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How do we understand Moshe's rebuke

On Devarim 1:1, Rashi comments that the various places listed are in fact veiled references to episodes in which the Jewish people rebelled. Thus Moshe was offering a kind of concealed rebuke. My ...
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Scaring someone to teach them a lesson

Scaring or startling someone is generally a violation of Onaas Devarim. Is it permitted in order to teach someone a lesson? For example, if someone is crossing a street while texting, can you honk at ...
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When is one exempt from giving rebuke?

It says that one should rebuke his friend if he sees he's doing something wrong and if he doesn't it's counted as if he did wrong what that person was doing . Are there any exceptions to this?
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How far does one have to go in giving mussar? [duplicate]

If someone has a sibling who is mechalal shabbos and they try to tell them what they're doing is wrong but the sibling refuses to listen does one have to go even further in trying to stop them?
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Is it acceptable to make someone feel uncomfortable because they have inadvertently done something that you consider undesirable?

Background This question was inspired by the comments (now deleted) under another question. My sister in Williamsburg Brooklyn noticed that Orthodox male strangers were glaring at her for unknown ...
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The proper manner to rebuke? [closed]

Vayikra 19:17 is telling us about rebuking a fellow (someone near to us), the same verse also teach that one condition in order to do this is that one should have no hatefull thoughts of the heart ...
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For purposes of how a Torah reader reads tochacha, where does it start and end?

Both parshat Bechukotai and parshat Ki Tavo contain "the tochacha", a section of the parsha with curses to befall B'nei Yisrael if they sin really badly. Traditionally, this section is read faster and ...
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Correcting a Rebbe who is learning during חזרת הש"ץ

Is it better to tell my Rebbe that he can't learn during חזרת הש"ץ or is it better to respect him.
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Source for statement that we don't know how to rebuke today

I recall hearing that someone, perhaps R' Yisroel Salanter, said that today we do not know how to respectfully give rebuke, and therefore we are all in the category of onus regarding the mitzvah of ...
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Should one reprimand a child if the parent might be embarrassed?

I was at shul on Sunday, not during a service, but during a meeting. A parent and child were sitting in front of me. The small child's legs were far too short to reach the floor, and her feet were ...
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Is it halachically permissible to apologize and rebuke someone simultaneously?

Recently, someone in my shul was angry at me because of something that I did not do properly for him. At the beginning of davening, he yelled at me about the problem, and embarrassed me in front of ...
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Why the hidden mussar?

The first few words of Sefer Devarim are understood to be Moshe Rabbeinu hinting at different mistakes the Jewish people made in the desert, and he is giving them disguised rebuke. Rashi to Devarim ...
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How is the land appeased regarding Shemittah?

In Parshas Bechukosai (Vayikra 26:34), the verse states: אָז תִּרְצֶה הָאָרֶץ אֶת שַׁבְּתֹתֶיהָ כֹּל יְמֵי הָשַּׁמָּה וְאַתֶּם בְּאֶרֶץ אֹיְבֵיכֶם אָז תִּשְׁבַּת הָאָרֶץ וְהִרְצָת אֶת ...
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Pointing out someone's deceitful actions or ways

Is there any problem with putting someone in their place? Let's say there is a person who is not truthful in their day to day activity, is a hypocrite, does things to fool people in order to get ...
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When not a problem of lifnei iver, still mitzvah to be mafrish (seperate) from issur

Tosfos says in Shabbos Daf 3a that even when there isn't a problem of lifnei iver since the person would be able to get to the prohibited thing in another way, still there is an "issur d'rabbanan" ...
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Non-Trivial Pursuit: וְנַסְתֶּם וְאֵין-רֹדֵף אֶתְכֶם

What is the meaning of וְנַסְתֶּם וְאֵין-רֹדֵף אֶתְכֶם (Leviticus 26:17)? Literally of course it is simple: "You will flee with no one pursuing you" (Artscroll) But this punishment does not really ...
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Borders of obligation when witnessing a robbery [closed]

Today I watched while a man walked into a pastry shop, took a large box of cookies and put it into his bag. He then walked out of the store and away, disregarding my stink eye on him. If I were to ...
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Singular and plural language in Deut. 4:25

Why does the Pasuk (Deut. 4:25) switch between singular and plural when building up to the consequences of what "you will [do]"? "When you (sing.) will have children and grandchildren, and you (pl.) ...
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How should we respond to objectionable content in a public forum?

The blessing and curse of sites like StackExchange is that everything happens in public. Sometimes someone will post something objectionable and it isn't possible to take the person aside for a ...
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Is there a model of reconciliation in the Tanach?

Monica asked an excellent question about how to correct someone who posts something objectionable on a public forum. I was struck by the suggestion that the usual course of action was "to take the ...