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Tichel wearer moves to Sheitel covered community

If a woman who is custom to covering by means of Tichel/Mitpachat moves to a community in which it is custom for women to wear Sheitels, should she switch to Sheitels? If she attends a synagogue in ...
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Commiting to a group's educational system

In a community where spaces are scarce in educational institutions, may a Jewish institution refuse a child if the parents will not commit to letting the child continue in that group's separate ...
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Should one use the holiday/shabbat greetings that are common in his neighborhood or can he/she stick with his custom?

Sefardim say Shabbat Shallom and Chag Samayach; Ashkenazim say Gut Shabbos and Gut Yontif. May one keep his own greetings when living in a community that is predominately of a different descent (for ...
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Why are Ashre and Alenu considered communal prayers?

Shulchan Aruch (OC 65) says to say "Sh'ma" with the congregation when they say it, and Mishna B'rura 9 there says the same is true of other things recited as a congregation such as "Ashre" and ...
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Is every member of the community responsible for making his own eiruv tavshilin?

An eiruv tavshilin is made before Yom Tov in order to allow for cooking for Shabbat on Yom Tov. However, once I told someone I was worried I had not made my eiruv tavshilin correctly, and the person ...
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School closing - At what point must the parents be told?

Yeshiva A or Bais Yaakov A has serious financial problems. They are doing all they can to stay viable, however unless a big donor steps forward they will be forced to close. If the school tells the ...
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When you're trapped by someone Davening behind you

There's a(n) Halachah (Berachos 27a, Shulchan Aruch 102:4) that you are not supposed to pass in front of someone in prayer. As a result, many people are strict and won't take their three steps back ...
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Is the chazzan allowed to wait to say kaddish?

Sometimes in my ashkenazik morning minyan (prayer service) we don't have a minyan (quorum of 10 men) when the shaliach tzibor (leader of the service) reaches the point of saying kaddish in pisukei ...
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When there are four aveilim (mourners), Is it better to have one minyan of 40 people or 4 minyonim of ten each?

Today I was in a shul where there were four parallel mincha services because four mourners wanted to lead the services. I thought there was a principle of ברב עם הדרת מלך? What sources are there that ...
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Answering Baruch Hu UVaruch Shemo and Amen while learning

If someone is giving Shiur in the same room as people Davening, do the people learning answer Baruch Hu Uvaruch Shemo and Amen to the Hazarat HaShatz?
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Tircha D'Tzibbur vs. Kavod Hatorah - which wins?

It's hard for me to properly phrase the question, but here's the "ma'aseh shehaya" (scenario): It was Shabbat Rosh Hodesh, parshat Balak, I believe. They took out 2 Sifrei Torah. I waited for the ...
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On what authority do Lubavitchers not skip when late to shacharis?

The Rav's Shulchan Aruch, OC 52, clearly states that, because saying amida (sh'mone esre) with a congregation is so important, one who arrives late to a congregational shacharis service should skip ...
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Supporting new charities

There are myriad charities out there. If a community has multiple Shuls, schools, Mikvaoth, food pantries, and גמ"חs, and new entities open up fulfilling the same role(s), and the new entities' ...
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If you come early to a minyan factory and catch the previous minyan's torah reading, are you yotzeh? [duplicate]

If you come early to your minyan in a minyan factory for shachrit and you're able to hear the entire torah reading from beginning to end, do you have to stick around for YOUR minyan's torah reading ...
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Shnayim Mikrah V'Echad Targum [duplicate]

If one is behind in his reading of Shnayim Mikrah , but isn't in the middle of a Parsha , may he skip to the current week's to be with the Tzibbur? ( sources are appreciated )
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Shnayim Mikre during Krias HaTorah

May one read "Shnayim Mikre V'Echad Targum" during the leining of Krias HaTorah on Shabbos morning?
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Keeping up with fast davening

My local shul in Johannesburg, South Africa is traditional with very few Yeshivah-background or even Shabbat-keeping members. They daven so fast I simply cannot keep up. Even if I skip most of Pesukei ...
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Torah reading on shabbos and going out to finish davening

There have been times on Shabbos that I have been still davening when the tzibbur starts Krias Hatorah. Is it halachically correct to go outside of the place where they're reading to a more quiet ...
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Why, in Yom Kippour and RH davening, when we say Tefilas responsively, does sometimes the baal Tefila go first, sometimes the congregation?

Why, in Yom Kippour and RH davening, when we say Tefilas responsively, does sometimes the baal Tefila go first, sometimes the congregation? For example, Shema Koilanu, aveenu Malkainu, the Baal tefila ...
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What do/can/should you do if you daven Succos Hallel slower than the tzibur, and why?

If you daven Hallel on Succos slower than the shaliach tzibur, what do you do when everyone else gets to the parts that involve oral responses and/or shaking the lulav? Is it better to join in with ...
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If I daven amida very slowly what do I do when the shatz reaches Kedusha?

I strive to synchronize my tefila with the tzibur on Shema and the beginning of Shmoneh Esra. However, I daven quite slowly (metoch nesyon kavana) and I am almost always somewhere in the middle when ...
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Where can one find frum friends?

I am a baal teshuvah for over 3 years; all of my friends are secular. After becoming religious I lost a lot of the interests that my secular friends are into and hence have not much in common with ...
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Why can't we distribute mitzvah obligations around the community?

How do we know from the Torah that it would not be sufficient just to have some people doing davening, others doing negel vasser, others doing tzitzit, others doing chachnosas kallah, others doing ...
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How can we get people to stop talking (much, loudly) during minyan?

I know that lots of minyanim have the talking problem; has anybody solved it? I daven with a weekday shacharit minyan that has a noise problem. A couple of people are the main sources of the problem ...
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Can a mistaken extra Mincha count for Ma'ariv?

This M.Y. answer states that one can daven Mincha until the stars appear. This answer states that it is also the earliest time to daven Ma'ariv. Someone enters a shul which gets a late start on ...
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Is it permissible to learn out loud while the tzibbur is davening?

In my local shul during mincha/maariv a daf yomi chabura learns out loud during davening in the same beis medrash as the rest of the tzibbur. Do they have a right to do so? The problem is that I ...
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Can I do the Hoashanas service if praying alone?

If one is not able to make it to a minyan one day during sukkos, can he still say or do any of the day's Hoshanas services? Would it be different on Hoshanah Rabbah because of the additions?
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Is one able to make two siyums in two different places

We have divided the 60 mishnayot of shas for a rebbis yahrzeit among talmidim on two continents. Let us say thirty on each. Since they all cannot attend one siyum can one make two. Although by the ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

My grandmother (mother's side) is 100% Jewish and even living in Israel. As far as I know, that makes, me a Jew, too. But it feels a little bit strange to say that I am Jewish just because my ...
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What are the parameters of Tircha D'Tzibbur

I often hear people throw around the term tircha d'tzibbur, that something being done is incorrect because it is a burden to the public or congregation. Usually I hear it being used for whatever ...
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saying aleinu with a minyon obligation

My Rabbi said that it is a halachah to interrupt (most places) in prayer to say aleinu together with a minyon. What is the source for this?
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How to start שחרית at the עמוד if one's already said ישתבח

Seemingly, if one is ahead of the congregation and reaches "Yishtabach", he should recite it. Now, suppose he does so, and then the fellow in charge of getting people to lead the services comes over ...
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Deliberately planning to do work for the community on Chol HaMoed: Is it allowed?

We are setting up a new (money) Gemach. To register as a charity, a bank account is now needed. We were told of this on Thursday around noon. We were unable (too busy getting ready for Yom Tov) to get ...
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How did Mordechai get *all* the Jews of Shushan to agree to fast for three days?

My question is a bit long-winded so I'll summarize first: How did Mordechai rouse the will of all the Jews of Shushan to agree to fast for three days? And further, why did Esther limit her request ...
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Can a Yachid follow his own opinion in a Tzibbur?

The Gemara in Yevamos (13b) says that there is a prohibition to make "Agudos Agudos", different groups of people following different rulings. However, the Gemara says that this is forbidden only if ...
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How to increase the demand for kosher food?

I live in the Hartford Connecticut area and while the population of people who practice the Jewish faith is increasing, the ability to find Kosher food is on the decline. Even the local Kosher grocery ...
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What's wrong with singing together? [duplicate]

I once saw a sign in a synagogue which announced a change in their custom. Originally, everyone would sing Kel Adon on Shabbat shacharit together. Now, each stanza is quietly recited by the ...
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Why have I never seen anyone “slicing the Shema”?

“Slicing the Shema” A good summary is to be found here, on the Israel Koschitzky Virtual Beit Midrash website. In short, “…. ten men who prayed alone can subsequently fulfill their obligations of ...
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Where in US can I go for sanctuary to repent of my intermarriage?

If a Jew is married to a non-Jew and wants to escape the marriage and repent, does the Jewish community (in the United States) provide a sanctuary that will facilitate the escape from the marriage and ...
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Are there communities that follow the Rambam?

At one point, many Sefardic communities followed the Mishneh Torah. As time went on, it seems that the sefardim accepted the Beit Yosef. Besides for Yemenites, were there any communities that, until ...
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Source for guest bed in Sedom as a parable for education

Shalom has quoted R. Yakov Kaminetsky as saying: R' Yaakov Kaminetsky pointed to the Gemara about the "guest bed" in Sodom, where if you were too short they stretched you; too tall, they cut off ...
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Is there a communal responsibility to ensure that its Torah scholars are dressed and groomed appropriately?

The Gemara in Mesekes Shabbos 114a teaches that a Torah scholar should not go out in stained or patched clothing, suggesting that one who goes out with a stain is subject to the "penalty of death." ...
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Can one be counted in a minyan if one has already davened?

Can one be counted in a minyan if one is present for Minchah/Ma’ariv but has already davened Minchah? Related question: Should I alter my schedule to daven Minchah with a minyan?
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Should I alter my schedule to daven Minchah with a minyan?

Is it better to wait to daven Minchah K’tanah if there’s a chance one could be finished working before sunset? Or is it okay to daven Minchah Gedolah and join the minyan for Ma’ariv, even though one ...
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What is the Halacha regarding Tachanun and Brit in the same shul?

I don't have the ArtScroll weekday Siddur in front of me, now, but essentially, it said that one does not say Tachanun in a shul where a Brit will occur during that day. If a Brit occurs anywhere in ...
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12-step recovery programs with Gentiles

Based on well-known results, 12-step programs based on Alcoholics Anonymous and branching out to narcotics and such, appear to be extremely effective. However, since Jews are roughly a 1:100 ...
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How do we meet Jews without the religious worship?

How can people of Jewish heritage meet others of like mind when they are new to a city? That is, without the trappings of organized RELIGIOUS worship, etc. We are an adult married couple, with adult ...
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Do I have to worry about “Maris Ayin” if my kashrut standards are different than the majority of a community?

Let's say I like to eat at "Deliware" (I borrowed this name from a place in Port Jervis, NY). The place is kosher with a reliable hechsher. I visit the town, and I know nothing about the community's ...
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Singing too loudly in shul

I can't find this ruling in the Shulchan Aruch, but isn't there a common understanding that an individual shouldn't pray/sing at the very top of their voice in shul (which annoys other congregants and ...
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Saying tachanun when the tzibbur doesn't

If one is davening at a minyan where they don't say tachanun, for reasons that the individual does not feel tachanun should be skipped for, should they say tachanun or skip it? If they should say it, ...