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How do you do teshuva for saying lashon hara about someone that already passed away?

If someone might have said lashon hara by mistake unintentionally and quickly said something good, and the subject passed away. How can one do teshuvah?
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Teshuvah for emissions?

So let's say a man had a emission at night or in the morning, would he need to do anything, like teshuvah wise? What exactly does a person do when he wakes up and realises he just had an emission? ...
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Does teshuva remove punishment?

In Bamidbar 15, the text speaks of someone who commits an intentional sin (mentioning idolatry and blasphemy) and says that kareit is the punishment (if there was no warning) etc. Then the story of ...
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Does Kiddushin 81b imply that one opinion allows for suicide if that is the only way to keep from sinning?

The Gemoro in Kiddushin 81b brings down the following (shortened version of the) story: Rabbi Chiya Bar Ashi used to say 'May God save me from the Yetzer Hora'! When his wife overheard him she ...
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Does anyone agree with Rebbe Nachman that the Tikkun HaKlali is a teshuvah for all sins?

Rebbe Nachman of Breslov Zt"l apparently recommended reciting a series of ten psalms--plus several interpolated prayers--as a teshuvah for any sin, and particularly the questionable sin of involuntary ...
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Should you ask someone for forgiveness before Yom Kippur if doing so might embarrass them?

It is a mitzvah to beg for forgiveness on the eve of Yom Kippur from those you have wronged in the previous year. As I understand it, this is necessary at once as a practical tikkun; as a necessary ...
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Should you apologize before Yom Kippur for a wrongdoing that is more than a year old?

It is a mitzvah to beg for forgiveness on the eve of Yom Kippur from those you have wronged in the previous year. As I understand it, this is necessary at once as a practical tikkun; as a necessary ...
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How does one recover from Karet?

I know Teshuva will solve any transgression. Is there anything else that is required to heal one's self spiritually in the case of relations of a Jewish man with a Jewish woman who is a niddah?
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Why do we read Yona on Yom Kippur?

Why do we read Yona of all things on Yom Kippur? There are better tales of teshuvah that are more relevant to klall yisroel; why was this sefer, which deals exclusively with non-Jews doing teshuva, ...
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what is good teshuva book

Elul and Yom Kippur are flying by fast. I am looking for something uplifting. Books on teshuva are usually quite depressing; too much talk about gehinom. Not that it's not good, just that it doesn't ...
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“Upper Level Teshuva” for Zera LeVatala

In the Tanya, Iggeret HaTeshuva Perek 4, the Ba'al HaTanya writes that the statement "there is no teshuva for spilling seed" applies only to "lower teshuva" ("re-attaching the second hei to Hashem's ...
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How to repent for sins on “festive” days?

On certain days of the year, viduy may not be recited (month of nissan, hol hamoed, rosh hodesh, etc.). If one did make a sin on one of these days, how can he/she repent for the sin on that same day?
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Waiting to do teshuvah until 20

If a boy (teenager) learned he will not be punishesd until he is 20 and decides to go off the derech with the plan to do teshuvah at 20, would HaSh-m accept his teshuva?
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“Gay” people in the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah?

What do the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah say about people that "are gay" or have the desire to live that way? I'm not asking if it's a sin. I'm wondering how they "became gay" and how they can change? (I'...
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If you don't repent of a sin,will the consequence last forever?

Will Hashem punish you until you repent? Or has a sin a time limit? If you steal a car and you don't repent will Hashem punish you until you repent? If there is a time limit for sin can we ...
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Healing in the Torah and Talmud, how to receive healing from Hashem? [closed]

Healing in the Torah and Talmud, how to receive it? We see many in the Torah are healed by Hashem. I wonder is there some knowledge how to receive it and what is the connection? Like if you have pain ...
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Shovavim and idolatry

The initials of parashat Shemot to Mishpatim form the word Shovavim, which connect this period to Teshuva based on the verse of Jeremia 3:14 where the word Shovavim occurs. I also read this is a ...
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Because of forgetfulness, I caused other Jews to eat dairy after meat. What can I do to atone? [closed]

I baked carob brownies for tu b'shvat with butter. The next day, I made pareve barley soup and a dairy dessert. I took these (& other pareve stuff) to my son's house for a tu b'shvat seder. They ...
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Can bad prophecies be erased?

I've heard that G-d's (or neviim's) good decrees/prophecies can't be erased, but bad ones can if G-d sees that we repent. Is this a well-believed concept? What are the sources of this?
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Why are we strict during the 10 days of repentance?

The lone halacha in Shulchan Aruch O.C. 603: Even someone who is not careful about eating [pas akum], during the 10 days of repentance he must be careful. Since the S.A. didn't mention stringencies ...
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Did Rabbeinu Yonah write Shaarei Teshuva in response to the burning of the Gemara?

It is widely believed that Rabbeinu Yonah played a part in having the Rambam's works burned around 1232, and that after the 1242 burning of twenty-four wagonloads of Gemaras he felt that it was a ...
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Tehillim Teshuvah

Within Shemot 1:1 out of the last letters of each of the words we can get - after rearranging the letters - the words: Tehillim Teshuvah. Could someone explain me the connection between Tehillim and ...
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What exactly is the purpose of Tisha B'av?

So recently I was answering a question about why we don't say selichos on Tisha B'av,and I answered basicaly saying that the purpose on Tisha B'av isn't to ask for forgiveness, rather it is for ...
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Remedy for Desire for a Married Woman

Background: We are all human and sometimes tend towards the evil inclination. At times we successfully fight against the inappropriate feelings, thoughts, actions, etc. At other times we don't do so ...
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Understanding the Bracha of Hashiveinu in Shemoneh Esrei

It is commonly understood that God gave us free will to do good or evil. Similarly, it says in Gemara B'rachot (33b) that "Everything is in the hands of Heaven, except for the fear of Heaven." In ...
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Was sacrifice the only means of forgiveness, or prayer is also included?

Please note I am looking for ideally explicit verses from the Torah to establish these points. Is/was animal sacrifice the only means of seeking forgiveness? Can someone provide some verses which ...
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Seeking tips for avoiding rationalizing when doing heshbon nefesh (self-accounting)

Especially at this time of year (around the high holidays), we are to reflect on ourselves and do an accounting of our soul (heshbon nefesh). But all people are good at rationalizing what they do. ...
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Are there any halachic issues with apologizing to a past shidduch before rosh hashanah?

If someone feels that there might have been some wrong doing during a past shidduch and would like to apologize before judgement day, can one do so or should he/she just let it be? The issues that ...
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Is the Book of Life ever really sealed?

In davening and in greetings, we always refer to the "sealing" of the Book of Life. כתיבה וחתימה טובה1 we say; בראש השנה יכתבון וביום צום כיפורים יחתמון2 we pray. Wikipedia says: The High ...
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What do the letters of Teshuvah stand for?

I found online that Teshuvah stands for: תמים תהיה עם ה' אלקיך שויתי ה' לנגדי תמיד ואהבת לרעך כמוך בכל דרכיך דעהו הצנע לכת עם אלוהיך Is there any source for this?
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How can someone, halachically, do teshuva when s/he has offended an anonymous person on the internet?

Ramba"m among others, state that Yom Kippur does not atone for sins committed between a person and his neighbor until a person personally asks the other for forgiveness. Mi Yodeya is an example of ...
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Why do tefillot dealing with repentance frequently contain verses about our oppressors?

Throughout the year, and especially during this time of year as we approach Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we say many different types of tefillot in repentance. This list includes the daily tachnun, ...
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How do you quit a pornography habit?

The Torah teaches that, if you're an unmarried man, watching pornography is harmful to your soul. See, for example, this article by Chabad rabbi Tzvi Freeman. (If you're married and need to watch ...
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How to do teshuva for making fun of a rabbinic explanation?

Does a non-Jew in the process of converting need to repent for making fun of a statement that was reportedly made by a Jewish sage (e.g. saying that 'no one with a mind can accept it')? If so, what do ...
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Teshuva for wasting seed

Is feeling remorse, praying for forgiveness and studying Torah enough to rectify the heavy sin of wasting seed ? I know that every sin has its own unique way of "correcting" or rectifying it. And ...
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When and why did we stop wearing sackcloth?

When and why did we stop wearing sackcloth in times of mourning and other times of distress (e.g., when fasting for rain)? (I presume sackcloth was quite uncomfortable.) Sackcloth is mentioned in ...
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Non-Jew : how to do teshuva for stealing?

I heard once that a Non-Jew had to pay back twice or three times the price of the object he stole to do teshuva. I can't find sources that confirm/infirm this. How can a Non-Jew do teshuva for having ...
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Purpose of Gilgulei Sheleg (rolling in snow)

what is the earliest source of the practice of gilgulei sheleg (rolling in snow)? also, what is the purpose of this and why specifically snow instead of cold water or whatever .
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What did the communal korbanot on Yom Kippur atone for?

The torah tells us to bring korbanot to atone for certain sins (when bringing korbanot is possible). In addition, on Yom Kippur the kohein gadol offers korbanot to atone for the whole people. What ...
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What can I do to change myself permanently through the repentance process?

I find myself in much the same state each year before Rosh HaShono. I don't know what was wrong with my attempt at teshuva but the outcome was that despite my best intentions I have not accomplished ...
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Do I have to forgive a repeat offender?

If somebody has repeatedly wronged me (in the same way) in the past, am I obligated to keep forgiving him if he asks? On the one hand, maybe this time he finally is really doing teshuva; on the other ...
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Bracha of V'Lamalshinim

Brachos 28b Shmuel Hakattan coined the Bracha of V'Lamalshinim. Brachos 10a mentions a story where Rabbi Meir was being bothered by people and prayed for their demise. His wife Bruria tells him do ...
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Why couldn't the Jews do Teshuva by the incident of the spies?

After Hashem chastised the Jews for not wanting to go into Eretz Yisrael, and told them that they will have to die in the desert, the Jews seemed to have had a change of heart. A few even were willing ...
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Accidentally served a guest meat and milk

If someone accidentally served a guest a milk-and-meat combination and realized his mistake after the fact, should he ask the guest for mechilah (forgiveness)?
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What is the tikkun for a unmarried Jewish man that slept with a non Jewish woman with protection?

Chabad.org org quotes: (Deut. 7:3): "You shall not marry them (the gentiles, about which the Bible speaks in the previous verses), you shall not give your daughter to their son and you shall ...
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How does one rectify money fraud done earlier in his life?

If someone was not observant and was involved in fraudulent business deals (selling free ebooks on ebay, or claiming used items are new). Later in life, if this person became an Observant Jew what ...
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Does repentance remove effects of prior sexual assault?

Within the Laws of marriage in the Religious world, if someone was to be sexually abused or assaulted, however has done and experience properly the 5 stages of appropriate and acceptable Teshuvah does ...
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Does a Jewish grandmother (mother's side) really get one accepted as a Jew?

My grandmother (mother's side) is 100% Jewish and even living in Israel. As far as I know, that makes, me a Jew, too. But it feels a little bit strange to say that I am Jewish just because my ...
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Is sincere repentance always accepted?

Must repentance be accepted by Gd? Is sincere repentance always accepted? Is repentance a form of prayer? (Not all prayer is accepted.)
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Teshuva and non-Jews?

The Rambam explains the basic requirements of doing teshuva and seeking forgiveness from another person: acknowledging the transgression, making amends, and seeking forgiveness (presumably publicly ...