Questions about the Jewish laws and customs of modesty in dress, speech, and behavior.

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woman posting a picture of herself on social media

From a halachic perspective, is it modest for a religious woman - especially someone who is single - to post her picture profile on social media?
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How to tactfully circumvent opposite-gender handshake

Say you're a man in a professional setting, and a woman who isn't used to dealing with observant Jews stretches out her hand to greet you -- but your practice is to avoid shaking hands even in ...
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Do some communities still allow more mingling between the sexes on Tu B'Av?

Do some communities still allow more mingling between the sexes on Tu B'Av? I understand that this used to be a custom, in addition to allowance of a more relaxed approach to women's tznius on that ...
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Is there any source that says that women should / should not get drunk on Purim?

The prevalent מנהג is that women do not get drunk on Purim. I assume this due to tznius (modesty) concerns. Is there any ancient or recent source that explicitly discusses women not/yes drinking on ...
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May women say prayers aloud in the presence of men?

Is there a tznius (or any other) issue with women saying blessings and/or prayers aloud in the presence of unrelated men? I remember hearing that certain inyonim (perhaps kol isha?) do not apply if ...
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Is it forbidden for a woman to mouth the words to a song in front of men?

A woman should not sing along to a song in the presence of unrelated Jewish men. But can she mouth the words? I never see frum women doing this, presumably because of marat ayin. As far as the issue ...
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How much wine should women drink at the Pesach seder?

In light of the concerns discussed here, how much of the Four Cups are women required/advised to drink at the Passover seder? At my last seder, I was told that women only need to have "a little" (a ...
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Tznius in semi-private locations - gym for women

I've been reading Oz vehadar (R' Pessach Eliahu Falk) and one doubt came up: If a woman should stay tznuah even in private (like rules on what pajamas not to wear, and about the length of the ...
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Maintaining Tzniut in Uncomfortable Social Situations

How can a teenage girl, who recently started practicing the laws of tzniut as well as feasible, balance those laws with the prohibition against embarrassing her family members, who are embarrassed to ...
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Hair Covering Before Marriage?

Are there any communities in America or Israel where women cover their hair before marriage? Do Satmar women cover their hair before marriage?
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When and why did the custom that a Nidda hides from the public that she is a Nidda start

I understand that in the past it was not hidden from the public that a Nidda was a Nidda, as they wore special clothing. As we see the רע"ב's explanation in the Mishna in Kethubot 7:6 ...
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What is the source that forbids indecent dress by women?

I have been hardpressed finding a source for something that would seem to be such a well known Halacha. I (and most other too probably) have been brought up with the belief that it is forbidden for a ...
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Are women allowed to see another woman's private area?

I always was curious if a woman has to guard her eyes, like men, in tznious. I've seen a lot of bikini pics. I just wanted to know if it's an aveira to see this type of stuff.
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married couples never sleeping in the same bed

I have heard that many Orthodox married couples never sleep in the same bed, even during the times that they are permitted to each other. Coming from a non-Orthodox background, this seems shocking to ...
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Is modesty a positive or negative commandment?

Given that: There are two types of Mitzvoth (commandments), 'Aseh and Lo Ta'aseh (positive and negative; ie., "Thou Shalt" and "Thou Shalt Not"). a. Positive commandments, with some exceptions can ...
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Does a married woman going through the conversion process need to cover her hair?

A married Jewish woman is required to cover her hair. If a woman that is married is going through the conversion process does she have to cover her hair?
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Can men dress in tank tops? [duplicate]

Are men allowed to wear tank tops in public? If not, what are the specific laws of tzniut that men are bound by (with regard to dress)?
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Are there any halachic problems with visiting a secular museum?

When visiting a secular museum with paintings and sculptures from Egypt, Europe and Asia (usually influenced by idol worshipping ideas and if not that then elements of immodesty), are there any tips ...
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Why don't boys and girls socialise in the 'frum' world?

Why in Chareidi circles do boys and girls after the age of Bar/Bat Mitzvah not socialise at all? Any mingling is unheard of, why is this? Does this have a source in Halacha or is it just a ...
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Source that King/Beis Din would hang couples for being publicly intimate

The title says it all, for the most part, but I remember once hearing that, if it was deemed a common problem, the Beis Din was allowed to round up couples for being publicly intimate, and hang them. ...
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What are the rules about nudity of the small children?

Until what age is it permitted to see one's own daughter nude? 3? 12? What about prayers - how does one behave if during Amidah, or any other prayer or brochos, she is in front, with naked butt? Or ...
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Is there a halachik problem with wearing shorts while davening?

I have often heard that one should not wear shorts while davening. This makes intuitive sense to me that we should do this out of respect. But is there any halachic reasoning behind this? Is it ...
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Standing up at the Chuppa when the Kallah passes by

Last night I was at a wedding, and when I stood up as the bride was passing by on the way to the Chuppa, a fellow in all seriousness told me "It is not proper and a lack of Tzniyus to stand up for the ...
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Modesty: What is the difference between Conservative and Modern Orthodox?

What are the differences between female Modern Orthodox/Modern Orthodox Liberal Jews and Conservatives in terms of women's modesty? My question applies both to dress and social interaction - shaking ...
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Walking between women

Regarding 'walking between women', I have an especially hard time with this in shul when i come out of the room we daven in into the hallway. It is difficult to go by without waiting for them which is ...
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According to Jewish law, may a women wear men's clothing?

Are rules prescribing what sorts of clothes men and women can and cannot wear?
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What is the status of the psak of a Maharat?

If an orthodox male Rabbi bestows semicha on a woman (dubbed Maharat), what is the status of her halachic decisions? This question is irrespective of whether or not the male Rabbi should confer ...
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Do the laws of Negiah depend on sexual orientation?

The Rambam writes (Hilchos Isurei Biah 21:1): כל הבא על ערווה מן העריות דרך אברים, או שחיבק ונישק דרך תאווה ונהנה בקירוב בשר--הרי זה לוקה מן התורה One who comes upon one of the Arayos via ...
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Who is liable in kol isha and tznius situations?

If a woman starts singing in a room with men, despite knowing they observe kol isha, is she liable for her voice being heard or are the men that hear her liable? If a woman dresses non-tznius in ...
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What are the most commonly-held positions regarding Kol Isha?

As a woman, I am mindful of the need to avoid putting Jewish men in inevitable situations of kol isha (hearing a woman's singing voice). However, I have heard many interpretations of this law, and I ...
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Aren't wigs counterproductive?

As far as I know, married women have to cover their head for tzniut (modesty). A common way to do this is by wearing a wig. But sometimes the wig looks even prettier than the women's hair. Wouldn't ...
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Why can men wear pants if pants are immodest?

I have a question from another post here. If pants are considered to be immodest garments in general, aside from the issue of them being a male garment, why are they permissible for men to wear? Are ...
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May a woman with artifical metal legs wear a short skirt or pants?

May a woman (or a man) wear immodest clothing over an artificial part of her body? (Lets assume that beged ish is not a consideration) i.e. if she has artifical legs, may she wear short shorts? ...
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Minhag no hair covering for Persian Jewish women?

My sister tells me her ultra-frum married Persian grad school housemate does not cover her hair and that this is their minhag. Can someone confirm this tradition and if so what are the outer signs (if ...
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What is the original halachic source for a woman covering her collarbones out of modesty (tznius)?

Many contemporary instructions on women's modesty (tznius) say that necklines have to be high enough to cover the collarbones. I can certainly accept that if this is the communal standard, it should ...
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What is the proper protocol for breaking a shidduch?

You are set up a shidduch and you go out for a few dates. It doesn't work out. What do you do? Is there a difference if you go on a few dates or if you go on many? Should you provide a reason or ...
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How “separated” must men & women be to avoid the problem of mixed swimming?

Most rabbis that I have spoken to or read their opinion in local newspaper articles have prohibited mixed swimming. My understanding of this prohibition seems to mean that men and women should not be ...
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How to determine common practice for halachos that are impacted by it

Certain halachic issues are informed or even determined by the social standards of the (non-Jewish) society in which one lives. Examples include what falls under the prohibition of cross-dressing (see ...
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When did the use of Rashei Tevot, Heh Kuf, הק׳ in writings, books, letters, etc., begin?

Perhaps I'm among the last to have found this out, but it took me quite a while to understand why, in a signature, the name was preceded by a הק׳. The Ozar Rashei Tevot book has 31 different ...
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Are there any halachic issues with apologizing to a past shidduch before rosh hashanah?

If someone feels that there might have been some wrong doing during a past shidduch and would like to apologize before judgement day, can one do so or should he/she just let it be? The issues that ...
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Shaking hands with the opposite gender?

What's the story: Can a man shake hands with a woman (or vice versa) in a business setting?
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Why isn't covering the place where hair meets the head good enough for a Sheitel?

See Can a Sheitel be made out of one's own hair? where the question wonders whether a woman is allowed to wear her own detached hair as a Sheitel. In Fred's answer, he quotes the Shiltei Giborim ...
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Is there an authentic source for such a partial hair covering for women?

I'm aware that per 'Iqar HaDin (baseline Halakhah), Qitzur Shulhhan 'Arukh - Yalqut Yosef writes that a woman may reveal two finger-breadths of her hair (where her hair connects to her head) while ...
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Conversations with G-d

I learned that other than praying, I can talk to G-d throughout the day, while I'm in traffic, or walking to some where ...any time. Now, since it's very hot here where I live , I prefer to be more ...
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Source and details about not showing the shape of the body

I heard that tight clothing on woman is not permitted, Something like It shows the shape of the body. Is this true? what does this mean practically? Sources please
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Source that elbow it the border for tznius

Similar Tznius In Regards to Covering Elbows Is it true that the elbow is the border of what needs to be covered on the arms for tznius if yes what is the source of it (I understand it has something ...
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Can the status of erwa change?

Can a body part which may reasonably br presumed to have the status of erwa for a particular woman ever lose that status? Some examples are if a woman is widowed or divorced can she legally uncover ...
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Why is there so much focus on Women's Modesty among Orthodox Jews?

Based on the amount of attention given to women's modesty, one could argue that being modest is their primary role in Judaism. (I think I've even seen that said explicitly.) Women are obligated in ...
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Is it modest to compliment a woman on her modesty?

Most women in my surroundings dress quite immodestly, unfortunately. But, sometimes, a woman does dress modestly. Is it a good idea to tell her something like "I like your long dress" or "It suits you ...
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How is Rav Feinstein's psak regarding subway travel and the sexes distinguished today by those wanting to sit separately on buses and planes?

Other questions have been asked about riding public transportation in close proximity with persons of the opposite sex. It was cited that Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt'l, permitted men to ride on crowded ...