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Who must initiate first in marital relations husband or wife?

Are there biblical/talmudic sources which note whether a husband or wife must initiate in their marital relations? There is a common conception that males must initiate because of their physicality as ...
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Are intimate not intercourse acts forbidden between same sex individuals [duplicate]

May two people of the same gender perform intimate (non-intercourse) acts, e.g. fondling, kissing on the lips etc. According to Halacha?
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The use of intimate relationship as a mashal for g-dliness in chasidus and kabala

I in a shiur a story was told that it was asked: Why the relations between a man and woman are used as the mashal (since for chastity it is preferred not to use it, if you have the option). And it ...
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Is pleasuring yourself without masturbation permitted in Judaism?

I know masturbation is aveira in Judaism, but what about stimulating one's sex organs without ejaculation? If I fear I may masturbate, is it permissible to touch or simulate my genitals but just not ...
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Why does God hate sexual immorality?

After failing to curse the Jewish people, Bilaam advised Balak to lure the Jews into sexual immorality "for their God hates zimah" (Sanhedrin 106a). We also find that many cases of forbidden relations ...
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Tikkun for sex with a non jew?

The arizal says that it is a big sin to have sex with a non jew. If someone had sex with one how can he repent for that so he is not reincarnated as a dog?
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Intercourse with your ex-wife after giving the get

A man gave his wife a get. He then soon afterwards engaged in sexual intercourse with her. Would he be required to give another get? Possible reasons are that either the intercourse that took ...
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Which to choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed

If a man had to choose, which should he choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed? Someone told me that he was taught that relations with a non Jewish woman should be chosen (that is ...
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Which prohibition does one commit when viewing pornography?

Excluding wasting one's seed (hotzas zera l'vatelah) and Bittul Torah (wasting one's time by not learning Torah), which Jewish commandment or law (Biblical or Rabbinic) is one breaking when viewing ...
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What teshuvot address educating children on inappropriate touch? [closed]

A friend of a non-observant family shared a story which inspired this question. Two cousins were playing together. The boy was about 7 years old. The girl was about 3 years old. Early on, the mother ...
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My observant boyfriend is forcing me to convert? Many Questions? [closed]

I have a few problems I would really like help with. I am not Jewish but have lived an orthodox lifestyle for the past 5 years. My boyfriend, who I love very much is orthodox and wants me to be as ...
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Why don't men go to the mikveh after relations/ejaculation?

Wayikra 15:16-18 טז וְאִישׁ, כִּי-תֵצֵא מִמֶּנּוּ שִׁכְבַת-זָרַע--וְרָחַץ בַּמַּיִם אֶת-כָּל-בְּשָׂרוֹ, וְטָמֵא עַד-הָעָרֶב. 16 יז וְכָל-בֶּגֶד וְכָל-עוֹר, אֲשֶׁר-יִהְיֶה עָלָיו שִׁכְבַת-...
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Proper way for a man to urinate while standing

Maran HaShulḥan 'Arukh, citing the Talmud Bavli (Niddah 13B), states that a man must avoid holding his member when urinating (Oraḥ Ḥayim 3:14). That is, holding me'atarah u'lema'alah is forbidden ...
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Married man seducing a woman about to convert

An Orthodox man seduces a woman in the process of converting, saying that he is separated from his wife while not yet divorced. He promises marriage to the woman converting and has relations with her. ...
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What is permissible on “anything-but” night (סמוך לוסתה)?

Please see here for the source that on the night of a woman's expected menstruation, anything other than "relations" proper is permitted. What acts are included under this permission? Put another way,...
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Is it ok to release seed outside of intercourse by one's wife? [duplicate]

Is a married male allowed to finish outside of intercourse by his wife who is ritually pure. In other words, is the only kosher form of intimacy considered releasing seed while inside of one's wife? ...
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What is the source and nature of the prohibition on premarital sex? [duplicate]

What is the source of the prohibition on premarital sex? Is it a Biblical prohibition? If not, what is the source and how is it derived? What is the nature of the prohibition? Is it an avera? Is it ...
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Why did God created physical impulse towards the “wrong” women

When I was young and had struggles with my "yetzer hara" - sexual impulse, I was fascinated by the Jewish attitude towards that impulse. God created this impulse for a purpose. It is meant to push ...
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Why is a bracha not recited before a married couple has intercourse? [duplicate]

As I understand it, we are to say a bracha when dealing with a birkhot ha'nehenin or a ‎birkhot hamitzvot. I have even heard Rabbis say that one must say a bracha before any pleasurable experience, as ...
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“Gay” people in the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah?

What do the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah say about people that "are gay" or have the desire to live that way? I'm not asking if it's a sin. I'm wondering how they "became gay" and how they can change? (I'...
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Is causing oneself to have an erection forbidden or just not recommended?

In the Mishneh Torah Hilchos Issurei Biah 21:19 it says: It is forbidden for a person to intentionally cause himself to have an erection or to bring himself to [sexual] thoughts. Yet in Niddah ...
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is the clear liquid that comes out of man considered zera? [closed]

im a torah observant jew and have some questions regarding halachah i was hoping perhaps you could answer for me. is it permitted for a wife to massage her husbands prostrate (the sensitive part ...
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What technically constitutes adultery

I would like to better understand what exact physical acts constitute adultery between a married woman and a man that is not her husband?
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Is tearing the hymen something that should be avoided

I have always heard that tearing the hymen by beilas mitzva (first intercourse with a virgin after marriage) is a good thing and it should not be avoided (maybe to tear it is the mitzvah as it seems ...
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How do we know when the word ידע means intercourse or just (brain) knowledge?

I shall cite 3 verses. What I state below in terms of "plain" knowledge vs. intercourse is confirmed by Rash"i and / or other commentaries on each verse: 1 - Genesis 4:1 (excerpt): וְהָ֣אָדָ֔ם ...
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Praying in this condition

Some times, like just after waking-up, men have an erection. But what if one just woke up and wants to say the Mode Ani, must he wait for it to pass or can he say it as is? Would it be disrespectful ...
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Remedy for Desire for a Married Woman

Background: We are all human and sometimes tend towards the evil inclination. At times we successfully fight against the inappropriate feelings, thoughts, actions, etc. At other times we don't do so ...
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Should lust for one's wife be curbed?

According to Judaism illicit relations are forbidden. I always thought that the way one can control his lustful desires is by marrying. In the Garden of Peace, Rabbi Shalom Arush says that a man ...
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Yosef sold into prostitution

I remember hearing of a source that states that Yosef was sold into prostitution, or some other form of sexual slavery, by his brothers, and not just plain slavery as is commonly assumed. Does such a ...
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Does the talmud promote pedophilia?

http://truthtellers.org/alerts/Judaisms-Pedophilia-Begins-with-Rabbi-ben-Yohai.html The Talmud, highest authority for modern Talmudic Judaism, endorses pedophilia. It calls it "...
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What is an overview of Judaism's arguments against the “unconscious violinist” analogy used to support abortion in the case of rape?

I am looking for the response of any denomination that is against abortion in the case of rape that has also responded to the scenario below or something similar to it. "A Defense of Abortion" (...
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Besides mishkav zachar, what is sexually forbidden between consenting non-Jewish males?

Vayikra 20:13 forbids anal intercourse according to Rashi who describes the offense as "inserting a paint stick in a tube." Since non-Jews are not generally subject to laws asur mi'd'rabbanin, no ...
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May a normally impotent Jewish man marry if he can use Viagra?

This is a question regarding the marriageability of a Jewish man who knows he has ED. Does the Law say he must still be naturally capable of sexual intercourse without chemical assistance in order to ...
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Is a bat kohen who has relations with a pasul (not marries) then forbidden from t'rumah?

Is a bat kohen who has relations with a pasul (not marries) then forbidden from t'rumah? I ask this because I'm having trouble understanding Noam Yerushalmi's explanation of Yerushalmi Yevamot 8:6 in ...
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Are Pilgashim used as “place holders” in a man's life?

Is it normal for a Jewish man to have a pilegesh to take care of physical needs when he is not yet married? By "pilegesh" I mean a woman who is temporarily monogamous with him for the purpose of sex, ...
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How often should one have marital intercourse with his wife?

What is the frequency of marital intercourse prescribed by Halacha? I am confused as the Talmud in Ketubot 61b says that for men of independent means it is every day. But the Rambam in Mishneh ...
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Wife's conjugal rights [duplicate]

I understand that a wife has a conjugal rights depending on the occupation of the husband (2 times a week, 1 time a week, on Friday night, one time a month, 1 time in 6 months, 1 time a year) And ...
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Is it forbidden to watch pornography? [duplicate]

I have heard that pornography is forbidden, but the reasons (most?) seem to be based upon statements in the Talmud that deal with situations where the potential for a sinful encounter may occur, from ...
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Is the consequence for rape a small sum?

I read somewhere that the consequence for rape, presuming the man does not marry the woman, is just 50 silver sheckels. This seems like a paltry sum compared to the crime that was committed. Is that ...
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we often talk about men's strong sexual desires but i have never heard someone speak about women. [duplicate]

if a married women has unusually strong needs, should she try to control them or are they perfectly acceptable? is it ok for her to masturbate with or without her husband's presence?
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halachic definition of Zera

When a couple is having intimate relations, during foreplay, is the clear liquid that emits from the male organ considered Zera? Is a wife permitted to stimulate the male organ knowing that these pre ...
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Is a virgin birth possible according to rabbinic judaism? If the mother was betrothed, is the child a mamzer?

Nothing to do with any other religions, but is there anything in the sources that speak about whether or not a woman could become pregnant without relations? Due to the negative feedback, I can frame ...
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Is wasting seed a sin for a gentile ? Especially if he wants to convert in the future?

I know that wasting seed is the worst sin in Judaism and a Jew who committed it is considered very wicked. Yet, I am not sure about wasting seed ? is it a sin or not ? I am a gentile wanting to ...
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Do any halachot change for a eunuch?

Do any halachot change if a man becomes (or is born) a eunuch? For example is he rabbinically allowed to listen to a woman's singing voice or be exposed to other sexually stimulating things if he is ...
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Is allowed for a non tohor (unclean) person to read the Tanach?

If a person wakes up but is not sure if what came out of his body is a tiny amount of semen or not. Is he permitted to read the Tanach or study Torah before becoming pure again on the evening?
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Which rabbis are knowledgeable about sexual dysfunction and accept Sholom Bayis questions? [closed]

I have a personal question for which I need the advice of a posek who is experienced in answering questions about Sholom Bayis and who has expertise with medical issues regarding sexual dysfunction. ...
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Does guarding the eyes apply equally in all cases?

When the imperative to guard your eyes is brought about the first thing I think of is a man that is careful with what he sees with regards to immodest women. However, there are other case when this ...
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Is rape considered yehareig v'al yaavor?

Since Deut. 22:25-26 equates rape with murder, would a man be required to give up his life rather than commit rape?
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Views of the the Rabbis on the organization הוד

What do the orthodox rabbis of different circles have to say about the organization הוד. הוד is a support group for homosexuals trying to reconcile their sexuality with their religious beliefs. Is ...
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Marital relations if pregnancy is potentially life-threatening?

A while ago, I was poking around the Catholic section of Reddit, since I was curious about how the topic of birth control might be handled within it. In a comment to one post, someone stated that his ...