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How to light when getting married on a night of Chanuka

A friend of mine is getting married on one of the nights of Chanuka this year. I do know that he has been in contact with his rabbi about this, but since I'm not sure what he said, I'll post this ...
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Why do the mothers break the plate?

At a wedding [or by the engagement], a plate is customarily broken at the "tena'im." This has already been discussed over here. As I have seen at weddings, and as is brought over here the custom is ...
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How to explain to friends/family that one will not attend an intermarriage

Suppose a friend or family member becomes engaged to a non-Jew. For the sake of this question, also assume that a trusted rabbi has been consulted and he has ruled (after considering any relevant ...
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chosson, kallah and yichud room

Does the kitzur shulchan aruch, shulchan aruch or mishnah berurah gives us the details as to what the chosson and kallah do in the yichud room?
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Source that Leah was veiled at her wedding?

I know it seems obvious that Leah was wearing some sort of facial covering during the wedding which is what allowed Yaakov to mistake her for Rochel, however I can't find any source in chazal or the ...
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Minhag to wear wedding ring on the right hand

I don't have much background on this question--it's simply that I've seen some married Chabad women wearing their rings on the right hand. Why? Is it because the right hand is considered "preferable" ...
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What is the source for untying things before going under the chuppah?

At a wedding recently I saw that the grooms shoes were untied, someone explained to me that there is a custom to make sure there are no knots under the chuppah. Where does this come from?
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Rav Moshe on mechitzah and kalus rosh

I read somewhere in the Igros Moshe that a mechitzah is required at every wedding. Does anyone know where in the Igros Moshe it says that the reason we have a mechitzah at a wedding is to prevent ...
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mechitzah, shul and wedding [duplicate]

I read somewhere that a mechitzah is technically something required only in a shul. Is there a halachic source for this? I read somewhere that the concept of mechitzah has been extended to include ...
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Is there a source for the Kallah Bride wearing white in Torah?

BS"D Is there a Torah source for the Kallah Bride to wear only white? What about a second marriage? Does the white indicate that the bride and groom make the day before marriage a special attempt to ...
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Marriage and Menstruation

I'm not Jewish, but I have a question I am curious about. I recently posted this on the Christianity stack exchange website, but did not get many good answers, since most Christians generally don't ...
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Source of Wedding Veil [duplicate]

So I know it is customary that brides wear veils during the wedding, and the custom of the bedeken comes from the story of Rachel and Lea, but where does the custom of wearing the veil itself come ...
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Is there a halachic requirement that requires Mincha be said at the Chosson's tisch?

If I correctly recall, Gemarrah Brachot states that the Chatan is exempt from davening at the time of the chasseneh (or is this specifically for Ma'ariv)? I have heard of several situations where the ...
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Sixth Bracha of Sheva Brachos

In the 6th Bracha of Sheva Brachos, we read the line of גילה רינה, דיצה וחדווה, אהבה ואחווה, ושלום ורעות. I have heard that the first four words are referring to the relationship between a couple when ...
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Can someone make one se'udah for both a bris and a wedding on the same day?

A woman marries a divorced man (well...until today.) The man wants to make a brit for his son (from his previous wife) on the same day as the brit. To save money, he wants to make a combination ...
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Has the minhag regarding weddings during the Omer changed recently?

My father in law was a musician. He explained that other than Lag Ba'Omer and beginning 3 days before Shavuot, there were no weddings at all during the Omer. Even though, there are two versions of the ...
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Does anyone allow one to get married the night after Pesach Sheni?

Rivivos Efraim Volume 2 page 266 in discussing whether one may eat roasted meat on the evening after Pesach Sheni concludes as follows. ופוק חזי מאי עמא דבר, שעושים חתונות מפוארות באותו לילה ...
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Are both witnesses and the verbal “Harei At” declaration required elements of the Chuppa ceremony?

A doctor was interrupted in the middle of his own chuppah because someone in the audience had an emergency that required the doctor's help. The emergency occured at the point where the groom was ...
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rav wosner and the kind kallah who got a brocho [closed]

a couple of years ago I read a very moving story of a Kalloh who insisted that she doesn't break her engagement in spite of the situation which had arisen. The story of the Kalloh moved Harav Shmuel ...
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What's the order of importance of Honorees under a Chuppa?

Under a Chupah, a Baal Simcha (in today's times) has a number of Honors (כיבודים) to give out. Here's a list of them (possibly not complete): מסדר קידושין 2 עדים (witnesses) קריאת כתובה (reading of ...
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Sheva Brachos for zivug sheini

I know it says in Shulchan Aruch that, in a case where both spouses are getting married for the second time, all sheva brachos are recited under the chuppah and then after the meal on the first day ...
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Source for Raincoat under Chuppah

There is a minhag among some people in recent years to wear a raincoat under the Chuppah. What is the source of this minhag? When did this minhag start? And is there anyone who specifically says not ...
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Songs Under the Chuppah

The is a widespread wedding custom to sing a short benediction, מי אדיר‎, when the groom arrives under the canopy, and to sing מי בן שיח‎, for the bride as she arrives and walks around the ...
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Giving Blessings at a Wedding

I have noticed a custom among wedding-goers to receive blessings from the bride and the groom at weddings, usually when they come over to the new couple's table for well-wishing during the meal. Why ...
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Different customs for Ashkenazic and Sephardic weddings

What are the major differences that one would notice between a Sephardic and an Ashkenazic wedding?
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Why would Roosevelt have taken off his hat at a Jewish wedding?

Believe it or not, this question is not Purim Torah. I read the following, strange passage in Colonel Roosevelt by Edmund Morris (Modern Library, 2011 page 147-8) where Teddy Roosevelt is quoted as ...
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Does death in immediate family require a delay in child's wedding?

I need some misconceptions straightened out about Jewish mourning. I've heard some say the death of someone in the immediate family of a betrothed must delay the wedding for anywhere between 30 days ...
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Requirements for people reciting shevah brachot at an orthodox wedding?

What are the requirements for the people saying the blessings (shevah brachot) under the chuppah? E.g., need they all be male? be shomer Shabbat/observant? Are there different customs?
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Why are wedding invitation abbreviated b'rachos different for males and females?

Many wedding invitations written in Hebrew that I've seen have the abbreviations נ"י - after the groom's name - and תחי'‏ - after the bride's name. (Example) Sometimes they are slight alterations ...
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the reason for a tallit being used as a chuppah

Is there any reason for or significance to a tallit being used as the chuppah canopy in a Jewish wedding?
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Must a bride represented as virgin bleed on sheets for marriage to be valid?

I had heard that from Orthodox practice that a lady upon first marriage is expected to be a virgin and is represented as such, and that the couple are placed in a room right after the wedding to ...
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Should you refrain from putting ash on your forehead if your wedding coincides with Ash Wednesday?

Some brides/grooms have a custom to put ash on the forehead at their wedding as a remembrance for the destruction of the temple. Is there any halachic discussion about avoiding this practice if the ...
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Why do some men wear the kitul under their suit jacket at their wedding?

I'm not sure if there is any halachic basis for any of this, but I've seen at most weddings the chasan just wears the kitul over the suit jacket. At a few weddings though, particularly in Israel, many ...
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What does the Bible say about a father walking his daughter down the aisle at her wedding?

I believe a father's walking his daughter down the aisle at her wedding came about as a Jewish tradition. If so, why is this done and what does it symbolize? Is it a biblical tradition? What is the ...
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Is an unconsumated marriage still a halachic marriage?

If the wedding ceremony is completed and the man and woman are led off to the yichud room -all the formalities are done, the kesubah is signed etc, however is the act is not actually consummated are ...
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Does a Jewish wedding involve bridesmaids or groomsmen?

Are there such roles? If so, what purpose do they serve? If creating bridesmaids or groomsmen is a distinctly American (or Christian) cultural practice, then what are some reasons for or against ...
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Saying Tachanun if there is a Kallah in the ladies section

The Minhag is not to say Tachanun in a Minyan where there is a Chasan present. Suppose a Kallah came to Shul (and there is no Chasan present) for Shacharis or Mincha and is in the ladies section, do ...
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kallah not doing work during sheva brachos

We know that a chasson is not permitted to do work during his Sheva Brachos. Two reasons: Either because he must spend the time bringing joy to his wife or because he is compared to a king and a king ...
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Is it permitted to attend a non-Jewish wedding? [duplicate]

Is it permitted to attend a non-Jewish wedding? Assume for the purpose of this question that the wedding is occuring in a non-religious location (such as a hotel). If it is permitted to attend, is it ...
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Shalom Bayis story to share at a Chuppah speech

I am supposed to give a speech on a chuppah next week BSD. I am totally blank! Have had a few ideas to talk about, focusing on Shalom Bayit, but I cannot pick a nice one so everyone present can learn ...
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Mazinka dance (dance with a broom) source?

Some have a custom that, when their last child or last daughter (mazinka means youngest daughter) get married, they do a dance with a broom. Where did this come from and is it in any seforim?
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Source for the Mitzvah Tanz

At a Chassidishe Wedding, there is a special dance done, known as the Mitzvah Tanz. Where is the source for this dance and what is the meaning behind it? Also, why is it not done at Litvish Weddings? ...
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Source for the bride's circling the groom [duplicate]

I understand that there are ways of deriving a scriptural basis for the tradition of circling one's groom three times or seven times, etc - but what is the earliest (written) source for this being a ...
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“How long is a Jewish wedding?”

If someone who's not familiar with Jewish customs is invited to a Jewish wedding and comes to you to ask how long to plan to be there, how do you respond? It's easy enough to say "It can vary a great ...
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May a man wear a wedding band?

Is there any halachic reason that a man may not wear a wedding band (ring)? Possible reasons to forbid it would include beged isha and chukas hagoyim.
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Talmid that is an Avel going to a wedding of his Rebbe

I had heard once that there is a Teshuvas Ranach that says it's muter for a student that is an avel (in the year of mourning) to go to a wedding that his Rebbe is making for one his children. I ...
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Not making a wedding on the first 3 days of a month

I've heard there is a custom (practiced in various kehillas, I heard Belz is one of them) to not make a wedding on the first 3 days of a month (meaning alef, beis, or gimmel of a particular month.) ...
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chassan/kallah signing the kesubah or tenaaim

I have seen bridegrooms and brides sign their names on their kesuba or tenaaim (prenup) before the chuppah (wedding ceremony). It seems maybe to be a chassidish custom, though I'm not sure. Is there ...
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What is the source for the Baal Shem Tov’s application of Psalm 122 (1) to a marriage?

I seem to remember a Dvar Torah from the Baal Shem Tov that reinterprets the first verse of Psalm 122 I rejoiced when they said to me, "Let us go to the house of the Lord." into a dialogue ...
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Blowing shofar at a wedding

Friends of mine are getting married this Sunday and asked me if I would blow shofar at the chuppah. I have been ba'al toke'a probably 2/3 of the years since my bar mitzvah (2002) in three different ...