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specification of premarital sex

I read on this site that: "A born-Jewish woman who has had premarital relations may marry a kohen only if all of her partners were Jewish.". How is premarital relations described in Judaism for this ...
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What is the motivation behind the obligated number of times different workers are required to fulfill their conjugal rights obligations?

In Hilchot Ishut the Rambam gives different requirements to men to fulfill their conjugal rights obligations (http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/952888/jewish/Ishut-Chapter-Fourteen.htm). ...
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Bracha on Dam Basulim

There is a bracha (blessing) made after the first time a Chosson and Kallah have relations in the case that she was a basuleh (when there was a complete bia.) The makor for this Bracha is the Rosh (...
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The use of intimate relationship as a mashal for g-dliness in chasidus and kabala

I in a shiur a story was told that it was asked: Why the relations between a man and woman are used as the mashal (since for chastity it is preferred not to use it, if you have the option). And it ...
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What is permissible on “anything-but” night (סמוך לוסתה)?

Please see here for the source that on the night of a woman's expected menstruation, anything other than "relations" proper is permitted. What acts are included under this permission? Put another way,...
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What Chasam Sofer writes in regards to a Kohen Gadol marrying a Basuleh

The Chasam Sofer in Toras Moshe Parsha Emor writes the following: A cohen should marry a basuleh (virgin). The Ramabm counts this as a Mitzvas aseh (positive commandment). However one could have ...
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Would a violated woman be allowed to remain married to her Cohen husband?

As a continuation from my last question, Would looking away help a Cohen stay Married to his wife?, would a raped woman be allowed to live with her Cohen husband? Would there be room to allow them to ...
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Wife's conjugal rights [duplicate]

I understand that a wife has a conjugal rights depending on the occupation of the husband (2 times a week, 1 time a week, on Friday night, one time a month, 1 time in 6 months, 1 time a year) And ...
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How to explain the start of Parsha Pinchas to bar/bat mitzva kids

How do you go about dealing with the adult nature of the beginning of the Parsha Pinchas to kids aged 12 or 13? Any on-line material you suggest, suitable for kids this young, on that part of the ...
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Can a Ba'al Qeri act as Shaliahh Tzibbur?

The question arises in the Halakhah (Qitzur Shulhhan Arukh, Yalqut Yosef, Orahh Hayim 88:1) as to whether a Ba'al Qeri (one who has recently released his seed) is permitted to read Qeri'at Shema' and ...
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Did Yishai sin?

Did Yishai sin? The gemarah (shabbat 55b) states pretty clearly that he did not; however, the midrash (Yalkut HaMakiri, cited here) seems to indicate that he separated from his wife for an extended ...
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Kedusha during relations

I have heard that the highest potential for kedusha and the highest potential to experience or perceive yichud Hashem is during relations. 1- Is there a source for this idea? 2- Assuming that this ...
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Is it forbidden to watch pornography? [duplicate]

I have heard that pornography is forbidden, but the reasons (most?) seem to be based upon statements in the Talmud that deal with situations where the potential for a sinful encounter may occur, from ...
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Having a girlfriend

Is there anything wrong with a young man who is not looking to get married having a girlfriend? Assume that he would not touch her or have sex with her.
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Is a virgin birth possible according to rabbinic judaism? If the mother was betrothed, is the child a mamzer?

Nothing to do with any other religions, but is there anything in the sources that speak about whether or not a woman could become pregnant without relations? Due to the negative feedback, I can frame ...
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Is allowed for a non tohor (unclean) person to read the Tanach?

If a person wakes up but is not sure if what came out of his body is a tiny amount of semen or not. Is he permitted to read the Tanach or study Torah before becoming pure again on the evening?
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Why doesn't dam chimud (seeing each other at the wedding) ban relations the first night?

The Gemara said that when someone asks another to marry, there's a concern for dam chimmud. That's why chosson & kalla shouldn't see each other during the week before the wedding. But they see ...
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Is a couple who got divorced allowed to be together?

Are a couple who divorced from each other allowed back together intimately?
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is the clear liquid that comes out of man considered zera? [closed]

im a torah observant jew and have some questions regarding halachah i was hoping perhaps you could answer for me. is it permitted for a wife to massage her husbands prostrate (the sensitive part ...
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Tikkun for sex with a non jew?

The arizal says that it is a big sin to have sex with a non jew. If someone had sex with one how can he repent for that so he is not reincarnated as a dog?
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Bal Keri and Learning

Many are stringent: if they become a bal keri (have a nocturnal emission) for any reason they don't learn or pray before going to the mikveh ("tevilas ezra"). However, even according to those that are ...
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Are intimate not intercourse acts forbidden between same sex individuals [duplicate]

May two people of the same gender perform intimate (non-intercourse) acts, e.g. fondling, kissing on the lips etc. According to Halacha?
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Why is a bracha not recited before a married couple has intercourse? [duplicate]

As I understand it, we are to say a bracha when dealing with a birkhot ha'nehenin or a ‎birkhot hamitzvot. I have even heard Rabbis say that one must say a bracha before any pleasurable experience, as ...
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we often talk about men's strong sexual desires but i have never heard someone speak about women. [duplicate]

if a married women has unusually strong needs, should she try to control them or are they perfectly acceptable? is it ok for her to masturbate with or without her husband's presence?
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Does guarding the eyes apply equally in all cases?

When the imperative to guard your eyes is brought about the first thing I think of is a man that is careful with what he sees with regards to immodest women. However, there are other case when this ...
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What is the tikkun for a unmarried Jewish man that slept with a non Jewish woman with protection?

Chabad.org org quotes: (Deut. 7:3): "You shall not marry them (the gentiles, about which the Bible speaks in the previous verses), you shall not give your daughter to their son and you shall ...
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Why create lust?

Why did G-d create lust (i.e. boys and girls)?
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How do we know that homosexual relations is a sin?

I recently heard that the Ibn Ezra brings down a minority opinion that the pasukim talking about "laying with a man as you would a woman" are actually talking about androgynous people. The Ibn Ezra ...
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Where is the story about Elazar ben Durdayah and the harlot?

My rebbe mentioned to us that just as Elazar ben Durdayah was at about to have cohabitation with harlot, she passed gas. The harlot said to Elazar ben Durdayah, "Just as this current of air cannot ...
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Why can't one have marital relations with the light on?

The Gemara forbids relations during the day or by the light of a lamp (Niddah 17). According to tradition, relations should take place at night and in the dark. Why is one not allowed to have the ...
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Are Pilgashim used as “place holders” in a man's life?

Is it normal for a Jewish man to have a pilegesh to take care of physical needs when he is not yet married? By "pilegesh" I mean a woman who is temporarily monogamous with him for the purpose of sex, ...
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Teshuvah for emissions?

So let's say a man had a emission at night or in the morning, would he need to do anything, like teshuvah wise? What exactly does a person do when he wakes up and realises he just had an emission? ...
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Is tearing the hymen something that should be avoided

I have always heard that tearing the hymen by beilas mitzva (first intercourse with a virgin after marriage) is a good thing and it should not be avoided (maybe to tear it is the mitzvah as it seems ...
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How, if at all, can “frum” Jewish men justify their consorting with prostitutes?

A friend of mine is a part-time magistrate in Sullivan County, New York. He often hears cases of hasidic men being caught with prostitutes. Moreover, he tells me that the cases of STDs among hasidim ...
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Is this aphorism about gentiles as problematic as it seems? [closed]

I often hear among younger, apparently fromm men the aphorism "[gentile women]1 are for [sexual] practice". This has always struck me as bizarre, due to the importance of the reproductive act for its ...
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If staring at women is such a big aveira how come rabbis are permitted to give shiurim to women?

There are many great rabbis that I know who also give classes to women. Every where else I see that guarding your eyes is of crucial importance, but how are rabbis who look directly at women for long ...
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Is pleasuring yourself without masturbation permitted in Judaism?

I know masturbation is aveira in Judaism, but what about stimulating one's sex organs without ejaculation? If I fear I may masturbate, is it permissible to touch or simulate my genitals but just not ...
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Jewish Marriage and Pleasure

The perspective of a Jewish Marriage is to have children. However, is one allowed to have intercourse for pleasure?
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Does the talmud promote pedophilia?

http://truthtellers.org/alerts/Judaisms-Pedophilia-Begins-with-Rabbi-ben-Yohai.html The Talmud, highest authority for modern Talmudic Judaism, endorses pedophilia. It calls it "...
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How could two prostitutes come to Solomon if prostitution was prohibited by the Torah?

According to 1 Kings 3:16-28, two prostitutes came to Solomon for a judgment over their dispute. Then two prostitutes came to the king and stood before him... Then the king answered and said, “...
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Clarifying the prohibition of Mishkav Zachar

Vayikra 18:22 teaches the prohibition of penetrating a man: וְאֶת-זָכָר — לֹא תִשְׁכַּב, מִשְׁכְּבֵי אִשָּׁה: תּוֹעֵבָה, הִוא. Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind; it is ...
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Is a Jew required to be married? [duplicate]

Is there a halacha that says a Jew must get married? How serious is it? What if a Jew is not married and remains a bachelor all their life, having sex? Please support your answers from Tanach and ...
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Who must initiate first in marital relations husband or wife?

Are there biblical/talmudic sources which note whether a husband or wife must initiate in their marital relations? There is a common conception that males must initiate because of their physicality as ...
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Married man seducing a woman about to convert

An Orthodox man seduces a woman in the process of converting, saying that he is separated from his wife while not yet divorced. He promises marriage to the woman converting and has relations with her. ...
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Is Sex Outside Marriage Still a Sin After the Invention of Paternity Tests?

I asked something like this. The reasoning if I can remember: You should not sell your daughter as prostitute. Rambam said that all sex outside marriage is prostitution. Therefore sex outside ...
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Can one aquire regular objects through biya?

The Mishna (Kiddushin 1:1) tell us that one can acquire a wife through money (kinyan), documents (shtar) or biya (intercourse). The first two are commonly used to buy and sell regular objects, but ...
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The beautiful captive vs. self-pleasure

If a soldier is in battle and meets an attractive woman, there is a dispensation for him to have her. Opinions differ as to whether he can rape her or whether it must be consensual, and how many times ...