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Consistency vs. Forgiveness

Both as a responsible parent and as a Jew, I want to be consistent with my children. As a parent, in order to teach them that the rules are the rules and give them a sense of predictability to rely ...
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I am or was a religious jew and purposely ate non kosher

I'm a religious Jew. I kind of lost faith and ate non-kosher purposely, and now I feel so bad with myself that I want to die. What should I do? Is there any type of repentance I should take upon ...
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Why do Teshuvah for an accidental חטא (sin)?

Why am I obligated to do Teshuvah if I do a חטא (sin) accidentally, according to Rambam (Hilchot Teshuva 1:1)? What am I doing Teshuvah for?
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L'chayim vs. Lachayim

During the עשרת ימי תשובה we make insertions into the שמונה עשרה, each of which contains the word לחיים, meaning "for life." What is the source for insisting on pronouncing it "zachrenu l'chayim," ...
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How does one rectify money fraud done earlier in his life?

If someone was not observant and was involved in fraudulent business deals (selling free ebooks on ebay, or claiming used items are new). Later in life, if this person became an Observant Jew what ...
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Remedy for Desire for a Married Woman

Background: We are all human and sometimes tend towards the evil inclination. At times we successfully fight against the inappropriate feelings, thoughts, actions, etc. At other times we don't do so ...
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Should a Rabbi apologize for a comment that could be misunderstood?

If a prominent Rabbi (meaning someone who heads a community or institution, not just anyone who has semicha) makes a statement that is technically halachically correct/acceptable but is easily ...
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What is the role of government punishment in the teshuva (repentance) process?

If I understand it, according to Halacha, if Reuven steals $100 from Shimon, he has to first return the money (possibly plus another $100), apologize; then regret, confess, resolve, and abstain. If ...
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Seeking tips for avoiding rationalizing when doing heshbon nefesh (self-accounting)

Especially at this time of year (around the high holidays), we are to reflect on ourselves and do an accounting of our soul (heshbon nefesh). But all people are good at rationalizing what they do. ...
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Non-Jew : how to do teshuva for stealing?

I heard once that a Non-Jew had to pay back twice or three times the price of the object he stole to do teshuva. I can't find sources that confirm/infirm this. How can a Non-Jew do teshuva for having ...
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Could Moshe Rabbeinu have made atonement for striking the rock?

See Numbers 20:1–13. Could Moshe Rabbeinu have made atonement for striking the rock, so he could have entered the promised land?
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Recividism and teshuvah

There is a rampant opinion that, since recidivism rates are so high, one can never trust and assume that a person has done teshuvah and no longer poses a threat to the public. I wonder if anyone can ...
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How can one make repentance for things he can't remember?

Say an unmarried Baal Teshuvah at the age of 30 decided to make repentance. A lot of time has gone by and he doesn't remember who he cheated, lied to, stole from, spoke loshen hara about, and so on. ...
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Honoring a wicked father who has repented - How is he still considered wicked?

The Shulhan 'Aruch (Y"D 240:18) writes that one is obligated to honor his father even if the father is wicked (actually, it says that a Mamzer is obligated, but I believe that the implication is that ...
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Does Kiddushin 81b imply that one opinion allows for suicide if that is the only way to keep from sinning?

The Gemoro in Kiddushin 81b brings down the following (shortened version of the) story: Rabbi Chiya Bar Ashi used to say 'May God save me from the Yetzer Hora'! When his wife overheard him she ...
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Elul Cheshbon HaNefesh

How does one make a Cheshbon HaNefesh during Elul. I'm aware of the technique given in Sefer Cheshbon HaNefesh, but that is intended (and set up as) as a year round exercise. To do something more ...
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“Gay” people in the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah?

What do the Torah, Talmud, Kabbalah say about people that "are gay" or have the desire to live that way? I'm not asking if it's a sin. I'm wondering how they "became gay" and how they can change? ...
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what is good teshuva book

Elul and Yom Kippur are flying by fast. I am looking for something uplifting. Books on teshuva are usually quite depressing; too much talk about gehinom. Not that it's not good, just that it doesn't ...
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Is sincere repentance always accepted?

Must repentance be accepted by Gd? Is sincere repentance always accepted? Is repentance a form of prayer? (Not all prayer is accepted.)
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Why was there a need for Yona to be saved in a miraculous way?

What's the deal with Yona being swallowed by a fish (2:1)? Couldn't the same thing (i.e. him realizing his mistake) be achieved if he landed on an island?
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How did the Gedolim achieve fear of Yom HaDin when the Gemoro says daya letzarah beshatah?

The Gemoro says (Brachot 9b) dayah letzarah beshaatah. The way I understand this and I think Rashi learns like this as well, is that there is no point worrying about an upcoming Tzarah. If you can do ...
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Teshuva for wasting seed

Is feeling remorse, praying for forgiveness and studying Torah enough to rectify the heavy sin of wasting seed ? I know that every sin has its own unique way of "correcting" or rectifying it. And ...
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Why does Ninveh do teshuva so quickly?

In Sefer Yona 3:4 why was it so easy to convince the city of Ninveh to do teshuva (5 words!) if they were so evil?
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Reconciling the Torah and history regarding the Jews' response to reward and punishment

How do we reconcile the Torah's viewpoint that punishments make Jews better with what we see that punishments push Jews away (and rewards make Jews better)? The Gemara says that Mashiach will come ...
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Understanding the Bracha of Hashiveinu in Shemoneh Esrei

It is commonly understood that God gave us free will to do good or evil. Similarly, it says in Gemara B'rachot (33b) that "Everything is in the hands of Heaven, except for the fear of Heaven." In ...
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Why is the period of Shovavim connected to tikkun habris?

Please see this question and answers for background information. What is the reason that the period of Shovavim is used to address tikkun habris (sexual sins)? Why is this time period auspicious for ...
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Why is Aseret Yemei Teshuva a time when Teshuvah will be accepted immediately?

The Rambam in the Laws of Teshuvah, Chapter 2 Law 6 states: אע"פ שהתשובה והצעקה יפה לעולם, בעשרה הימים שבין ראש השנה ויום הכפורים היא יפה ביותר ומתקבלת היא מיד שנאמר (ישעיהו נה:ו) דרשו ה' ...
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Does today's Yom Kippur observance atone for all sins?

I find the liturgical and rabbinic descriptions of the atonement process on Yom Kippur challenging. Without a Sanhedrin to mete out punishments for intentional sins, and no altar to bring offerings ...
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Can bad prophecies be erased?

I've heard that G-d's (or neviim's) good decrees/prophecies can't be erased, but bad ones can if G-d sees that we repent. Is this a well-believed concept? What are the sources of this?
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Are there any halachic issues with apologizing to a past shidduch before rosh hashanah?

If someone feels that there might have been some wrong doing during a past shidduch and would like to apologize before judgement day, can one do so or should he/she just let it be? The issues that ...
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Shovavim and idolatry

The initials of parashat Shemot to Mishpatim form the word Shovavim, which connect this period to Teshuva based on the verse of Jeremia 3:14 where the word Shovavim occurs. I also read this is a ...
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Rambam Hilchos Tshuvah 2:9

The halacha (Rambam Hilchos Tshuvah 2:9) mentions the difference between tshuvah on Yom Kippur regarding sinning between man and man, and man and HaShem. The middle of the halacha states even if one ...
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How to do teshuva for making fun of a rabbinic explanation?

Does a non-Jew in the process of converting need to repent for making fun of a statement that was reportedly made by a Jewish sage (e.g. saying that 'no one with a mind can accept it')? If so, what do ...
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Purpose of Gilgulei Sheleg (rolling in snow)

what is the earliest source of the practice of gilgulei sheleg (rolling in snow)? also, what is the purpose of this and why specifically snow instead of cold water or whatever .
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1 shmuel 15: does Hashem “repent”?

The narrative of 1 Shmuel 15 has to do with Shaul forfeiting his kingship because of his mercy to Agag. The root nun-het-mem (I'm seeing it translated as "repent" or "relent") appears three times, ...
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Did Joseph ever forgive his brothers? Did they request forgiveness?

After Yosef revealed himself to his brothers, did the brothers ever ask for Yosef's forgiveness for having sold him into slavery? And did Yosef ever formally forgive them? I'm looking for chapter ...
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Was sacrifice the only means of forgiveness, or prayer is also included?

Please note I am looking for ideally explicit verses from the Torah to establish these points. Is/was animal sacrifice the only means of seeking forgiveness? Can someone provide some verses which ...
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Where is the Bandits/Teshuvah Midrash?

Rabbeinu Yonah writes (Shaarei Teshuvah 1:2) a parable in the name of "Midrash Koheles" that at first glance makes no sense. I have my own theory about a way to explain it, but I wanted to check what ...
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What do the letters of Teshuvah stand for?

I found online that Teshuvah stands for: תמים תהיה עם ה' אלקיך שויתי ה' לנגדי תמיד ואהבת לרעך כמוך בכל דרכיך דעהו הצנע לכת עם אלוהיך Is there any source for this?
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Repentance for stealing not accepted?

I've heard before that there is a Gemorah in Baba Kamma (also brought down in Shulchan Aruch Choshen Mishpat Hilchos Genevah) that one who steals something and later wishes to repent and return what ...
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Is animal sacrifice practised among modern Jews? [duplicate]

Possible Duplicate: Why don't Jews sacrifice animals anymore? From my reading of the Bible I understand that animal sacrifice was used to atone for one's sins. Is this still practiced ...
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Source for praying and repentance on Fast days?

What is the source for the idea that fast days are not only for fasting and remorse on the past, but also for prayer and repentance for the future?
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Does repentance remove effects of prior sexual assault?

Within the Laws of marriage in the Religious world, if someone was to be sexually abused or assaulted, however has done and experience properly the 5 stages of appropriate and acceptable Teshuvah does ...
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Bad dream about others

Someone had a dream that some very bad things happened to his friend/relative/other. What should someone do after having such a dream? Is this is a sign of something? Perhaps one should do Teshuva? ...
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“Upper Level Teshuva” for Zera LeVatala

In the Tanya, Iggeret HaTeshuva Perek 4, the Ba'al HaTanya writes that the statement "there is no teshuva for spilling seed" applies only to "lower teshuva" ("re-attaching the second hei to Hashem's ...
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Why the custom at the end of Tashlich to shake off Tzitzis?

In the Siddur Nussach Ari it says by the end of Tashlich to shake the ends of your Tzitzis, I heard that this symbolizes the tossing of a persons sins in the depth of the water (as in the verse " ...
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What's the point of Jeremiah 13:18–27?

In Jeremiah 13:18–27, Jeremiah is told to address the king and queen, telling them of the trouble that will come (using the prophetic past). Unlike many of the preceding chapters, where he tells the ...
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Would one say Kaddish for someone who forfeited his portion in the world to come?

Inspired by a recent discussion: Chazal tell us that someone who says "I will sin and I will repent, will not be given the opportunity to repent" (Mishna Yoma 8:9). Chazal also tell us that there ...
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Why do tefillot dealing with repentance frequently contain verses about our oppressors?

Throughout the year, and especially during this time of year as we approach Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, we say many different types of tefillot in repentance. This list includes the daily tachnun, ...
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Negative t'shuva or positive t'shuva?

If one were to accept upon oneself a single mitzva to perform as carefully as possible as a first incremental step toward full t'shuva, should that mitzva be a negative commandment or a positive ...