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Shalom Aleichem of Kiddush Levanah to a Kattan

In most aspects of Halachah a Kattan is out of the realm of the Mitzvos. As for the Minhag of saying Shalom Aleichem during Kiddush Levanah I was wondering whether there is any preference to say it ...
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married couples never sleeping in the same bed

I have heard that many Orthodox married couples never sleep in the same bed, even during the times that they are permitted to each other. Coming from a non-Orthodox background, this seems shocking to ...
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Sitting or Standing for Kaddish - historical divergence between Conservative and Orthodox minhag

At most (maybe even all?) Conservative synagogues, the congregation remains seated during every kaddish (except mourner's kaddish, and then only mourners rise). At Ashkenazic Orthodox synagogues, the ...
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Standing for the last aliyah of a sefer

Right before the final aliyah today (Parshat Pekudei) the gabbai asked everyone to stand up. He does this before the final aliyah of each of the books of the Torah. While I have seen discussions about ...
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Why don't we blow the shofar on Rosh Hodesh?

In the psalm for Thursday, Psalm 81 there is a command to blow the shofar at the New Moon. We no longer follow this practice, but presumably they did when the psalm was written, during the era of ...
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“Chaparat Pesha” just through Adar II

We know that the phrase ולכפרת פשע is added to the Musaf Amidah of Rosh Chodesh during a leap year. However, in most minyanim I've davened in, the custom seems to be that one only adds it from ...
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Chassidic aversion to dual-sided implement-wearing

Disclaimer: This may sound like purim-torah-in-jest, but since Mi Yodeya has pasken'ed that only Adar Sheni is elegible for such, I (despite my personal minhag) post this question in all seriousness. ...
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Sitting when holding a Sefer Torah during Torah Reading

When there are two Sifrei Torah taken out on a particular Shabbas, the tradition in many shuls is to have the second safer Torah be held by by one of the congregants sitting down while the first one ...
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Is there a female equivalent of Z"l?

When a righteous woman passes away what is the appropriate term to use to indicate "in her blessed memory"?, i.e., is there a lady's alternative to z"l ?
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Are there any cases where Sephardim generally hold by the ReM"A?

The ReM"A famously wrote a gloss on the Shulchan Arukh called HaMapah where he pointed out places where the minhagim of the Ashkenazim (which he was familiar with) differed from the minhagim which ...
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Don't know name of a sick person's mother [duplicate]

I suspect that this is a fairly common problem, particularly in Orthodox schuls: one knows someone who is unwell, but comes the מי שברך לחולים, they don't know the choleh's mothers name. In these ...
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Why do Sephardic Jews dress in black and white?

Many observant sephardim in Israel, especially those in yeshivot, dress in black and white. Does anyone know how this happened? There is no tradition of Jews in North Africa or in the Middle East ...
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Source for “Hamakom” said at shiva and variations

What is the source for the text of hamakom? In Israel I noticed that they add some words that I never heard in the States (something like"vlo yosifo lidavek?od") , what is the source for them and why ...
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“Hamakom” after shiv'a

In my experience, for the most part, "‏המקום ינחם אתכם בתוך שאר אבלי ציון וירושלים" is said to a mourner specifically during shiv'a. However, I've heard some people say it after shiv'a, particularly ...
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Why do we wish someone “long life” on the occasion of the anniversary of the death of relative?

Why do english-speaking Orthodox Jews in the UK wish someone “long life” on the occasion of the anniversary of the death of relative? I can understand this wish directly after the death when I have ...
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Lubavitch and Daf Yomi

I know that most lubavitchers won't learn Daf Yomi. Is there any Sicha (please bring sources) which says if one should or shouldn't learn it?
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Is there a source for the custom of moving hands in a cicular motion after benching shabbos candleses and mo [duplicate]

Is there a source for moving hands in a circular motion after making the bracha on shabbos and/or yom tov candles
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In birkat kohanim, who calls out “kohanim”?

Should the chazan be the one to say kohanim or a member of the tzibbur? If you hold that it should be a member of the tzibbur due to Hefsek why would it be a Hefsek for the chazan to say kohanim?
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Sources for different turnings during Hagba

Some shuls turn have the magbia turn completely around while others have him turn first left then right (there may be still other minhagim). Why the difference, and what's the mekor?
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2 Sifrei Torah for close readings

This morning we read Parashat Mishpatim (Exodus 21:1 - 24:18) and the special reading of Parashat Shekalim (Exodus 30:11-16). The custom everywhere I have ever seen is to remove two Sifrei Torah from ...
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Shabbos Zemiros source for Al Ahavosicha?

My family sings a zemer called al ahavosich, which i have never seen in a standard bencher/zmiros book. Does anyone know where this zemer comes from?
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Significance of the various Shabbos dishes

Many people (especialy chassidim) are very particular to have certain foods on Shabbos. Fish, soup, cholent, liver, eggs and onions, kugel, and I'm sure I'm missing a few others. What is/are the ...
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Halacha of hair disposal

Are there any traditions or halachic restrictions regarding the proper disposal of human hair (similar to with regard to nails or human remains)? Related: According to Halacha, does one have to ...
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Rules for Cutting Nails

My question about nail-cutting is whether each of the following is halacha, minhag, or old-wives' tales. Not cutting both fingernails and toenails on the same day. Not cutting nails at night (is ...
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What is the source of the expression מנהג ישראל תורה?

The earliest source I found is the Ramban who says in Pesachim 7b: ועוד נ"ל שסדר ברכות הללו של שחרית ברכות שבח הן על נוהג העולם ואפי' לא שמע שכוי מברך עליו וכן בכולן, וכן נהגו ומנהג ישראל תורה ...
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At what point do we reject a minhag?

I was learning the halachos of berachos on things that are ground up, and it seemed pretty clear to me that the blessing on chocolate should be ha'etz. I found discussion in some more contemporary ...
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Challah Friday Night

When you make Hamotzi on Shabbos you use the top Challah. However, on Friday night you use the bottom. Therefore, so as not to pass over the Mitzvah you hold the bottom one closer. My question is why ...
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Honey on Hallah for Newlyweds?

A friend stumped me with this question: What is the earliest reference to the custom of having newlyweds dip their hallah in honey? My guess is that it's an extension from the custom of honey on Rosh ...
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Why kiss the tefillin by “poseach es yadecha”?

As mentioned in this question, there is a fairly widespread custom to kiss the tefillin at certain times during Shacharis, among them the parts of קריאת שמע that mention tefillin. One of these times (...
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language of betrothal at wedding

Traditionally, before a husband betroths his wife he says, "Harei at mekudeshet li btabaat zo kdat moshe vyisrael." Is this language necessary in halacha or standardized by tradition (minhag)? If not ...
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Why only beautify two peyoth?

The explanation I have always been given for long, curled peyoth among those that have the minhag, is that it is for beautifying the misswah of peyoth. However, there are seven peyoth, only two of ...
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Why is the Pitum HaKetores said after Musaf?

The Tur (O.C. 132) quotes from Siddur Rav Amram that one should say the Parsha of Ketores every day after davening, and the Rama there writes that his custom is to do so only on Shabbos and Yom Tov. ...
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When there are four aveilim (mourners), Is it better to have one minyan of 40 people or 4 minyonim of ten each?

Today I was in a shul where there were four parallel mincha services because four mourners wanted to lead the services. I thought there was a principle of ברב עם הדרת מלך? What sources are there that ...
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Father being Matir Neder for himself: does it affect the family?

If a father is Matir Neder on a minhag (gebroktz, let's say) for himself for a valid reason, does that include his whole family? Are they now also permitted to eat gebroktz because that is now the ...
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Reason for various positioning of “An'im Zemirot”

I am aware of 3 different customs of when to say An'im Zemirot on Shabbat: Beginning of Shacharit, Between Bircot Hashachar and Psukei D'Zimrah After Chazarat Hashat"z of Shacharit End of Musaph ...
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Who organized the different trope tunes used in Ashkenazic Scripture reading?

Most Ashkenazic Scripture reading that I have heard uses a different trope tune for each of these readings: Shabbat, Yom Tov and weekday Torah reading Haftarah reading High Holiday Torah reading ...
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Origin of Unveiling

Often, the family of the deceased will have an unveiling service for the presentation of the matzevah.* What is the origin of this custom? *Source: Goldin, Hyman. Hamadrikh. Hebrew Publishing Company:...
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May one wear a jacket or coat over a tallit gadol during shacharit?

May one wear a jacket or coat over a tallit gadol during shacharit - assuming one wears a tallit gadol daily? The reason I ask is because usually the tallit gadol is the outer most garment. I don't ...
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Changing minhag about tallit gadol

I first became involved with a non-orthodox congregation where it was customary for everyone over Bar Mitzvah age to wear a tallit gadol. However, I understand that it is an Ashkenazi minhag not to ...
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Source listing all Jewish wedding customs?

Is there a comprehensive source that lists all various orthodox wedding customs (mitzvah tantz, mezinkah, etc.)?
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(Tefach) Wide Gartel

Some use a very wide gartel. A friend of mine mentioned an inyan (Judaism-sourced idea) that the gartel should be wider than one tefach. Can someone source this inyan that the gartel should be (more ...
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Not using Electricity as a Minhag

This answer asserts that R' Auerbach held that not using electricity on Shabbat is a minhag. However, assuming that this ruling dates to the 1930s (which is what I have heard in the past), everyday ...
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Why is it considered respectful to capitalize G-d and its derivatives/pronouns?

I recognize that in English proper nouns are supposed to be capitalized, especially in the case where a proper noun is also a common noun (e.g. the mall vs. the Mall), but only when referring to G-d ...
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Being Jewish and what makes one a Jew [duplicate]

My son Aaron did a DNA test and it came back with 1% European Jewish. Does this make us Jewish? I know on my Mum's side we are spanish so could this be Sephadic Jewish and what does this mean? I have ...
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Rulings that Sephardim should stand to put on hand-t'filin

Rabbi Shimon Eider's book, Student Edition of Halachos of Tefillin, dates to 1985. In it (section Ⅲ D 7), he writes: Some Poskim hold that one should sit while putting on the Shel Yad ...
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Are you required to wear a kippah during very strong winds?

If I am walking and the wind is very strong - the kippah flies off almost as soon as I put it on and I don't have a bobby pin with me - do I have an obligation to keep putting it on and securing it ...
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What are the rules about nudity of the small children?

Until what age is it permitted to see one's own daughter nude? 3? 12? What about prayers - how does one behave if during Amidah, or any other prayer or brochos, she is in front, with naked butt? Or ...
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Is there a practice of palming face by “shin” shape?

A friend of mine from B7 said that there's a custom to palm one's face during Kriyat Shma with shin-shaped hand. It looks like a Cohanim's hand shape, but it forms a shin-like shape. Who's custom is ...
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Is there any shul where you have to takes off you shoes before entering the beit knesset?

Are there any particular Jewish communities where the congregants remove their shoes before entering the Beit Kneset?