Questions about which action takes priority in a specific case, usually when only one thing can be done.

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Which to choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed

If a man had to choose, which should he choose: relations with a non Jewish woman or wasting seed? Someone told me that he was taught that relations with a non Jewish woman should be chosen (that is ...
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Oneg Shabbos or Havadlah

If one only has a limited income and has a choice between Oneg Shabbos or Wine for Havadlah which goes first?
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If parents need food and clothing, which parent to care for first? [duplicate]

If both mother and father ask for food and clothing, whom should I give them to first? I heard that mother should be cared first but anyone else knows?
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Kiddush Levana the night of Purim

It is the night of Purim and for some reason the majority of the Shul has not yet said Kiddush Levana. Should Kiddush Levana be said prior to Megila due to "Tadur" it being more frequent? (source)
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Are there any examples of mother having priority over father?

Are there any cases in which mother takes precedence over father?
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Why prefer the father to the mother?

"A father can protest that his son not say Kaddish for his mother, because the father's honor comes first (Darchei Moshe 376)." http://dafyomi.co.il/erchin/halachah/er-hl-025.htm "Question (an ...
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Kavana vs. Minyan

If I find myself in a situation where davening with a particular minyan will be detrimental to my kavana, should I daven b'yechidut but with a better focus and concentration, or should I stay with the ...
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Is it more preferable to pray with concentration alone or with a minyan in shul?

There's a בית כנסת nearby that has מנינים every half hour between 6:00am until 9:20am. There's another one that has two מנינים, one at 6:40am and one at 7:40am. The בית כנסת that goes later has one ...
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Weighing mitzvot/aveirot

I apologize for the somewhat vague question; it was difficult to write. I would welcome any specific editing suggestions. What matters in the calculation of a person's righteousness? Is it: Number ...
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Is it Halachically permissible to use tefillin peshutim if one cannot afford better tefillin?

I would like to buy my first Tefillin. I was raised in a semi-secular household, and thus do not own a pair of my own. However, being a student, I am tight with my money. I understand that there is ...
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Government subsidies or tzedoko

it is preferable not to take charity from non-Jews (maybe only if it is not in private) Source Yore daiya 254 In a case of need (someone needs money for housing and/or food), which is more ...
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Slichos, netz and nusach [closed]

A person who is ashkenaz (father ashkenaz, mother sephardi) has the habit of praying netz with the only minyan in his area that does, and it is a sephardi minyan. In order to not be different than the ...
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BeRov Am Hadrat HaMelech - Even if person doesn't hear the Chazan?

In choosing Minyan the Klal BeRov Am Hadrat HaMelech (more people is better) applies. But if minyan is so huge that there are difficulties for a person, who is far from Chazan to hear him. Is it ...
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Priorities: Tefillah & Tachanun vs Tefillah w/o

In my synagogue, Mincha ketana is always right before sunset.By the time the Sh"tz finishes, it is past sunset and there is no Tachanun. I can go to Mincha gedola with Tachnun at a different place. I ...
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Does the proximity rule for hand washing water extend to b'racha precedence?

Assuming that one must wash one's hands before eating bread unless the water is very far away, and assuming one is near water, and assuming that the highest precedence b'racha is the b'racha for bread ...
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Is it permissible to learn out loud while the tzibbur is davening?

In my local shul during mincha/maariv a daf yomi chabura learns out loud during davening in the same beis medrash as the rest of the tzibbur. Do they have a right to do so? The problem is that I can'...
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Is one allowed to get a job where no minyan could be found?

If one lives in a Jewish community with access to synogogues, can one accept a job offer in a nearby city/location where there are no nearby synagogues to enable one to pray mincha with a minyan? Let'...
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Should one avoid immodest environments when choosing a service?

In shema we say: And they shall be tzitzit for you, and when you look at them you will remember all of the Lord's commandments and do them and not follow after your heart and after your eyes ...
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Not passing up a mitzvah: putting away laundry at a parent's behest: closest pile first?

My kid asked: I know there's a general rule of en maavirin al hamtizvos, we don't pass over a mitzva. For example, in mishnayos Yoma, the kohanim don't pass over the nearest blood basin to put ...
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Tvilas keilim in winter - better in river or lake? (if no mikva around)

In a situation where it's winter and two options are available, is it better to toivel in a river or in a lake? Which option is more preferable? Both the river and lake are "medium big". When I asked ...
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Is there an order in repaying loans?

If Reuven borrowed money from several people, and has enough money to pay back all the loans, just not all at the same time (say, for example, if he has money tied up in real estate or something), are ...
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Choosing between Brachos on Shma and Sof Zman Kriyas Shema

Let's say Yosef woke up late one day, and by the time he was ready to say kriyas shema, it was two minutes before sof zman kriyas shema (the latest time at which a person could say kriyas shema). He ...
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Doctor recommends pacemaker. Does the patient have to listen?

Suppose a doctor recommends a patient receive a pacemaker, both improve the quality of life and extend the patients life. However, the patient has no interest in getting one. Does Halacha compel the ...
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Pikuach Nefesh and different levels of Halacha

Here's a theoretical: if someone has to save a life and has two equally easy options, both of which violate halacha, one d'oraita and one d'rabbanan. Should he choose the d'oraita or the d'rabbanan?
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What's the definition of “not now” for priority-of-b'racha purposes?

Orach Chayim 211 is about what food to recite a blessing over (that is, and eat) first when one wishes to eat two foods. It's clear that (except according to the Rambam cited in 211:2) one does not ...
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Pray hurriedly as soon as time comes for mincha/maariv arrives or wait but pray with more kavanah

Suppose one works in a non-Jewish office environment with rooms that can be used for prayer. Should one wait till one arrives at home and pray Mincha there at leisure or do it at work earlier when ...
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Choosing between forbidden acts?

Is there a general rule or rules that one can use to determine which one of two forbidden activities should be chosen in the event that for whatever reason, it is inevitable one of them must be done ...
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Too fast or no minyan?

Suppose the only minyan available for someone to attend is one which moves far too fast for him. Even with arriving early and starting ahead of time, he only has time to say a fraction of psukei d'...
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Examples of having to choose between two “lavs”?

There are classic examples of having to choose between two positive commandments (e.g. if one only has money for one, do you buy wine for Shabbas or candles), and there are known cases where a ...
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How far may one go with doing an aveira (violating a negative mitzva) if it means performing a positive mitzva?

I cannot remember where, but somewhere in gemara it mentions that when confronted with doing a positive mitzva or keeping a negative mitzva, one should do a positive mitzva. How far does this go ...
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Why don't some do yibum today, l'chatchilah?

According to the Mishna (Bechorot 1:7) the reason not to perform yibum nowadays is people don't have intention l'shem mitzva when performing yibum. Firstly I would like to know if there are any other ...
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Which witness testifies about a blasphemer?

In Rambam Hilchos Avodas Kochavim Perek 2 halacha 8 it says that if someone curses the name of God, the court examines the witnesses as to what they heard. The "great one" (Rambam's words) of all the ...
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How to “honor thy father and mother” when publicly addressing a parent's sexism?

In a discussion on a social media website, one of my parents has expressed a opinion I consider sexist. Feminist principle dictates that I publicly express my disapproval of this, and post a response ...
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Bathroom or shema if you only have time for one?

If you wake up 5 minutes before sof zman kryat shema and you have to use the bathroom. Going to the bathroom when necessary is deorayasa (Shulchan Aruch 3:17) and so is saying the shema. Also there ...
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Melacha vs breaking a fast on Yom Kippur

If a person is in a life threatening situation and can be saved by either doing a melacha or eating/drinking on Yom Kippur, what should he do?
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Why do we say ha-motzi before al achilat matzah instead of after?

I was taught that it's important not to make an interruption between a b'racha and its fulfillment, such that we don't say anything between making motzi and eating the bread. To me the b'racha is "...
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What's the order of importance of Honorees under a Chuppa?

Under a Chupah, a Baal Simcha (in today's times) has a number of Honors (כיבודים) to give out. Here's a list of them (possibly not complete): מסדר קידושין 2 עדים (witnesses) קריאת כתובה (reading of ...
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Are there sources that permit or prohibit co-ed learning of self-defense?

Learning self-defense in a co-ed environment could be considered prevention of problems that could lead to pikuach nefesh (danger to life). Prohibiting a co-ed environment could be considered placing ...
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Consistency vs. Forgiveness

Both as a responsible parent and as a Jew, I want to be consistent with my children. As a parent, in order to teach them that the rules are the rules and give them a sense of predictability to rely ...
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What can I skip after Amida in Shacharit?

I have very little time for shacharit, because I have to go to work. The minyan in the city where I live is very late. So I try to daven everything before the Amida and the Amida itself with a Tzibur, ...
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Should Jepthah have sacrificed his daughter?

Jepthah made a vow that whatever came out of his house first would be sacrificed to the LORD. (This is actually pretty strange; what other object in his house can get out by itself?) Nevertheless, ...
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Better for a kohen to daven in a minyan with one other kohen or no kohanim at all?

Say a kohen has an option of davening in one minyan where there is no kohanim at all in order that they should have bircas kohanim. Or he could daven in a minyan where there is at least one other ...
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When to light the Shamash when lighting Menorah?

When lighting my Menora, saying the relevant Brachot, and lighting the Shamash, what order should I follow? I think the best way is: 1. Shamash 2. Brachot 3. Chanukah-Lights But someone said, the ...
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Ladies first or men first?

Bereshit 31:17 reads: וַיָּקָם יַעֲקֹב וַיִּשָּׂא אֶת בָּנָיו וְאֶת נָשָׁיו עַל הַגְּמַלִּים׃ So Jacob rose, and he lifted up his sons and his wives upon the camels. Rashi: את בניו ...
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Should I say shmei or shmeh?

Some Ashkenazim are medakdek to pronounce their Aramaic "correctly". And they know that there is a mapik heh in Amein Yehei ShemeiH Rabba. Thus, יְהֵא שְׁמֵ*הּ* רַבָּא מְבָרַךְ לְעָלַם וּלְעָלְמֵי ...
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Why are the Shabbat additions to Pesukei D'zimra added before the every-day parts?

In the Pesukei D'zimra of Shabbat, why are the Shabbat-specific portions added before most of the every-day portions? Shouldn't they be said after according to the rule: Tadir V'she'eino Tadir, Tadir ...
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Is it better to daven in a Minyan throughout the week or on Shabbos?

Imagine someone had two job offers: You would have to live more than walking distance away from Shul. However, you could drive to Shul during the week (let's say that it's too expensive to live ...
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Parent dying overseas - visit now or attend funeral?

A person lives far away from a dying parent and cannot afford more than one visit. What do the halachic sources say about when they should visit? Should they visit the parent immediately and miss the ...
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What is the holiness status of a Siddur

The Shulhan Aruch (Y"D 282) tells us that one should stack certain books in a certain order (e.g. Humash on top of a Sefer Navi). What is the Din of a Siddur for this purpose? My friend told me he ...
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Do you have a say in the order of the food you eat?

As a kid I learned that if you have foods with different brachos in front of you, you should make the bracha on the more important food first, like say mezonos over haetz. My question is how far do we ...