wedding ceremony (and reception etc.)
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Talmid that is an Avel going to a wedding of his Rebbe
I had heard once that there is a Teshuvas Ranach that says it's muter for a student that is an avel (in the year of mourning) to go to a wedding that his Rebbe is making for one his children. I ...
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Not making a wedding on the first 3 days of a month
I've heard there is a custom (practiced in various kehillas, I heard Belz is one of them) to not make a wedding on the first 3 days of a month (meaning alef, beis, or gimmel of a particular month.) ...
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chassan/kallah signing the kesubah or tenaaim
I have seen bridegrooms and brides sign their names on their kesuba or tenaaim (prenup) before the chuppah (wedding ceremony). It seems maybe to be a chassidish custom, though I'm not sure.
Is there ...
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What is the source for the Baal Shem Tov’s application of Psalm 122 (1) to a marriage?
I seem to remember a Dvar Torah from the Baal Shem Tov that reinterprets the first verse of Psalm 122
I rejoiced when they said to me, "Let us go to the house of the Lord."
into a dialogue ...
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Blowing shofar at a wedding
Friends of mine are getting married this Sunday and asked me if I would blow shofar at the chuppah. I have been ba'al toke'a probably 2/3 of the years since my bar mitzvah (2002) in three different ...
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What is a Shabbos Kallah?
A common tradition that I have observed is for a kallah to have a "Shabbos Kallah" on the shabbos before her wedding. What exactly is a shabbos kallah and why do people have them?
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Why is the ק in “וקנינא” left incomplete in ketubas until the signing?
In the ketuba, the ק in the word "וקנינא" is sometimes left incomplete until the time that the ketuba is signed. Why is this?
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How should parents divide wedding expenses with their child's future in-laws
Today there are many different practices that have been "adopted" (not formally though) among the various Jewish communities on how the parents of an engaged couple divide up the expenses of the ...
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Depicting the Jewish wedding
Is it considered sacrilegious to paint a picture of the chuppah in one's future wedding before the actual ceremony? Therefore, can the artist portray his/her upcoming wedding scene without the ...
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Issues with kallah trying on wedding ring before wedding
Does the kallah trying on a wedding ring for size before the actual wedding cause a problem of her having taken possession of the ring before the wedding?
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When are you allowed to touch your (newly married) wife?
At what point is a man allowed to touch a woman that he has just married. Can they touch after he has placed the ring on her finger and said "harei at..." before the 7 blessings are completed? Are ...
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Explanation for couple not seeing each other before the wedding?
What is the source and reason for a couple not to see one another before the wedding?
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Is there a minhag for a chassan and kallah to hold hands after the chupah?
I have been to many weddings where the chassan and kallah hold hands after the chupah on their way to the yichud room. It seems like a widespread (minhag?) thing that everyone does, even by couples ...
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Why is the kesuba not written in a native language?
The kesuba (marriage contract) is written in a smattering of Hebrew with Aramaic thrown in. It is possible that onr or both parties may not know what all the words in the kesuba mean. Furthermore it ...
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Going to a wedding of a gentile
It says in SA YD Siman 152 Sif 1 that it's ossur to go to a wedding (seudah) that a gentile is making for his son. The Shach and Taz both discuss over there if for reasons of "aiveh" if one is allowed ...
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Attending a relative's non-Jewish wedding in a non-Jewish place of worship?
Could somebody attend his non-Jewish relatives' wedding ceremony if they are held, let's say, in a church or a Buddhist temple?
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Post-conversion ketubah
She's Jewish. He wasn't. 2+ decades later, he converted. (I don't know when he first intended to... these are the parents of co-workers of a friend of mine.)
Can they get a ketubah now? Should they?
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Source listing all Jewish wedding customs?
Is there a comprehensive source that lists all various orthodox wedding customs (mitzvah tantz, mezinkah, etc.)?
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Why do some Jews get married at night?
In images and other media I have seen of Jewish weddings, there seems to be a trend to get married in the evening or night time. Is this a Jewish custom a halachic requirement and what is the origin ...
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Mincha before early wedding
If a couple is getting married early in the day (before mincha), when do they add the viduy from Yom Kippur to mincha? Do they do it the day before, the day of (after the wedding), or not at all?
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Wedding ring composition
I was recently told that the ring used for kiddushin should be made entirely out of one kind of metal (usually gold), with no other adornments such as diamonds, etc. I had been under the impression ...
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Why is Kiddushin Performed “according to the tradition of Moshe and Israel”?
When betrothing a woman, the groom says "Behold, you are betrothed to me with this ring, according to the tradition of Moshe and Israel."
As explained in that article, "according to the tradition of ...
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Nidda after wedding
Without getting too graphic, after a wedding night, the kallah is likely to have some bleeding. Does this affect the nidda status of the kallah? If so, is it immediate? How could that be? Does it ...
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Sources for/about breaking a plate at a wedding
Are you aware of any literature that either provides a source for or discusses the significance of the two mothers breaking a plate at the "Tisch" at a wedding?
It's not hard to find mentions of this ...
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Electronic communication immediately before wedding
Is it permissible to chat with your future spouse during the week before the wedding when you are not supposed to see each other face to face? Are any, all, or none of the following permissible:
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Standing up at the Chuppa when the Kallah passes by
Last night I was at a wedding, and when I stood up as the bride was passing by on the way to the Chuppa, a fellow in all seriousness told me "It is not proper and a lack of Tzniyus to stand up for the ...
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Aufruf and Shabbat Chatan?
Why is an aufruf (Askenazim) before and a shabbat chatan (sefardim) after the wedding? I know there is an idea of a chaasan going to shul from the Pirkei d'Reb Eliezer 17 but how did it get split ...
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Who should walk the Chosson and Kallah to the Chupa?
At the Chuppah in some weddings I've been to, the father and father-in-law escort the Chosson and the mother and mother-in-law escort the Kallah. In others, the mother and fathers each escort their ...
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When is a mechitza required at a meal?
According to the opinions which require Mechitzos by weddings.
Why isn't there a requirement to have Mechitzos by any other Seudas Mitzvah?
For example, why isn't there a requirement that one have a ...
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What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons?
What are Jewish conventions regarding honeymoons? Is a honeymoon taken, and, if so, is it done immediately after the wedding--or later, once the woman is again tehora?
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Why don't brides (always) cover their hair for their weddings?
Why don't brides (always) cover their hair for their weddings? I understand that in some ultra-religious groups they do, but there seem to be many groups within Orthodoxy where they do not cover their ...
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Is marriage without ketubah considered marriage, concubinage, or kiddushin she’einah re’uyah le’biah (marriage that cannot be consummated)?
Is marriage without ketubah considered marriage, concubinage, or kiddushin she’einah re’uyah le’biah (marriage that cannot be consummated)? I have read a number of different things suggesting each of ...
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If a Jewish couple is married through a civil ceremony alone, do Jewish marriage laws apply to them thereafter?
If a Jewish couple is married through a civil ceremony alone, do Jewish marriage laws apply to them thereafter? Assume no ketubah; perhaps a ring, but not necessarily 2 witnesses. Could one say that ...
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Children attending a parent's wedding
Recently a relative of mine who is a widow got engaged. The children were told that the Minhag is that children do not attend a wedding of their parents. What is the source of this Minhag? What is the ...
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“Wedding anniversary” in Jewish thought.
Does the concept of "wedding anniversary" specifically enter Jewish thought or is it to be thought of as another of the many occasions for giving thanks to HKB"H?
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Intermarriage Attendance
Is there a Halachic problem with being in attendance to an intermarriage preformed in a regular hall meaning not a problematic location? What is the source in the Halachic literature if there is an ...
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Which authorities approve/disapprove of mixed events for singles?
Some weddings have mixed seating at the reception; some have separate seating.
Some organizations and communities encourage or at least allow mixed events for singles; some discourage or forbid them.
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Question about Polygamy and Marriage Ceremonies
This is a follow up to my previous question on Polygamy
In Jewish marriages, was it ever common for a man to marry more than one wife in the same ceremony?
The context: I've been looking into ...
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If a woman converts, marries, and divorces — how is she identified in her next ketubah?
If a woman converts, marries, and divorces -- how is she identified in her next ketubah? Matrachta (divorcee) or Giyorta (convert-ess)? Does it matter? Is there a convention which term is used for ...
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When does a chosson free the congregation from saying tachanun?
A chosson frees the congregation with whom he davens from saying tachanun.
What sources are there for this in the following tefillos:
1) Shacharis on the day of the wedding
2) Mincha before the ...
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Why T’naim just before the chuppah?
What is the function of T’naim when performed just before the chuppah?
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BinyOn or binyAn adai-ad in one of the sheva brochos?
At a chupah today, in the brocho of “asher yotzar es ho’odom betzalmo” a learned Rabbi said the word “binyOn” before “adai-ad” rather than the more usual “binyAn”. “binyOn” is the text in the Baer ...
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What happens at bedeken?
Wikipedia says both that the groom puts on the veil, and in a separate paragraph says he uncovers it. Which is it?
Does he put it on, lift it, and then drop it again?
Can he just lift it and ...
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Is there any restriction on what constitutes a veil for bedeken?
What can be considered a veil to be used in a bedeken at a wedding?
(See also my other related question)
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Is a mechitza required for dancing at Jewish weddings? Why?
If the men and women aren't dancing together, is it strictly required that there also be a mechitza between them? If so, why? What guidelines would this mechitza have to meet?
Or is it simply a smart ...
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Zecher L'Churban - Why a plate at Tenayim and a glass at the Chupah?
When a person gets engaged and married there are various things that we do as a Zecher L'Churban. At the Tenayim (whether done immediately or at the wedding) we break an earthernware plate, at the ...
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Fasting on the wedding day - when getting married right before or after a fast
When a person gets married a day before Yom Kippur or a day after Tzon Gedalya - does he/she have to fast two days in a row?
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Are you allowed to get married the night going into Shiva Asar B'Tamuz?
Are you allowed to get married the night going into Shiva Asar B'Tamuz? If you have the Chupa prior to Shekiya can the wedding continue past sunset? (Sources please)
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Wedding Day Forgiveness
I heard that all a person's sins are forgiven on one's wedding day.
Is this true?
What is the source?
Does it also apply to sins committed between man and his fellow (as opposed to man and G-d)?
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Sheva Brachos Seder
What does one do if his or her Sheva Brachos comes out on Seder Night do the Kosos become Sheva Brachos and what are all the other Halachic Implications?
