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Pleasure of woman at the end of relations (source in Chazal?)

I heard that it says in chazal the woman only has pleasure at the end ("gamar bia") of tashmish (relations). Is there any source/citation for this?
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Segulah for having a boy

I have heard before that a segulah for having a boy is to have relations with one's wife twice in one night. I remember hearing this in the name of Chazal. Does anyone know the makor for it?
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Urgency of resuming relations after niddah

What is the urgency of a husband and wife resuming relations after the niddah period? Where is the line drawn between conflicts that warrant pushing off relations, and those that do not warrant it? ...
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Tashmish Ha-Mitah B'yom (Marital Relations by day.)

It says in Shulchan Aruch Siman 240 Sif 11 that it's prohibited to have marital relations by day unless the house is dark ("Bayis Afel".) The Rema adds that a Talmid Chacham that covers himself with ...
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How was Er considererd to be married to Tamar?

The gemarah (yevamos 34b) indicates that Er slept with Tamar sh'lo k'darka. If this is the case how was Er ever married to Tamar if the injunction of the pasuk וְדָבַק בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ (Bereshis 2:24) is ...
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Explanation in Rokeach in regard to kissing ones wife

The Rokeach in Hilchos Niddah (see here) discusses the results of certain events or actions by the parents prior to conception, affecting the build or personality of the child. One case he brings is: ...
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Is rape considered yehareig v'al yaavor?

Since Deut. 22:25-26 equates rape with murder, would a man be required to give up his life rather than commit rape?
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Shaving pubic hair before the mikveh

Many (I would assume most?) women shave most all parts of their body before going to the mikveh (arm pits, legs, many take care of the hairs on their face to look nicer or to remove them altogether.) ...
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Why is the period of Shovavim connected to tikkun habris?

Please see this question and answers for background information. What is the reason that the period of Shovavim is used to address tikkun habris (sexual sins)? Why is this time period auspicious for ...
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halachic definition of Zera

When a couple is having intimate relations, during foreplay, is the clear liquid that emits from the male organ considered Zera? Is a wife permitted to stimulate the male organ knowing that these pre ...
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Process for a rebellious wife?

In the talmud the Rabbis discuss a "rebellious wife" who refuses to sleep with her husband. The husband is given recourse to deduct from her ketubah (marriage contract). This is discussed in tractate ...
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May a woman think about another man during relations? [duplicate]

I understand the talmud says that a man may not think about another woman during marital relations, does the same prohibition apply to the woman?
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Are there any Jewish groups that check for a newly married woman's virginity?

This question follows from: What are “the tokens of virginity”? Are there any Jewish groups then and now that check for a woman's virginity say by laying out a garment when marriage is first ...
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Should I be giving a get to my girlfriends after a breakup? [duplicate]

I have some knowledge of Jewish law, but it seems ambiguous to me in some areas, either because there are differing opinions, or no one has really explained to me the reasons for the opinions to be ...
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Looking at clothing of a woman

It says in Shulchan Aruch Evan HaEzer Siman 21 Sif 1 that it's ossur to look at the colored clothing of a woman that you know even if she is not wearing them, lest one come to "hirhurim" (to think ...
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Why does the Rambam (Maimonides) equate all sex outside marriage as prostitution?

Shalom told me about it in his answer to this question: What does adultery mean in the 7th commandment? That Si'naf in 7 commandments means only having sex with someone else' wife. However, judaism ...
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Must a bride represented as virgin bleed on sheets for marriage to be valid?

I had heard that from Orthodox practice that a lady upon first marriage is expected to be a virgin and is represented as such, and that the couple are placed in a room right after the wedding to ...
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Why does the “Dorff teshuva” of the Conservative movement say that homosexual relations are a *rabbinic* prohibition?

In a teshuva issued by the Conservative Movement entitled Rituals and Documents of Marriage and Divorce for Same-Sex Couples by Rabbis Elliot Dorff, Daniel Nevins and Avram Reisner, it is claimed in a ...
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specification of premarital sex

I read on this site that: "A born-Jewish woman who has had premarital relations may marry a kohen only if all of her partners were Jewish.". How is premarital relations described in Judaism for this ...
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Lot's Daughters

Why did Lot's daughters have relations with their father?
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Marital relations if pregnancy is potentially life-threatening?

A while ago, I was poking around the Catholic section of Reddit, since I was curious about how the topic of birth control might be handled within it. In a comment to one post, someone stated that his ...
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What are “the tokens of virginity”?

In Laws concerning Sexual Relations, Deut 22:13-21, there is a mention of a spurned young wife's "tokens of her virginity", that her own father or mother can "take and bring out". What were "the ...
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Bracha on Dam Basulim

There is a bracha (blessing) made after the first time a Chosson and Kallah have relations in the case that she was a basuleh (when there was a complete bia.) The makor for this Bracha is the Rosh ...
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What Chasam Sofer writes in regards to a Kohen Gadol marrying a Basuleh

The Chasam Sofer in Toras Moshe Parsha Emor writes the following: A cohen should marry a basuleh (virgin). The Ramabm counts this as a Mitzvas aseh (positive commandment). However one could have ...
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Looking for more information on the bridal virginity blessing

The blessing on bridal virginity is recorded in the Halakhot Gedolot but dismissed by the Rambam in Teshuvot Harambam, II:364-365, #207. What is the original source for this blessing? Do other ...
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Is a woman forbidden to destroy her seed? [duplicate]

Halachikly is a lady forbidden to masturbate? I would like to know both when she is on her own aa well as during foreplay.
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How to explain the start of Parsha Pinchas to bar/bat mitzva kids

How do you go about dealing with the adult nature of the beginning of the Parsha Pinchas to kids aged 12 or 13? Any on-line material you suggest, suitable for kids this young, on that part of the ...
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Can a Ba'al Qeri act as Shaliahh Tzibbur?

The question arises in the Halakhah (Qitzur Shulhhan Arukh, Yalqut Yosef, Orahh Hayim 88:1) as to whether a Ba'al Qeri (one who has recently released his seed) is permitted to read Qeri'at Shema' and ...
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Did Yishai sin?

Did Yishai sin? The gemarah (shabbat 55b) states pretty clearly that he did not; however, the midrash (Yalkut HaMakiri, cited here) seems to indicate that he separated from his wife for an extended ...
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Is troilism with someone's two wives allowed? [closed]

According to Nedarim 20b, "All that a man wants to do with his wife he may do". If someone has two wives (a sefardi for exemple), can he have a sexual intercourse with his two wives at the same ...
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How was Tevilas Ezra effective in limiting conjugal relations?

Many go to mikve (perform ritual immersion) every morning. One reason for this is voluntary continuation of a cancelled decree, Tevilas Ezra, meant to limit conjugal relations by requiring immersion ...
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How do we know that homosexual relations is a sin?

I recently heard that the Ibn Ezra brings down a minority opinion that the pasukim talking about "laying with a man as you would a woman" are actually talking about androgynous people. The Ibn Ezra ...
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Having a girlfriend

Is there anything wrong with a young man who is not looking to get married having a girlfriend? Assume that he would not touch her or have sex with her.
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Is a virgin birth possible according to rabbinic judaism? If the mother was betrothed, is the child a mamzer?

Nothing to do with any other religions, but is there anything in the sources that speak about whether or not a woman could become pregnant without relations? Due to the negative feedback, I can frame ...
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Is allowed for a non tohor (unclean) person to read the Tanach?

If a person wakes up but is not sure if what came out of his body is a tiny amount of semen or not. Is he permitted to read the Tanach or study Torah before becoming pure again on the evening?
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Is a couple who got divorced allowed to be together?

Are a couple who divorced from each other allowed back together intimately?
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Why doesn't dam chimud (seeing each other at the wedding) ban relations the first night?

The Gemara said that when someone asks another to marry, there's a concern for dam chimmud. That's why chosson & kalla shouldn't see each other during the week before the wedding. But they see ...
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Would a violated woman be allowed to remain married to her Cohen husband?

As a continuation from my last question, Would looking away help a Cohen stay Married to his wife?, would a raped woman be allowed to live with her Cohen husband? Would there be room to allow them to ...
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Bal Keri and Learning

Many are stringent: if they become a bal keri (have a nocturnal emission) for any reason they don't learn or pray before going to the mikveh ("tevilas ezra"). However, even according to those that are ...
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Does guarding the eyes apply equally in all cases?

When the imperative to guard your eyes is brought about the first thing I think of is a man that is careful with what he sees with regards to immodest women. However, there are other case when this ...
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Kedusha during relations

I have heard that the highest potential for kedusha and the highest potential to experience or perceive yichud Hashem is during relations. 1- Is there a source for this idea? 2- Assuming that this ...
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Why create lust?

Why did G-d create lust (i.e. boys and girls)?
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Why can't one have marital relations with the light on?

The Gemara forbids relations during the day or by the light of a lamp (Niddah 17). According to tradition, relations should take place at night and in the dark. Why is one not allowed to have the ...
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What is the tikkun for a unmarried Jewish man that slept with a non Jewish woman with protection?

Chabad.org org quotes: (Deut. 7:3): "You shall not marry them (the gentiles, about which the Bible speaks in the previous verses), you shall not give your daughter to their son and you shall ...
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How, if at all, can “frum” Jewish men justify their consorting with prostitutes?

A friend of mine is a part-time magistrate in Sullivan County, New York. He often hears cases of hasidic men being caught with prostitutes. Moreover, he tells me that the cases of STDs among hasidim ...
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Is this aphorism about gentiles as problematic as it seems? [closed]

I often hear among younger, apparently fromm men the aphorism "[gentile women]1 are for [sexual] practice". This has always struck me as bizarre, due to the importance of the reproductive act for its ...
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Where is the story about Elazar ben Durdayah and the harlot?

My rebbe mentioned to us that just as Elazar ben Durdayah was at about to have cohabitation with harlot, she passed gas. The harlot said to Elazar ben Durdayah, "Just as this current of air cannot ...
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Jewish Marriage and Pleasure

The perspective of a Jewish Marriage is to have children. However, is one allowed to have intercourse for pleasure?
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If staring at women is such a big aveira how come rabbis are permitted to give shiurim to women?

There are many great rabbis that I know who also give classes to women. Every where else I see that guarding your eyes is of crucial importance, but how are rabbis who look directly at women for long ...
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How could two prostitutes come to Solomon if prostitution was prohibited by the Torah?

According to 1 Kings 3:16-28, two prostitutes came to Solomon for a judgment over their dispute. Then two prostitutes came to the king and stood before him... Then the king answered and said, ...