps a copy of the ...
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My Orthodox Jewish co-worker invited me to his wedding. Anything I should know about?

My Orthodox Jewish co-worker invited me to his wedding, but I've never been to a Jewish wedding before. Is there anything I should be aware about if I plan to attend?
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Can the below procedure serve as an Agunah escape clause?

If one marries Mr. X under the assumption that he is a tzaddik (or rich or smart etc), but he is really a rasha,that marriage was done under a false understanding and is not valid and does not need a ...
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Source for the Mitzvah Tanz

At a Chassidishe Wedding, there is a special dance done, known as the Mitzvah Tanz. Where is the source for this dance and what is the meaning behind it? Also, why is it not done at Litvish Weddings? ...
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Must a ketubah be rewritten if, many years later, the date is discovered to be wrong?

Theoretical, perhaps: On their 25th wedding anniversary, a couple makes a big celebration, and displays their framed ketubah in the party hall. Someone notices the date on the ketubah and remarks to ...
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Purpose of “tana'im” today

In many Orthodox Jewish weddings I have attended, there is a short ceremony at the groom's table called "tana'im". This site explains: These are conditions agreed upon by the couple; both parties ...
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Why דָּת in Esther but דַּת in kidushin?

There are two places "דָּת" appears in Tanach in a form that means "the law of": Esther 2:12 and 9:13. In both places it appears as "דָּת" with a kamatz.[1] Yet, when we marry, according to the ...
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Menstruating on Wedding Day

What happens in the case of a bride menstruating on her wedding day or her menstruation ending a few days before her wedding day and cannot go to the mikvah? Does the rabbi refuse to perform the ...
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Betrothed or Married?: when it comes to the covenant (and the giving of Torah) being made at Har Sinai

Within the following source: http://www.jewishlifeseries.com/shabbat/voiceofthebride.pdf, i found a view statements that intrigue me: Several Midrashim employ the metaphor of engagement and ...
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Can one marry halachically in New York State without a marriage license? [closed]

Can an Orthodox rabbi marry myself and my fiance without a marriage license? If so why have 2 rabbis already said no to me? Is it because they are certified by NYS and obligated to report? I need to ...
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What's a common blessing given to people at a wedding?

What is a common blessing given to the bride and groom when attending a Jewish wedding? What is a common blessing given to the family and friends of the bride and groom when attending a Jewish ...
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language of betrothal at wedding

Traditionally, before a husband betroths his wife he says, "Harei at mekudeshet li btabaat zo kdat moshe vyisrael." Is this language necessary in halacha or standardized by tradition (minhag)? If not ...
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Source listing all Jewish wedding customs?

Is there a comprehensive source that lists all various orthodox wedding customs (mitzvah tantz, mezinkah, etc.)?
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Is there a connection between various 7 encirclings?

At a wedding the bride encircles the groom 7 times, during Sukkot we circumambulated the alter each day for 7 days, the city of Jericho was encircled for 7 days. Is there an explanation which ties ...
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Do contemporary Sefardi poskim absolutely require ten men at a wedding?

Beit Yosef, Tur Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer 62: Rashba, responsum 1127, was asked about a city in which there are no ten men for reciting the [seven] blessings [at the wedding], and it's impossible ...
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Can ashkenazim do yichud after the meal

I understand that sifardim do yihud after the meal and ashkenazim do it before What is the reason/source ashkinazim do it before? Can an Ashkenazi person do it after?
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Must the first and second bracha of sheva brachos be said together by one person?

Must the first and second bracha of sheva brachos be said together by one person? Or may they be split between two honorees? There are a lot of people who I will need to honor at my wedding in a few ...
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Standing during a wedding

During the bracha that weds that chassan and kallah are we required in the audience to stand? is it a minhag? Can we sit? What's your source?
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Standing up at the Chuppa when the Kallah passes by

Last night I was at a wedding, and when I stood up as the bride was passing by on the way to the Chuppa, a fellow in all seriousness told me "It is not proper and a lack of Tzniyus to stand up for the ...
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What is the source for making a bride happy at her wedding?

There's a line that has made its way into a number of songs: כל המשמח חתן וכלה זוכה בחמישה קולות Anyone who gladdens the groom and bride will merit five voices. But the source Gemara (Brachos ...
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Mesader Kidushin late - How long to wait?

A fellow honors a Rabbi to be Mesader Kidushin. The time of the wedding arrives and the Rabbi is not there yet. Is there a official amount of time that one should wait prior to honoring a different ...
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What's the reason for silver spoon at yichud door?

At a wedding, according to Chabad custom, a silver spoon is placed at the entrance to the yichud room. The chosson walks in first by stepping over it with his right foot first. What is the ...
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What is the order in terms of level of cavod for sheva brachos under the chuppah? [duplicate]

In order of cavod of the sheva brachos 1-7 what are the levels of cavod or importance for each of the brachos? There are gonna be a lot of rabbis at my wedding in a few days
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What traditional Jewish song/dance is this? [closed]

What song starts playing at 1:33 in this video? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PYuYojyDwN4 I am working on a play about extremism and antisemitism for the Slovak National Theater and we'd like to ...
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Different aspects of married relationship described in the last of the Sheva Brachos?

In the 6th (at a meal) or 7th (under the Chuppah) of Sheva Brachos, we read the line of גילה רינה, דיצה וחדווה, אהבה ואחווה, ושלום ורעות. I have heard that the first four words are referring to the ...
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Seven Brochos at a Wedding

I just read What do I need to make a Jewish Wedding. Is there a requirement for seven different people to say each of the seven Brochos, or can one say all of them?
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Why don't brides (always) cover their hair for their weddings?

Why don't brides (always) cover their hair for their weddings? I understand that in some ultra-religious groups they do, but there seem to be many groups within Orthodoxy where they do not cover their ...
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Shalom Bayis story to share at a Chuppah speech

I am supposed to give a speech on a chuppah next week BSD. I am totally blank! Have had a few ideas to talk about, focusing on Shalom Bayit, but I cannot pick a nice one so everyone present can learn ...
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Can I use a tallis gadol on 4 sticks as a hupa canopy

Can I use a tallis gadol on 4 sticks as a hupa canopy? Possible problems: The minhag is not to use a tallis It is disrespectful to the tallis
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Is it true chosson and kallah must separate after the first night together? [duplicate]

After the chuppah and the chasuna celibrations have ended. They are not only permitted to be together but is a mitzvah. However,is it true chosson and kallah must separate after the first night ...
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Head covering a sign of being a bride of HaShem?

Bnei Yisrael’s relationship with HaShem is often described as a marriage; HaShem is the groom and Bnei Yisrael are His bride. See Shir HaShirim for an extended example. The Prophets frequently ...
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Source for Groom's Immersion in Ritualarium (mikveh)

What are the earliest sources referencing the custom of groom to immersing himself in a mikveh before his wedding? This custom is referenced in Kitzur Yalkut Yosef (nisu'in v'shidduchin: 3:11): ...
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kallah not doing work during sheva brachos

We know that a chasson is not permitted to do work during his Sheva Brachos. Two reasons: Either because he must spend the time bringing joy to his wife or because he is compared to a king and a king ...
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Chosson and Kallah Stand with backs facing the Audience

Ive seen a Sefardi Wedding where the Chosson and Kallah stood with their backs facing the audience, The bride standing to the right of the groom. Where is the source of this Minhag? (and whats the ...
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Chabad What a groom should do?

From the fourth point of this letter igros kodesh 26 pg 222 (additional sources brought there 1 and 2) I understand that the groom should not take care of the wedding but should be learning... What I ...
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Sources for/about breaking a plate at a wedding

Are you aware of any literature that either provides a source for or discusses the significance of the two mothers breaking a plate at the "Tisch" at a wedding? It's not hard to find mentions of this ...
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Zecher L'Churban - Why a plate at Tenayim and a glass at the Chupah?

When a person gets engaged and married there are various things that we do as a Zecher L'Churban. At the Tenayim (whether done immediately or at the wedding) we break an earthernware plate, at the ...
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Should a Va'ad revoke kosher certification of caterers that allow catering a gay marraige affair? [duplicate]

Related and a follow up to this M.Y. question: The U.S. Supreme Court has legalized gay marriages in al states. There have been several publicized law suits in a few states where a gay couple sued a ...
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Source for Chuppa Poem

What are the earliest sources for the מי בן שיח שושן חוחים poem commonly recited at chuppot?
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What is the definition of “Panim Chadashos” (new “face”) with regard to Sheva Brachot?

Earlier this week I was at a friend's wedding, and I had to leave shortly after the Chupah. That made me wonder: with regards to saying all 7 of the blessings at a "Sheva Brachos" meal, we require a ...
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Does a wedding on Yom Yerushalayim exempt the couple from fasting?

I attended a wedding last Sunday, which was Yom Yerushalayim. The chattan and Kallah did not fast as they claimed that since it was a day when they did not say Tachanun, and they said Halel, it was ...