Questions about which action takes priority in a specific case, usually when only one thing can be done.

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Parent dying overseas - visit now or attend funeral?

A person lives far away from a dying parent and cannot afford more than one visit. What do the halachic sources say about when they should visit? Should they visit the parent immediately and miss the ...
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Priorities: Mincha Ketana vs Mincha Gedola

Which timing of mincha is more important: mincha gedolah or mincha ketana? Why?
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Doctor recommends pacemaker. Does the patient have to listen?

Suppose a doctor recommends a patient receive a pacemaker, both improve the quality of life and extend the patients life. However, the patient has no interest in getting one. Does Halacha compel the ...
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When to light the Shamash when lighting Menorah?

When lighting my Menora, saying the relevant Brachot, and lighting the Shamash, what order should I follow? I think the best way is: 1. Shamash 2. Brachot 3. Chanukah-Lights But someone said, the ...
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Seeking sources about the necessity for finding a מנין

I am looking for sources about the necessity for finding a מנין. More specifically, whether or not one has to always be in close range of a מנין, or if he can intentionally put himself in a position ...
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boreh pri hagafen and hamotzi during the week

On Shabbat and holidays, we say kiddush before hamotzi (I think because hamotzi would normally cover the wine? Is that right?). During the week, what is the proper procedure? Is it to say hagafen and ...
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Which is better, lying or saying lashon hara?

Inspired by Shmeryl's frequenting of McDonalds, I have a similar question about lashon hara. Let's say Shmeryl is coming to visit you from out-of-town on shabbat, and has no problem with doing so ...
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Better for a kohen to daven in a minyan with one other kohen or no kohanim at all?

Say a kohen has an option of davening in one minyan where there is no kohanim at all in order that they should have bircas kohanim. Or he could daven in a minyan where there is at least one other ...
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Variant on: Is it better to Daven “too early” with a Minyan, or to Daven alone at the right time?

In many communities there is a regular weekday morning Minyan and the "working-person's" Minyan, which technically Davens too early according to most opinions, but which is better than nothing, ...
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Aruch Hashulchan's b'rachos priorities

The first chapter on the laws of b'rachos in Aruch Hashulchan ends with a summary of several of the forgoing paragraphs that reads thusly (202:45): וכללו של דבר: כל הפירות שיודע בהם שהם עיקר הפירא ...
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Arrived late for maariv. How to daven?

I arrived late for the last minyan for Maariv. Should I A) Pray the amida with the community and lose the proximity of "geula" to "tefilla" but gain the "tefilla betzibbur" or B) Pray in order, ...
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Why are the Shabbat additions to Pesukei D'zimra added before the every-day parts?

In the Pesukei D'zimra of Shabbat, why are the Shabbat-specific portions added before most of the every-day portions? Shouldn't they be said after according to the rule: Tadir V'she'eino Tadir, Tadir ...
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Blessing: who gets first?

A father who wants to bless his family, whom should he bless first? His wife? His oldest son? His oldest child? The oldest among his sons, daughters, sons-in-law, and daughters-in-law? The cohanim? ...
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Not passing up a mitzvah: putting away laundry at a parent's behest: closest pile first?

My kid asked: I know there's a general rule of en maavirin al hamtizvos, we don't pass over a mitzva. For example, in mishnayos Yoma, the kohanim don't pass over the nearest blood basin to put ...
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Two people but only one kidney

if there are two patients about to die of kidney failure and there is only one kidney available, does the halacha have a way to choose who gets the kidney? (such as lottery) (assuming both cases are ...
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Catching Up When Saying Tachanun M/Th

On Mondays and Thursdays I often fall very behind during tachanun. I see two options — I can start with the congregation after having listened with proper intent during chazarat hashatz, or I can ...
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Preferred Method of Giving Tzedakah

If one has $100 to give to charity, is it better to give it all to one person, or distribute $1 to 100 people (so that if one isn't legit, the others will cover)?
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Choosing between forbidden acts?

Is there a general rule or rules that one can use to determine which one of two forbidden activities should be chosen in the event that for whatever reason, it is inevitable one of them must be done ...
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Hierarchy in ברכות השחר?

Of course there is a set order in the Siddur, but is there a hierarchy in ברכות השחר? If, for example, someone did not wash his hands or use the bathroom when he woke up, can he say Elokai Neshamah or ...
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Can you attend a sporting event on a minor fast day?

This year the tenth of Teves falls on a Sunday, which happens to also be an NFL game day. Is it permissible or discouraged to attend such a sporting event during the fast?
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Urgency of resuming relations after niddah

What is the urgency of a husband and wife resuming relations after the niddah period? Where is the line drawn between conflicts that warrant pushing off relations, and those that do not warrant it? ...
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How far may one go with doing an aveira (violating a negative mitzva) if it means performing a positive mitzva?

I cannot remember where, but somewhere in gemara it mentions that when confronted with doing a positive mitzva or keeping a negative mitzva, one should do a positive mitzva. How far does this go ...
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Should I say shmei or shmeh?

Some Ashkenazim are medakdek to pronounce their Aramaic "correctly". And they know that there is a mapik heh in Amein Yehei ShemeiH Rabba. Thus, יְהֵא שְׁמֵ*הּ* רַבָּא מְבָרַךְ לְעָלַם וּלְעָלְמֵי ...
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Waiting to reveal Kosher issue in order to get to the root of the problem

Suppose a Mashgiach realizes that a store is selling Treif meat, however is unsure as to the source of the problem. If he announces immediately that this store is selling something not Kosher he may ...
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Stacking Jewish books in order of holiness

Assume I have the following books and no room to store them standing up. Being a good Jew, you know that the holier books go on top of those of lesser holiness. Here are 10 books: 1) Gemara ...
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What's the order of importance of Honorees under a Chuppa?

Under a Chupah, a Baal Simcha (in today's times) has a number of Honors (כיבודים) to give out. Here's a list of them (possibly not complete): מסדר קידושין 2 עדים (witnesses) קריאת כתובה (reading of ...
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Not eating before Tisha B'Av — Better to eat after Shkiah but before nightfall or wait until Tisha B'Av

Someone for whatever reason was not able to eat Erev Tisha B'Av. It came shkia (sunset) and finally he was able to find time or the ability to eat. Is it better for him to eat then during Bein ...
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Examples of having to choose between two “lavs”?

There are classic examples of having to choose between two positive commandments (e.g. if one only has money for one, do you buy wine for Shabbas or candles), and there are known cases where a ...
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Are there sources that permit or prohibit co-ed learning of self-defense?

Learning self-defense in a co-ed environment could be considered prevention of problems that could lead to pikuach nefesh (danger to life). Prohibiting a co-ed environment could be considered placing ...
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What is the holiness status of a Siddur

The Shulhan Aruch (Y"D 282) tells us that one should stack certain books in a certain order (e.g. Humash on top of a Sefer Navi). What is the Din of a Siddur for this purpose? My friend told me he ...
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Can we teach reading Hebrew without using the full names of the letters and vowels?

I've heard in Chabad and elsewhere that when teaching children to read Hebrew, one must call the letters and vowels only by their full traditional name. This is in my opinion very distracting for a ...
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Learning secular topics for parnassah

Assuming that one should only learn secular topics for the purpose of parnassah (making a living), to what extent may one learn those topics? Is it only permitted to learn enough to get a job that ...
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Who is greater than whom?

From the fact that Levi was in Bavel, Rav derived that R' Efes passed away. He derived it like this: After Rebbi passed away, R' Efes took over Rebbi's position. Rav Chanina was equal (or greater) ...
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Is it permissible to learn out loud while the tzibbur is davening?

In my local shul during mincha/maariv a daf yomi chabura learns out loud during davening in the same beis medrash as the rest of the tzibbur. Do they have a right to do so? The problem is that I ...
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Which witness testifies about a blasphemer?

In Rambam Hilchos Avodas Kochavim Perek 2 halacha 8 it says that if someone curses the name of God, the court examines the witnesses as to what they heard. The "great one" (Rambam's words) of all the ...
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Is it always a good idea to say an extra Shema' if you missed one?

According to Double AA's answer on a related question, "it can't hurt" to say an extra Shema' later if you missed the Zeman (set time) for it. While it may be true to a certain extent that saying ...
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How to “honor thy father and mother” when publicly addressing a parent's sexism?

In a discussion on a social media website, one of my parents has expressed a opinion I consider sexist. Feminist principle dictates that I publicly express my disapproval of this, and post a response ...
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Ladies first or men first?

Bereshit 31:17 reads: וַיָּקָם יַעֲקֹב וַיִּשָּׂא אֶת בָּנָיו וְאֶת נָשָׁיו עַל הַגְּמַלִּים׃ So Jacob rose, and he lifted up his sons and his wives upon the camels. Rashi: את בניו ...
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Tvilas keilim in winter - better in river or lake? (if no mikva around)

In a situation where it's winter and two options are available, is it better to toivel in a river or in a lake? Which option is more preferable? Both the river and lake are "medium big". When I asked ...
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Should Jepthah have sacrificed his daughter?

Jepthah made a vow that whatever came out of his house first would be sacrificed to the LORD. (This is actually pretty strange; what other object in his house can get out by itself?) Nevertheless, ...
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Should one avoid immodest environments when choosing a service?

In shema we say: And they shall be tzitzit for you, and when you look at them you will remember all of the Lord's commandments and do them and not follow after your heart and after your eyes ...