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Proper way for a man to urinate while standing

Maran HaShulḥan 'Arukh, citing the Talmud Bavli (Niddah 13B), states that a man must avoid holding his member when urinating (Oraḥ Ḥayim 3:14). That is, holding me'atarah u'lema'alah is forbidden ...
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What is the source and nature of the prohibition on premarital sex? [duplicate]

What is the source of the prohibition on premarital sex? Is it a Biblical prohibition? If not, what is the source and how is it derived? What is the nature of the prohibition? Is it an avera? Is it ...
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Is causing oneself to have an erection forbidden or just not recommended?

In the Mishneh Torah Hilchos Issurei Biah 21:19 it says: It is forbidden for a person to intentionally cause himself to have an erection or to bring himself to [sexual] thoughts. Yet in Niddah ...
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Who must initiate first in marital relations husband or wife?

Are there biblical/talmudic sources which note whether a husband or wife must initiate in their marital relations? There is a common conception that males must initiate because of their physicality as ...
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Are intimate not intercourse acts forbidden between same sex individuals [duplicate]

May two people of the same gender perform intimate (non-intercourse) acts, e.g. fondling, kissing on the lips etc. According to Halacha?
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The use of intimate relationship as a mashal for g-dliness in chasidus and kabala

I in a shiur a story was told that it was asked: Why the relations between a man and woman are used as the mashal (since for chastity it is preferred not to use it, if you have the option). And it ...
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Why does God hate sexual immorality?

After failing to curse the Jewish people, Bilaam advised Balak to lure the Jews into sexual immorality "for their God hates zimah" (Sanhedrin 106a). We also find that many cases of forbidden relations ...
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Which prohibition does one commit when viewing pornography?

Excluding wasting one's seed (hotzas zera l'vatelah) and Bittul Torah (wasting one's time by not learning Torah), which Jewish commandment or law (Biblical or Rabbinic) is one breaking when viewing ...
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Is pleasuring yourself without masturbation permitted in Judaism?

I know masturbation is aveira in Judaism, but what about stimulating one's sex organs without ejaculation? If I fear I may masturbate, is it permissible to touch or simulate my genitals but just not ...
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Which to choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed

If a man had to choose, which should he choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed? Someone told me that he was taught that relations with a non Jewish woman should be chosen (that is ...
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Intercourse with your ex-wife after giving the get

A man gave his wife a get. He then soon afterwards engaged in sexual intercourse with her. Would he be required to give another get? Possible reasons are that either the intercourse that took ...
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Tikkun for sex with a non jew?

The arizal says that it is a big sin to have sex with a non jew. If someone had sex with one how can he repent for that so he is not reincarnated as a dog?
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Does the talmud promote pedophilia?

http://truthtellers.org/alerts/Judaisms-Pedophilia-Begins-with-Rabbi-ben-Yohai.html The Talmud, highest authority for modern Talmudic Judaism, endorses pedophilia. It calls it "...
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No Blessing on marital relations?

Yebamoth 61b discusses the positive commandment of being fruitful and multiplying. As far as I am aware, one makes no blessing before intercourse. why not? Please cite sources!
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Is it forbidden to watch pornography? [duplicate]

I have heard that pornography is forbidden, but the reasons (most?) seem to be based upon statements in the Talmud that deal with situations where the potential for a sinful encounter may occur, from ...
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Can a man who has undergone a sex change give his wife a Get?

There have recently been some very high-profile cases of men refusing to give their wives Gittin (plural for "Get", the Jewish divorce document required to free a woman to remarry). Reading about one ...
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What teshuvot address educating children on inappropriate touch? [closed]

A friend of a non-observant family shared a story which inspired this question. Two cousins were playing together. The boy was about 7 years old. The girl was about 3 years old. Early on, the mother ...
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Why don't men go to the mikveh after relations/ejaculation?

Wayikra 15:16-18 טז וְאִישׁ, כִּי-תֵצֵא מִמֶּנּוּ שִׁכְבַת-זָרַע--וְרָחַץ בַּמַּיִם אֶת-כָּל-בְּשָׂרוֹ, וְטָמֵא עַד-הָעָרֶב. 16 יז וְכָל-בֶּגֶד וְכָל-עוֹר, אֲשֶׁר-יִהְיֶה עָלָיו שִׁכְבַת-...
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My observant boyfriend is forcing me to convert? Many Questions? [closed]

I have a few problems I would really like help with. I am not Jewish but have lived an orthodox lifestyle for the past 5 years. My boyfriend, who I love very much is orthodox and wants me to be as ...
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What is permissible on “anything-but” night (סמוך לוסתה)?

Please see here for the source that on the night of a woman's expected menstruation, anything other than "relations" proper is permitted. What acts are included under this permission? Put another way,...
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Married man seducing a woman about to convert

An Orthodox man seduces a woman in the process of converting, saying that he is separated from his wife while not yet divorced. He promises marriage to the woman converting and has relations with her. ...
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Kissing and Hugging one's wife

What does it say about chibuk and nishuk (kissing and hugging) shelo b'shas tashmish (not during relations) with one's wife in Sifrei Halacha or Hashkafa? Among madrichei chassanim (those that teach ...
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Is it ok to release seed outside of intercourse by one's wife? [duplicate]

Is a married male allowed to finish outside of intercourse by his wife who is ritually pure. In other words, is the only kosher form of intimacy considered releasing seed while inside of one's wife? ...
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Why did God created physical impulse towards the “wrong” women

When I was young and had struggles with my "yetzer hara" - sexual impulse, I was fascinated by the Jewish attitude towards that impulse. God created this impulse for a purpose. It is meant to push ...
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Are sex change operations prohibited for non-Jews?

In very specific situations some halachic decisors have permitted sex change operations, such as for infants born with some types of genital anomalies. However, the consensus seems to be that they ...
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Does Judaism permit sexual relationships outside of marriage?

I am eager to know more about different religions from Islam to Judaism. Furthermore, how different religions look at women and comparing their kinds of approaches to the matter of gender and ...
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May a couple forgo relations out of convenience?

In my chassan classes I was taught that it is important to have relations on the night a wife returns tahor from the mikvah. I do not know the source of this idea. My question is: May the couple ...
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Why is a bracha not recited before a married couple has intercourse? [duplicate]

As I understand it, we are to say a bracha when dealing with a birkhot ha'nehenin or a ‎birkhot hamitzvot. I have even heard Rabbis say that one must say a bracha before any pleasurable experience, as ...
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“Gay” people in the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah?

What do the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah say about people that "are gay" or have the desire to live that way? I'm not asking if it's a sin. I'm wondering how they "became gay" and how they can change? (I'...
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Sources for Hassidic views on marital celibacy/asceticism?

My understanding is the traditional view of Ger Hassidism was that marital celibacy was a good idea, once all procreative needs had been met. My impression is that Chabad-Lubavitch never advocated an ...
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is the clear liquid that comes out of man considered zera? [closed]

im a torah observant jew and have some questions regarding halachah i was hoping perhaps you could answer for me. is it permitted for a wife to massage her husbands prostrate (the sensitive part ...
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What are “the tokens of virginity”?

In Laws concerning Sexual Relations, Deut 22:13-21, there is a mention of a spurned young wife's "tokens of her virginity", that her own father or mother can "take and bring out". What were "the ...
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Is tearing the hymen something that should be avoided

I have always heard that tearing the hymen by beilas mitzva (first intercourse with a virgin after marriage) is a good thing and it should not be avoided (maybe to tear it is the mitzvah as it seems ...
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What technically constitutes adultery

I would like to better understand what exact physical acts constitute adultery between a married woman and a man that is not her husband?
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Do the Nine Measures Apply to the Woman?

Nedarim 20b discusses nine mannerisms which a man should avoid whilst being intimate with his wife. The Talmud says that practicing these nine mannerisms can lead to having obstinate, rebellious ...
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What is the point of having a rapist marry the woman he raped?

Deuteronomy 22:28-29 (JPS) 28  If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, that is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; 29 then the man that lay with ...
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Are there any Jewish groups that check for a newly married woman's virginity?

This question follows from: What are “the tokens of virginity”? Are there any Jewish groups then and now that check for a woman's virginity say by laying out a garment when marriage is first ...
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How do we know when the word ידע means intercourse or just (brain) knowledge?

I shall cite 3 verses. What I state below in terms of "plain" knowledge vs. intercourse is confirmed by Rash"i and / or other commentaries on each verse: 1 - Genesis 4:1 (excerpt): וְהָ֣אָדָ֔ם ...
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Transgender erva

Men's Health magazine has been in the news lately because of a contest in which people can vote on who will be on the magazine's cover. Currently leading in the voting is a transgender person who was ...
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Does casual sex establish a marriage?

Do premarital sexual relations effect Kiddushin (betrothal/first step of Jewish marriage) if there is no intention of getting married? If so, is the physical act itself determinative of whether or ...
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Praying in this condition

Some times, like just after waking-up, men have an erection. But what if one just woke up and wants to say the Mode Ani, must he wait for it to pass or can he say it as is? Would it be disrespectful ...
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How was Tevilas Ezra effective in limiting conjugal relations?

Many go to mikve (perform ritual immersion) every morning. One reason for this is voluntary continuation of a cancelled decree, Tevilas Ezra, meant to limit conjugal relations by requiring immersion ...
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Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship?

Would a baalat teshuva need a get from each previous sexual relationship? In light of the idea that marriage can be contracted solely through bi'ah/public knowledge of the couple's relationship (as ...
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Can one aquire regular objects through biya?

The Mishna (Kiddushin 1:1) tell us that one can acquire a wife through money (kinyan), documents (shtar) or biya (intercourse). The first two are commonly used to buy and sell regular objects, but ...
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Do the laws of Negiah depend on sexual orientation?

The Rambam writes (Hilchos Isurei Biah 21:1): כל הבא על ערווה מן העריות דרך אברים, או שחיבק ונישק דרך תאווה ונהנה בקירוב בשר--הרי זה לוקה מן התורה One who comes upon one of the Arayos via ...
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Relations twice as segulah for boy — What about zugos?

I had asked what is the source for the segulah of having relations twice in order to have a boy. I first asked this in order to obtain a source to better ask this question. The Gemorah says in Niddah ...
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Clarifying the prohibition of Mishkav Zachar

Vayikra 18:22 teaches the prohibition of penetrating a man: וְאֶת-זָכָר — לֹא תִשְׁכַּב, מִשְׁכְּבֵי אִשָּׁה: תּוֹעֵבָה, הִוא. Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind; it is ...
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Remedy for Desire for a Married Woman

Background: We are all human and sometimes tend towards the evil inclination. At times we successfully fight against the inappropriate feelings, thoughts, actions, etc. At other times we don't do so ...
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Should lust for one's wife be curbed?

According to Judaism illicit relations are forbidden. I always thought that the way one can control his lustful desires is by marrying. In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man ...
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Source for story about The Rabbi and the prostitute

I learned a great Gemara about a rabbi who visited a famous prostitute. But before he consummated the deal, his tallitot slapped him on the face, reminding him of his faith. Where's the story? Any ...