Questions about the Jewish laws and customs of modesty in dress, speech, and behavior.

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Why is there so much focus on Women's Modesty among Orthodox Jews?

Based on the amount of attention given to women's modesty, one could argue that being modest is their primary role in Judaism. (I think I've even seen that said explicitly.) Women are obligated in ...
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Is it modest to compliment a woman on her modesty?

Most women in my surroundings dress quite immodestly, unfortunately. But, sometimes, a woman does dress modestly. Is it a good idea to tell her something like "I like your long dress" or "It suits you ...
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How is Rav Feinstein's psak regarding subway travel and the sexes distinguished today by those wanting to sit separately on buses and planes?

Other questions have been asked about riding public transportation in close proximity with persons of the opposite sex. It was cited that Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt'l, permitted men to ride on crowded ...
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Can a Sheitel be made out of one's own hair?

Suppose a married woman is able to create a Sheitel that is entirely made up of her own hair (detached, of course). Does that satisfy the requirement for covering her hair?
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Ululating in Jewish culture

In ancient times, Jews living in Israel ululated if I am not mistaken. Is this practiced by Ashkenazi or Sephardic Jews today? Which other Jewish communities ululate? Ethiopians, Mizrahis, etc? Are ...
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Are ankle socks non-tziniut?

Is it permissible for a woman to wear ankle socks? The issue that comes to mind is that the area between the bottom of the skirt and the top of the socks is visible and quite substantial. But if you ...
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Yichud with Jewish man that is “married”/together with a non-Jewish woman?

Is it mutar to be in the same house with a "mixed" couple [i.e. a Jewish man that is "married"/in a monogamous relationship of some sort with a gentile woman (since marriage between a Jew and a ...
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Doesn't the wide use of Sheitels among Orthodox Jewish women prove that hair no longer retains the erotic status that it once had?

In reading scores of halakhic material on the subject of kisui rosh le-nashim throughout the ages, I have found that there are essentially two views as to the nature of the obligation for a woman to ...
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What are the prohibitions involved with going to a public beach?

What halachic issues are there with regards to modesty when visiting a public beach? I am referring to the summer time when people are generally dressed immodestly at the beach. Does it help to visit ...
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Is it wrong not to wear a bra?

Is it a problem (for reasons related to tznius or any other Jewish concern) if a woman does not wear a bra? Is it still a problem if it is not obvious that the woman is not wearing a bra? Women may ...
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Is it proper to supply a picture of a girl prior to dating?

My daughter recently started dating, and a Shidduch (match) was suggested. The boy's family requested a picture prior to deciding if they want to proceed. I felt that this was inappropriate for ...
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May one hang Torah passages or ketubah in the marital bedroom?

I understand that one is not supposed to store holy books in one's marital bedroom, unless they are covered. I gather that this is due to the fact that marital relations occur there, and there is a ...
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Al Tarbeh Sicha Im Haisha- including Text Messaging?

The Mishna in Pirkei Avot says "Al Tarbeh Sicha Im Haisha", do not converse excessively with a woman. Does this apply to text messages as well?
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Are (opaque) stockings under a skirt considered enough to cover ervah?

This is a question about skirt lengths. From this answer: The halacha is that "tefach b'isha ervah" - a tefach (about 3.5 inches) uncovered on certain parts of a woman's body is ervah - ...
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Horse back riding for women

Is it permissible for an Orthodox woman to do horseback riding in an ordinary saddle, or does she have to use a sidesaddle? Furthermore, would she be able to use women's trousers made for horseback ...
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Chasidish women driving vs. walking [duplicate]

In the Chasidish communities in which women don't drive. Does the community hold because of tznius (modesty). If it's because of tznius (modesty) isn't she exposing her body even more by walking on ...
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Should a woman avoid singing in front of her husband while she is a niddah?

Should a woman avoid singing in front of her husband while she is a niddah? Is it strictly prohibited or just inadvisable? (Obviously I am not talking about deliberately seductive songs.)
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Religiously sensitive guidance on when to tell your child about human reproduction

A boy in cheder who has no internet at home, no tv, etc, is not exposed to human reproduction in the way that others are. It's therefore up to the parents to explain to him how children are born. ...
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Should one avoid immodest environments when choosing a service?

In shema we say: And they shall be tzitzit for you, and when you look at them you will remember all of the Lord's commandments and do them and not follow after your heart and after your eyes ...
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Mishneh Torah Artwork

In my yeshiva there is a library that has many very old seforim. While exploring the library I came across a volume of the Mishneh Torah which seems to be from 1574. I opened it and was surprised to ...
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Couple's showing affection in public

Is there any specific prohibition that forbids to show affection with one's spouse in public? For example kissing on the forehead or holding hands, not more extreme affection actions of course.
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Is it really kosher to “apply” to become a gentile king's wife?

Near the beginning of the Purim story, Esther lives in King Achashverosh's harem and "applies" to be queen by spending the night with him. What do our interpretations say about why she did this and ...
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Does a Jewish woman married to a non-Jew need to cover her hair?

I know that Jewish women married to non-Jews do not need to go to mikvah (and indeed should not do so with a blessing). Is there any evidence suggesting that a woman married to a non-Jew does not have ...
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Tznius and B'not Noach

To what extent do the standards of tznius apply to non-Jews living among Jews? For example, is a married Noachide woman's hair considered ervah? If not, why not? I know that rules concerning tznius ...
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What are the Halachot of Tznius as they relate to men? [closed]

What are the Halachot of Tznius as they relate specifically to men. Not men in relation to women. In other words, I'm not looking for "Men must act in a certain way when around women," I'm looking ...
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Why did Yaakov ask Yosef to swear in the way he did?

Inspired by this question In Bereshis 47:29 Yaakov asks Yosef to "put his hand under his thigh" (a euphemism) and swear not to bury him in Egypt. Here, unlike by Avraham, there is no indication that ...
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Prishus in Jewish Marriage

I know that there is a concept of prishus (going beyond the letter of the law, and abstaining from things that are really allowed) within Jewish marriage, but what exactly does this constitute, and ...
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What are the sources for women to wear/ not wear pants?

I have heard that the argument is beged ish / kli gever, and I have heard people say that even if that was once a real reason for it it doesn't apply today for various reasons. I understand that the ...
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How do you explain tzniut to a little girl?

Some Jewish schools have attire guidelines starting in first grade. What is the best way to explain the concept of tzniut to a very young (say first grade) girl without explaining sexuality? Please ...
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Is one permitted to watch tv or movies with immodest women?

Is a man permitted to watch tv or movies that feature immodestly dressed women? Assuming one will not have improper thoughts, is it prohibited to look at an immodestly dressed woman on a screen? Are ...
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Immodesty in artificial pictures

Does one violate a prohibition if sees pritzus, immodesty in a CGI, comic books and in handwritten drawing or does it only apply to real pictures?
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Listening to a woman giving shiur

Can a man listen to a woman give a shiur (Torah class)? Does it matter if it's not in a class format — like, let's say it's on a CD?
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Men: how do you control your reactions to women in immodest dress if you can't avoid them?

A question on The Workplace from a man uncomfortable with the dress of some of his new, female coworkers got a highly-voted answer saying that you get used to it and he should just wait it out. As a ...
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Why was Yitzhak “laughing” with his wife openly?

Rashi on Bereshis 26:8 indicates that Avimelech saw Yitzhak sleeping with his wife. A) Why were they having relations during the daytime? B) Why were they having relations in a way that others could ...
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The practice of (not) printing pictures of women in magazines and newspapers under religious auspices

I was reading a My Encounter the other week (not available online) which had an interview with the editor of The Moshiach Times. In it he described how the practice of other religious magazines at the ...
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What Does Halacha Say About Women Wearing Veils?

I read here about certain Jewish sects prescribing face veil. Is there, in fact, a rule requiring or encouraging covering the faces of women in presence of unrelated men? If so, what is the source for ...
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To what extent can a man talk to women?

Is a man allowed to talk to a woman for non shidduch/business purposes? Which halacha could I look up to get more info on this?
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use the bathroom as a changing room

from shulchan aruch orach chaim 2 mishna brura there and shulchan aruch orach chaim 239.2 (davka feldheim translation 2: THE LAW REGARDING PUTTING ON CLOTHES mishna berura 1. "...For this reason, ...
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Beis Din observing a female convert's immersion in the Mikvah

The practice today is that the Beis Din overseeing the conversion of a woman will observe her head going below water for the required Tevilah. Given the potential modesty issue - I know that they put ...
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Is it permissible for a man to be seen without a shirt?

In many parts of the United States, it is socially acceptable for a man to be without a shirt while working at a physical activity. Examples might be cutting grass or digging a hole in the summertime....
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Which communities accept sheitels (wigs) as adequate hair coverings for married women?

Assuming that married women need to cover their hair today (I'm not going into that discussion), which communities accept that a sheitel is considered a covering?
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What's an elegant way to avoid social contact with untzinius or attractive women?

There's times when women I'm attracted to visit our home or are friends of my wife and I don't feel comfortable completely ignoring them or telling my wife to not invite them. I'm not sure how my wife ...
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How to tell someone about Shomer Negiah

As I'm sure that many of you have had to "break it" to a coworker or friend that you're Shomer Negiah, have you found a strategy or choice of words that seems most effective? As I wasn't raised frum ...
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Halachik source for wearing stockings

What is the Halachik source for women covering their lower legs (past the knee)? And why would sheer stockings be acceptable if the point is to cover the lower leg?
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Can Hashem see under our covers?

Kitzur Shulchan Aruch Siman 3 Sif 1 אלא ילבישו ויפשיטו כשהוא שוכב על משכבו מכסה. ואל יאמר הנני בחדרי חדרים ובחשכה מי רואני, כי הקדוש ברוך הוא מלא כל הארץ כבודו, וכחשכה כאורה לפניו יתברך שמו. My ...
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Are men allowed to listen to women on the radio?

Is a man allowed to listen to a woman on the radio? Would it change if you saw the actual girl (e.g. on TV singing)? Related: What is the source for a woman's voice as ervah?
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Keeping up with “local” standards of modesty and dress - of religious Jews, or of society at large

In dealing with issues relating to Tzeni'uth (modesty) and clothing, a lot depends on "local" standards of dress. For example, the RaMBa"M (here) explains that in places where women do not normally go ...
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Tzitzit while sitting at home

In the summer time, when it's hot and humid and additional clothing layers can be uncomfortable, while sitting at home is a man allowed to wear just a t-shirt or is it necessary to have the tzitzit on ...
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Woman's hair covering in the home or in private

Trying to sort out my question, I came across this one, which is closely related, but it is not an exact duplicate. According to those who say a woman must cover her hair, not just her head (those ...
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why do jewish women wear so much black?

Usually, the color white is associated with purity (as indicated by the kittle). I don't know if the opposite color in the spectrum represents the opposite of purity (yes, I know it's not technically ...