matchmaking; finding a spouse
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Segulot for finding a Shidduch
If someone is having a hard time finding a shidduch, what can they do to help the process along?
Are there any recommendations brought in the holy books that will make it easier?
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What are important topics to discuss before marriage?
Eventually, one is required to get married. In the process of selecting a marriage partner, what are important topics to discuss in the dating process?
In particular, I'm looking for topics that will ...
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Having children when both parents are Tay-Sachs carriers
This is an obvious CYLOR question, but I am interested in whatever halachic information is available out there.
Suppose a couple got married without ever getting genetically tested for Tay-Sachs. ...
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Praying at Amukah = Finding a mate. Since when?
Many people, I'm sure, have heard of the famous segulah for finding one's soulmate: praying at the grave of Yonasan ben Uziel in Amukah, Israel.
I'm not asking if this works, or why it would work, or ...
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Was Rabbi Akiva obligated to divulge that his daughter was destined to die on her wedding day?
Inspired by this question (perhaps even a duplicate).
From the Talmud (Shabbat 156b) (Soncino Translation):
From R. Akiba too [we learn that] Israel is free from planetary influence. For R. Akiba ...
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Can someone have more than one potential soulmate simultaneously?
I have been told from several different people that it is possible for one person to have multiple Besherts (divinely intended marriage partners, soulmates if you will) to choose from. He may only ...
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Does someone who dies very young have a soulmate?
As discussed in this question, the Talmud tells us that 40 days before someone is born, a heavenly voice calls out "This person is destined for so-and-so".
Not sure if anyone can answer this, but ...
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Genetic testing before the first date?
Let's lay down assumptions:
The shidduch dating system in which young men meet with young women to interact socially is permitted, and in fact practiced, only with the intention of potential ...
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Which authorities approve/disapprove of mixed events for singles?
Some weddings have mixed seating at the reception; some have separate seating.
Some organizations and communities encourage or at least allow mixed events for singles; some discourage or forbid them.
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Mitzvah for fathers to buy things for dating-age daughters?
I heard that men whose daughters are dating have a mitzvah to supply them with things that will help them, i.e. dresses, jewelry, etc. Is there a source for this?
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paying for an apartment
I recently came across an article describing the situation in Israel where in order to finalize an engagement, the parents have to pay for an entire apartment (not just a down payment, the whole ...
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Why didn't Avraham tell Eliezer to go get Rivka?
In Parshas Chayei Sara, Avraham tells Eliezer to go find a wife for Yitzchok from his family, כִּי אֶל אַרְצִי וְאֶל מוֹלַדְתִּי תֵּלֵךְ וְלָקַחְתָּ אִשָּׁה לִבְנִי לְיִצְחָק: and not from the ...
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What do you say when asked Shidduch information
Often when we are asked Shidduch information we are stuck between the Halachos of Lashon Hara. Suppose there is an illness you are aware of, however it really is not something that would affect a ...
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40 Days Before Conception
It is written somewhere (I don't remember exactly where) that 40 days before conception, it is called out in Heaven who that person will marry. However, if the person gets married multiple times how ...
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(How) was Tu B'Av observed as a matchmaking/singles-meeting event through history?
I know the Talmud describes how the fifteenth day of the month of Av (Tu b'Av) was a day of ... I'd say "matchmaking", but I think "marriage-minded-singles-meeting" is more like it:
אמר רבן שמעון ...
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Is the lemon slice added to a soda in many bars a problem kosher-wise?
Many bars (and hotel lobbies) will add a lemon wedge to the top of a glass of soda; often it's used to differentiate between Diet Coke (gets the lemon) and regular Coke (no lemon).
Does this pose a ...
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shiduch date haircut during sefira
Are you allowed to get a haircut during the Omer if you are going on a shiduch date?
