Questions about the Jewish laws and customs of modesty in dress, speech, and behavior.

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Source that King/Beis Din would hang couples for being publicly intimate

The title says it all, for the most part, but I remember once hearing that, if it was deemed a common problem, the Beis Din was allowed to round up couples for being publicly intimate, and hang them. ...
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What are the rules about nudity of the small children?

Until what age is it permitted to see one's own daughter nude? 3? 12? What about prayers - how does one behave if during Amidah, or any other prayer or brochos, she is in front, with naked butt? Or ...
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Walking between women

Regarding 'walking between women', I have an especially hard time with this in shul when i come out of the room we daven in into the hallway. It is difficult to go by without waiting for them which is ...
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Tznius in semi-private locations - gym for women

I've been reading Oz vehadar (R' Pessach Eliahu Falk) and one doubt came up: If a woman should stay tznuah even in private (like rules on what pajamas not to wear, and about the length of the ...
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According to Jewish law, may a women wear men's clothing?

Are rules prescribing what sorts of clothes men and women can and cannot wear?
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What are the most commonly-held positions regarding Kol Isha?

As a woman, I am mindful of the need to avoid putting Jewish men in inevitable situations of kol isha (hearing a woman's singing voice). However, I have heard many interpretations of this law, and I ...
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Are there any halachic problems with visiting a secular museum?

When visiting a secular museum with paintings and sculptures from Egypt, Europe and Asia (usually influenced by idol worshipping ideas and if not that then elements of immodesty), are there any tips ...
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Aren't wigs counterproductive?

As far as I know, married women have to cover their head for tzniut (modesty). A common way to do this is by wearing a wig. But sometimes the wig looks even prettier than the women's hair. Wouldn't ...
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Minhag no hair covering for Persian Jewish women?

My sister tells me her ultra-frum married Persian grad school housemate does not cover her hair and that this is their minhag. Can someone confirm this tradition and if so what are the outer signs (if ...
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What is the proper protocol for breaking a shidduch?

You are set up a shidduch and you go out for a few dates. It doesn't work out. What do you do? Is there a difference if you go on a few dates or if you go on many? Should you provide a reason or ...
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Are there any halachic issues with apologizing to a past shidduch before rosh hashanah?

If someone feels that there might have been some wrong doing during a past shidduch and would like to apologize before judgement day, can one do so or should he/she just let it be? The issues that ...
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Is there an authentic source for such a partial hair covering for women?

I'm aware that per 'Iqar HaDin (baseline Halakhah), Qitzur Shulhhan 'Arukh - Yalqut Yosef writes that a woman may reveal two finger-breadths of her hair (where her hair connects to her head) while ...
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Source and details about not showing the shape of the body

I heard that tight clothing on woman is not permitted, Something like It shows the shape of the body. Is this true? what does this mean practically? Sources please
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Source that elbow it the border for tznius

Similar Tznius In Regards to Covering Elbows Is it true that the elbow is the border of what needs to be covered on the arms for tznius if yes what is the source of it (I understand it has something ...
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Conversations with G-d

I learned that other than praying, I can talk to G-d throughout the day, while I'm in traffic, or walking to some where ...any time. Now, since it's very hot here where I live , I prefer to be more ...
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Can the status of erwa change?

Can a body part which may reasonably br presumed to have the status of erwa for a particular woman ever lose that status? Some examples are if a woman is widowed or divorced can she legally uncover ...
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Is it modest to compliment a woman on her modesty?

Most women in my surroundings dress quite immodestly, unfortunately. But, sometimes, a woman does dress modestly. Is it a good idea to tell her something like "I like your long dress" or "It suits you ...
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How “separated” must men & women be to avoid the problem of mixed swimming?

Most rabbis that I have spoken to or read their opinion in local newspaper articles have prohibited mixed swimming. My understanding of this prohibition seems to mean that men and women should not be ...
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Are ankle socks non-tziniut?

Is it permissible for a woman to wear ankle socks? The issue that comes to mind is that the area between the bottom of the skirt and the top of the socks is visible and quite substantial. But if you ...
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What are the prohibitions involved with going to a public beach?

What halachic issues are there with regards to modesty when visiting a public beach? I am referring to the summer time when people are generally dressed immodestly at the beach. Does it help to visit ...
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Is it proper to supply a picture of a girl prior to dating?

My daughter recently started dating, and a Shidduch (match) was suggested. The boy's family requested a picture prior to deciding if they want to proceed. I felt that this was inappropriate for ...
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Does a married women going through the conversion process need to cover her hair?

A married Jewish woman is required to cover her hair. If a woman that is married is going through the conversion process does she have to cover her hair?
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Al Tarbeh Sicha Im Haisha- including Text Messaging?

The Mishna in Pirkei Avot says "Al Tarbeh Sicha Im Haisha", do not converse excessively with a woman. Does this apply to text messages as well?
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Is it wrong not to wear a bra?

Is it a problem (for reasons related to tznius or any other Jewish concern) if a woman does not wear a bra? Is it still a problem if it is not obvious that the woman is not wearing a bra? Women may ...
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Yichud with Jewish man that is “married”/together with a non-Jewish woman?

Is it mutar to be in the same house with a "mixed" couple [i.e. a Jewish man that is "married"/in a monogamous relationship of some sort with a gentile woman (since marriage between a Jew and a ...
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Should one avoid immodest environments when choosing a service?

In shema we say: And they shall be tzitzit for you, and when you look at them you will remember all of the Lord's commandments and do them and not follow after your heart and after your eyes ...
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Permitted swimwear for a woman to wear when going swimming with women

1) Is a women allowed to wear a bikini when going swimming with other women? 2) Does she still have to dress modestly even when she's with other women?
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Are there any modesty issues involved with opening doors for girls on shidduchim? [duplicate]

It's fairly common practice for a guy to hold the door open for a girl he is dating. Are there any issues of tziniut involved with this practice?
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Mishneh Torah Artwork

In my yeshiva there is a library that has many very old seforim. While exploring the library I came across a volume of the Mishneh Torah which seems to be from 1574. I opened it and was surprised to ...
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Why don't boys and girls socialise in the 'frum' world?

Why in Chareidi circles do boys and girls after the age of Bar/Bat Mitzvah not socialise at all? Any mingling is unheard of, why is this? Does this have a source in Halacha or is it just a ...
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Couple's showing affection in public

Is there any specific prohibition that forbids to show affection with one's spouse in public? For example kissing on the forehead or holding hands, not more extreme affection actions of course.
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Is it really kosher to “apply” to become a gentile king's wife?

Near the beginning of the Purim story, Esther lives in King Achashverosh's harem and "applies" to be queen by spending the night with him. What do our interpretations say about why she did this and ...
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What is the source that forbids indecent dress by women?

I have been hardpressed finding a source for something that would seem to be such a well known Halacha. I (and most other too probably) have been brought up with the belief that it is forbidden for a ...
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Chasidish women driving vs. walking [duplicate]

In the Chasidish communities in which women don't drive. Does the community hold because of tznius (modesty). If it's because of tznius (modesty) isn't she exposing her body even more by walking on ...
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Does a Jewish woman married to a non-Jew need to cover her hair?

I know that Jewish women married to non-Jews do not need to go to mikvah (and indeed should not do so with a blessing). Is there any evidence suggesting that a woman married to a non-Jew does not have ...
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Why isn't covering the place where hair meets the head good enough for a Sheitel?

See Can a Sheitel be made out of one's own hair? where the question wonders whether a woman is allowed to wear her own detached hair as a Sheitel. In Fred's answer, he quotes the Shiltei Giborim ...
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Prishus in Jewish Marriage

I know that there is a concept of prishus (going beyond the letter of the law, and abstaining from things that are really allowed) within Jewish marriage, but what exactly does this constitute, and ...
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married couples never sleeping in the same bed

I have heard that many Orthodox married couples never sleep in the same bed, even during the times that they are permitted to each other. Coming from a non-Orthodox background, this seems shocking to ...
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Why can men wear pants if pants are immodest?

I have a question from another post here. If pants are considered to be immodest garments in general, aside from the issue of them being a male garment, why are they permissible for men to wear? Are ...
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Immodesty in artificial pictures

Does one violate a prohibition if sees pritzus, immodesty in a CGI, comic books and in handwritten drawing or does it only apply to real pictures?
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When and why did the custom that a Nidda hides from the public that she is a Nidda start

I understand that in the past it was not hidden from the public that a Nidda was a Nidda, as they wore special clothing. As we see the רע"ב's explanation in the Mishna in Kethubot 7:6 ...
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Men: how do you control your reactions to women in immodest dress if you can't avoid them?

A question on The Workplace from a man uncomfortable with the dress of some of his new, female coworkers got a highly-voted answer saying that you get used to it and he should just wait it out. As a ...
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Why was Yitzhak “laughing” with his wife openly?

Rashi on Bereshis 26:8 indicates that Avimelech saw Yitzhak sleeping with his wife. A) Why were they having relations during the daytime? B) Why were they having relations in a way that others could ...
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use the bathroom as a changing room

from shulchan aruch orach chaim 2 mishna brura there and shulchan aruch orach chaim 239.2 (davka feldheim translation 2: THE LAW REGARDING PUTTING ON CLOTHES mishna berura 1. "...For this reason, ...
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To what extent can a man talk to women?

Is a man allowed to talk to a woman for non shidduch/business purposes? Which halacha could I look up to get more info on this?
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Is it permissible for a man to be seen without a shirt?

In many parts of the United States, it is socially acceptable for a man to be without a shirt while working at a physical activity. Examples might be cutting grass or digging a hole in the ...
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How is Rav Feinstein's psak regarding subway travel and the sexes distinguished today by those wanting to sit separately on buses and planes?

Other questions have been asked about riding public transportation in close proximity with persons of the opposite sex. It was cited that Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt'l, permitted men to ride on crowded ...
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How do you explain tzniut to a little girl?

Some Jewish schools have attire guidelines starting in first grade. What is the best way to explain the concept of tzniut to a very young (say first grade) girl without explaining sexuality? Please ...
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May one hang Torah passages or ketubah in the marital bedroom?

I understand that one is not supposed to store holy books in one's marital bedroom, unless they are covered. I gather that this is due to the fact that marital relations occur there, and there is a ...
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Halachik source for wearing stockings

What is the Halachik source for women covering their lower legs (past the knee)? And why would sheer stockings be acceptable if the point is to cover the lower leg?