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Are there any halachic issues with apologizing to a past shidduch before rosh hashanah?

If someone feels that there might have been some wrong doing during a past shidduch and would like to apologize before judgement day, can one do so or should he/she just let it be? The issues that ...
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How do you quit a pornography habit?

The Torah teaches that, if you're an unmarried man, watching pornography is harmful to your soul. See, for example, this article by Chabad rabbi Tzvi Freeman. (If you're married and need to watch ...
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“Upper Level Teshuva” for Zera LeVatala

In the Tanya, Iggeret HaTeshuva Perek 4, the Ba'al HaTanya writes that the statement "there is no teshuva for spilling seed" applies only to "lower teshuva" ("re-attaching the second hei to Hashem's ...
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Forty-nine gates of repentance

What exactly are the Shaarei Teshuvah, the 49 gates of repentance. Could someone list them?
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Tehillim Teshuvah

Within Shemot 1:1 out of the last letters of each of the words we can get - after rearranging the letters - the words: Tehillim Teshuvah. Could someone explain me the connection between Tehillim and ...
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Shovavim and idolatry

The initials of parashat Shemot to Mishpatim form the word Shovavim, which connect this period to Teshuva based on the verse of Jeremia 3:14 where the word Shovavim occurs. I also read this is a ...
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What exactly is the purpose of Tisha B'av?

So recently I was answering a question about why we don't say selichos on Tisha B'av,and I answered basicaly saying that the purpose on Tisha B'av isn't to ask for forgiveness, rather it is for ...
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How to do teshuva for making fun of a rabbinic explanation?

Does a non-Jew in the process of converting need to repent for making fun of a statement that was reportedly made by a Jewish sage (e.g. saying that 'no one with a mind can accept it')? If so, what do ...
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Teshuva for wasting seed

Is feeling remorse, praying for forgiveness and studying Torah enough to rectify the heavy sin of wasting seed ? I know that every sin has its own unique way of "correcting" or rectifying it. And ...
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When and why did we stop wearing sackcloth?

When and why did we stop wearing sackcloth in times of mourning and other times of distress (e.g., when fasting for rain)? (I presume sackcloth was quite uncomfortable.) Sackcloth is mentioned in ...
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Non-Jew : how to do teshuva for stealing?

I heard once that a Non-Jew had to pay back twice or three times the price of the object he stole to do teshuva. I can't find sources that confirm/infirm this. How can a Non-Jew do teshuva for having ...
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Purpose of Gilgulei Sheleg (rolling in snow)

what is the earliest source of the practice of gilgulei sheleg (rolling in snow)? also, what is the purpose of this and why specifically snow instead of cold water or whatever .
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What did the communal korbanot on Yom Kippur atone for?

The torah tells us to bring korbanot to atone for certain sins (when bringing korbanot is possible). In addition, on Yom Kippur the kohein gadol offers korbanot to atone for the whole people. What ...
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How can someone, halachically, do teshuva when s/he has offended an anonymous person on the internet?

Ramba"m among others, state that Yom Kippur does not atone for sins committed between a person and his neighbor until a person personally asks the other for forgiveness. Mi Yodeya is an example of ...
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What can I do to change myself permanently through the repentance process?

I find myself in much the same state each year before Rosh HaShono. I don't know what was wrong with my attempt at teshuva but the outcome was that despite my best intentions I have not accomplished ...
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Do I have to forgive a repeat offender?

If somebody has repeatedly wronged me (in the same way) in the past, am I obligated to keep forgiving him if he asks? On the one hand, maybe this time he finally is really doing teshuva; on the other ...
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Bracha of V'Lamalshinim

Brachos 28b Shmuel Hakattan coined the Bracha of V'Lamalshinim. Brachos 10a mentions a story where Rabbi Meir was being bothered by people and prayed for their demise. His wife Bruria tells him do ...
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Why couldn't the Jews do Teshuva by the incident of the spies?

After Hashem chastised the Jews for not wanting to go into Eretz Yisrael, and told them that they will have to die in the desert, the Jews seemed to have had a change of heart. A few even were willing ...
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Accidentally served a guest meat and milk

If someone accidentally served a guest a milk-and-meat combination and realized his mistake after the fact, should he ask the guest for mechilah (forgiveness)?
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What is the tikkun for a unmarried Jewish man that slept with a non Jewish woman with protection?

Chabad.org org quotes: (Deut. 7:3): "You shall not marry them (the gentiles, about which the Bible speaks in the previous verses), you shall not give your daughter to their son and you shall ...
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How does one rectify money fraud done earlier in his life?

If someone was not observant and was involved in fraudulent business deals (selling free ebooks on ebay, or claiming used items are new). Later in life, if this person became an Observant Jew what ...
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Does repentance remove effects of prior sexual assault?

Within the Laws of marriage in the Religious world, if someone was to be sexually abused or assaulted, however has done and experience properly the 5 stages of appropriate and acceptable Teshuvah does ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

My grandmother (mother's side) is 100% Jewish and even living in Israel. As far as I know, that makes, me a Jew, too. But it feels a little bit strange to say that I am Jewish just because my ...
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Is sincere repentance always accepted?

Must repentance be accepted by Gd? Is sincere repentance always accepted? Is repentance a form of prayer? (Not all prayer is accepted.)
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Teshuva and non-Jews?

The Rambam explains the basic requirements of doing teshuva and seeking forgiveness from another person: acknowledging the transgression, making amends, and seeking forgiveness (presumably publicly ...
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Teshuva for unknowingly or knowingly stealing [duplicate]

How should one repent for unknowingly or knowingly stealing but without a reachable or clear owner to return or to repay what was stolen? Also, what should be done with what was stolen after teshuva?
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Where in US can I go for sanctuary to repent of my intermarriage?

If a Jew is married to a non-Jew and wants to escape the marriage and repent, does the Jewish community (in the United States) provide a sanctuary that will facilitate the escape from the marriage and ...
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If a convert goes off the derekh, must he go to the mikvah again after he repents?

A female convert I know, who had stopped observing mitzvos for a few years, but then sought to return to the fold, was led to believe by someone that she would have to go again to the mikvah to ...
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Alternative Approaches to Prophetic Follow Through

This question discusses differences between positive and negative prophecy. The mentioned idea states that, while positive prophecy will always occur, negative prophecy may be negated by repentance. ...
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Why the custom at the end of Tashlich to shake off Tzitzis?

In the Siddur Nussach Ari it says by the end of Tashlich to shake the ends of your Tzitzis, I heard that this symbolizes the tossing of a persons sins in the depth of the water (as in the verse " ...
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what is good teshuva book

Elul and Yom Kippur are flying by fast. I am looking for something uplifting. Books on teshuva are usually quite depressing; too much talk about gehinom. Not that it's not good, just that it doesn't ...
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Getting “used to” making a change in davening

When we change to saying "mashiv haru'ach" one is required to recite the shmoneh esrei again if he is unsure if he made the insertion. This site points out that one becomes habituated after 30 days ...
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Does a convert have a clean slate?

When a non-jew converts to Jusaism, must he still do teshuva from past sins, or does the "reborn" concept stretch far enough to consider him "sinless"?
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Is it halachically permissible to apologize and rebuke someone simultaneously?

Recently, someone in my shul was angry at me because of something that I did not do properly for him. At the beginning of davening, he yelled at me about the problem, and embarrassed me in front of ...
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What's the point of Jeremiah 13:18–27?

In Jeremiah 13:18–27, Jeremiah is told to address the king and queen, telling them of the trouble that will come (using the prophetic past). Unlike many of the preceding chapters, where he tells the ...
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Rambam Hilchos Tshuvah 2:9

The halacha (Rambam Hilchos Tshuvah 2:9) mentions the difference between tshuvah on Yom Kippur regarding sinning between man and man, and man and HaShem. The middle of the halacha states even if one ...
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What are the implications of karet?

Does karet mean the soul will not ever enter the olam haba? Can teshuvah rectify the transgression which lead to the karet? Can that soul in another re-incarnation rectify the blemish of karet? By ...
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Does today's Yom Kippur observance atone for all sins?

I find the liturgical and rabbinic descriptions of the atonement process on Yom Kippur challenging. Without a Sanhedrin to mete out punishments for intentional sins, and no altar to bring offerings ...
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Source for praying and repentance on Fast days?

What is the source for the idea that fast days are not only for fasting and remorse on the past, but also for prayer and repentance for the future?
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Consistency vs. Forgiveness

Both as a responsible parent and as a Jew, I want to be consistent with my children. As a parent, in order to teach them that the rules are the rules and give them a sense of predictability to rely ...
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Bad dream about others

Someone had a dream that some very bad things happened to his friend/relative/other. What should someone do after having such a dream? Is this is a sign of something? Perhaps one should do Teshuva? ...
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Why doesn't God offer Sodom and Gemorrah the same chance to repent He offers Nineveh?

Why does God destroy Sodom and Gomorrah without warning, but offer Nineveh a chance to repent? The men who come to Lot's house could have just easily prophesied to the people of Sodom and Gomorrah ...
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What to do with stolen objects which are impossible to return?

If an object was stolen in one's childhood or teenage years, without knowledge of the laws regarding stealing (or not caring), if this object is impossible to return, either because the person has ...
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How did the Gedolim achieve fear of Yom HaDin when the Gemoro says daya letzarah beshatah?

The Gemoro says (Brachot 9b) dayah letzarah beshaatah. The way I understand this and I think Rashi learns like this as well, is that there is no point worrying about an upcoming Tzarah. If you can do ...
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Recividism and teshuvah

There is a rampant opinion that, since recidivism rates are so high, one can never trust and assume that a person has done teshuvah and no longer poses a threat to the public. I wonder if anyone can ...
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Who was the first person to repent?

Who was first person in history to do complete teshuva (repentance)?
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Would one say Kaddish for someone who forfeited his portion in the world to come?

Inspired by a recent discussion: Chazal tell us that someone who says "I will sin and I will repent, will not be given the opportunity to repent" (Mishna Yoma 8:9). Chazal also tell us that there ...
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Tshuva concerning sexual sins requires partner's exculpation?

If a person wants to do tshuva of the sexual sins committed, besides stopping the sin and asking G'd forgiveness, should the person also ask sorry to each woman that he had an inappropriate ...
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Why was there a need for Yona to be saved in a miraculous way?

What's the deal with Yona being swallowed by a fish (2:1)? Couldn't the same thing (i.e. him realizing his mistake) be achieved if he landed on an island?
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Why did the animals of Ninveh have to fast and wear sackcloth?

In Yona 3:7-8 we find that the people of Ninveh included the animals in their teshuva process. Why make the animals fast and don sackcloth? How was this part of the teshuva process?