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Is it true that saying someone's full Jewish name is helpful for a long life?

Someone told me that in their family they have the minhag (practice) that at least once a day everyone is called by their full Jewish name. For example, a girl is Chana Ester Riva. People call her ...
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Why is the Lubavitch custom to have short Peoth?

If R' Schneur Zalman of Liadi had long Peoth, as in this famous sketch, why is it not the custom in Lubavitch circles these days for adult men to maintain long, emphasized Peoth as it is in many other ...
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live music and eating a meal?

I heard a long time ago that some people do not listen to live music and eat a meal at the same time, only at weddings? Is this a minhag or halacha?
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Tichel wearer moves to Sheitel covered community

If a woman who is custom to covering by means of Tichel/Mitpachat moves to a community in which it is custom for women to wear Sheitels, should she switch to Sheitels? If she attends a synagogue in ...
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Is it permissible to name one's child with a name from the opposite gender?

Is a person allowed to name a boy with a girl's name and vice versa? I remember seeing that one musn't, although in Nach one finds these things a lot. I understand it is not best practice for ...
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No kaddish for a sister?

I have heard that some (e.g. Chabad?) have the practice not to say kaddish for one's deceased sister. Can anybody confirm this? What might be the reason for this? I had thought there is an ...
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Why do we say Mazel Tov? Shouldn't we thank Hashem?

Why do we say "Mazel Tov" when something good happens to a person? Doesn't that mean "good luck?" Are we saying that what happened, happened because of luck?
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What is the source for the garlic and sugar at a Pidyon HaBen?

At a Pidyon HaBen I have observed that the Minhag is to put sugar cubes and garlic cloves on the tray with the baby. What is the source of this Minhag? And why specifically sugar and garlic?
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Do some communities still allow more mingling between the sexes on Tu B'Av?

Do some communities still allow more mingling between the sexes on Tu B'Av? I understand that this used to be a custom, in addition to allowance of a more relaxed approach to women's tznius on that ...
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Why do Jewish people sway while praying?

Is there a reason that people sway back and forth while praying? I saw a lot of people pray like this, but I'm too shy to ask them why do they do this.
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Schlissel Challah

What is the source for the "Key Challah" Segulah (charm) that is said to bring Parnassah (prosperity)? And which is it: do you put the key in the Challah or do you make the Challah in the shape of a ...
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Pulling ear when sneeze

Where does it come from that people pull their ear when they sneeze does it have something to do with our forefather Jacob before him no-one became ill just before death? That is, he became ill before ...
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What criteria are used to establish the shul's minhag re Hol Hamo'ed tefillin wearing?

Follow up to this answer. The Mishnah Berurah refers to the shul's minhag. While on vacation, I entered a shul carrying my tefillin bag. In the shul, I saw 6 people wearing tefillin, one of them was ...
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Shul segregation during chol hamoed

Over Pesach and Sukkos, it is common to find segregated minyanim in which those who wear tefilin sit in one section while those who do not sit in another, or completely separate services for both. ...
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What customs does a divorced/widowed woman follow? (Ashkenazi/Sfardi — hers or her ex-husband's?)

When a woman gets married, she takes on her husband's customs. Thus, an Ashkenazi woman marrying a Sfardi man gets to eat rice on Pesach (and vice versa). But what happens if she gets divorced, or if ...
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Ordering the healers's attributes in different minhagim

In Ashkenazic Nussach the 8th blessing of the Amida, the Nussach is: "רופא נאמן ורחמן" trustworthy and merciful. and in Sepharadic Nussach the order is "רחמן ונאמן". I am wondering if the difference ...
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Why do Chabad wedding invitations show the wrong time?

It has recently come to my attention that Chabad wedding invitations in the US are often bilingual Hebrew/English and the time given for the wedding on the Hebrew side is wrong (perhaps a copy of the ...
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Source for spoon, feather, and candle used in bedikas chometz?

What is the original source for the Ashkenazic tradition to do--as is popularly taught--the final search for chometz with a spoon, a feather, and a candle? It may not have an official source; in that ...
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Is there any source that says that women should / should not get drunk on Purim?

The prevalent מנהג is that women do not get drunk on Purim. I assume this due to tznius (modesty) concerns. Is there any ancient or recent source that explicitly discusses women not/yes drinking on ...
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Why eat gebrochts on the 8th day?

Apparently, among those who don't eat gebrochts during Pesach, the custom is to specifically eat it on the 8th day. From http://www.chabad.org/holidays/passover/pesach_cdo/aid/265990/jewish/Gebrokts-...
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How much wine should women drink at the Pesach seder?

In light of the concerns discussed here, how much of the Four Cups are women required/advised to drink at the Passover seder? At my last seder, I was told that women only need to have "a little" (a ...
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Saying Hallel in Shul on Pesach Night

There is a minhag by some kehillas in chutz L'aretz and by almost all kehillas in Israel to say the complete version of Hallel in the shul during maariv on the first night of Pesach (and second in ...
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Why on Pesah are we more strict with Kitniyoth than we are with real grains? [duplicate]

We obviously are very strict with the 5 grains on Pesah, but we do eat food made with them, namely Matzah. And with the exception of the issue of "Gebrochts", we do allow Matzah to be re-engineered ...
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why kiddushin and nisu'in are done in the same day (no big space)

Why are kiddushin and nisu'in done on the same day, with no big space in between? I understand from the mishna: מסכת כתובות ה,ב = נותנים לבתולה שנים עשר חודש משיתבע לה הבעל, לפרנס את עצמה; כשם ...
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Should I wear tefillin during Chol HaMoed?

If I don't have a known family minhag regarding this, how should I decide whether to wear tefillin during Chol HaMoed? Which communities generally follow each option, and what are the reasons behind ...
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Use Cazeres/romaine lettuce leaves?

I have seen some people use only the stalk and others use the whole leaf of the romaine lettuce for cazeres that they use by the Seder, both for the "plate" and for eating. What is the reason for the ...
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What is the Pesach candelabra?

What are the origins of the tradition to use a round 7-branch candelabra for Passover? Who uses it, when, how, and why? I am talking about something that looks like this: ...Perhaps interestingly ...
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Why can't we say “This meat is for Pesach”?

For the 30 days before Pesach, we are not supposed to say "this is for Pesach," but rather "this is for Yom Tov." The source indicates that the prohibition applies especially to utterances regarding ...
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Payment for Shadchanim

Where did the idea of paying a shadchan come from? Is it an obligation? Is it just like paying anyone for a service? If so, why do we only pay if the shidduch leads to a marriage? Additionally, who ...
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“Shmubrokhts” - Gebrokhts vs. Shmurah matzot during the week

While shopping in my local store last year during Hol Hamo'ed, I saw a brand of cakes called "shmubrokhts". Being curious about this interesting name, I realized that this was essentially gebrokhts ...
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When did the Kanievsky family switch from Chasidic to Litvish?

R' Chaim Kanievsky shlita davens Ashkenaz and wears Ashkenazi tefilin. His grandfather z'l was a Chernobyler chasid. It's not clear to me how the Steipler Gaon ztz'l conducted himself with regards ...
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What happened to the Mugmar?

In Brochos Perek 6, Mishna 6 the Mugmar is mentioned in the context of who makes the Brocha for it. Commentaries explain that it is some sort of incense that was smelled after a meal. It would ...
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Marovis on Yom Tov

Does anyone know of shuls that still say Marovis (piyutim) on Yom Tov nights? I'm particularly interested in any place in Teaneck. Many seem to think that it's a yekki minhag but it's pretty clear ...
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Does a woman goes back to be sefaradi after divorcing from a ashkenazi husband? [duplicate]

So, my parents just got divorced. My mother was Sefaradi when single and my father is Ashkenazi. When my mother married my father she adopted all ashkenazi customs, including not eating kitniot on ...
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Does chabad eat gebrochts? [duplicate]

What is the Chabad custom regarding eating matza meal or letting any water come in contact with matza?
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“Chiyuv” to be chazan vs. congregational approval and refusal

Follow-up to this M.Y. answer about a "chiyuv" to daven from the amud. The answer states that a mourner for a parent should try to be shaliach tzibbur. I question whether this rule contradicts some ...
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Can you turn your back to the Aron HaKodesh?

I'm quite certain that it is mentioned in the Kitzur Shulchan Aruch that one should not turn one's back to the Aron HaKodesh (ark which holds the Torah Scrolls). Can anyone tell me where this is ...
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Why is prayer rarely studied in yeshivot or synagogues? [closed]

Siddur Ashkenaz, Weekday, Shacharit, Preparatory Prayers, Torah Study 4: אֵלּוּ דְבָרִים שֶׁאָדָם אוכֵל פֵּרותֵיהֶם בָּעולָם הַזֶּה וְהַקֶּרֶן קַיֶּמֶת לו לָעולָם הַבָּא. וְאֵלּוּ הֵן......
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Is there a minhag or halacha to avoid kashering vessels for Passover and to only use new vessels

I was told by my father that we follow the minhag not to kasher vessels for paisach but to buy new ones I asked a Rav, the Rav said there is no such minhag, no reason to avoid kashering even when ...
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Hardboiled eggs and salt water at the Seder

I've participated in only 3 different families' Passover Seders, so my experience is limited in terms of different families' traditions. How widespread is the custom of eating a hardboiled egg in ...
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Kitniyos within Chabad-Lubavitch

I was wondering what stance Chabad-Lubavitch holds regarding kitniyos. Do they follow the Ashkenazi minhag of not consuming kitniyos on Pesach, or do they follow the Sephardi minhag, which doesn't ...
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Minhag not to eat ANY lamb at seder night?

I seem to recall an Ashkenazi minhag not to eat any form of lamb on seder night. I don't mean the widely spread custom not to eat a roasted lamb, but even , for example, braised lamb shanks. Is this ...
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Who accepts the “chazaka” method of checking vegetables?

Several sources endorse a method of checking produce in which the batch of produce is washed, three random samples from the batch are inspected for bugs, and, if these samples are entirely clear of ...
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Source for Tehillim of your age?

Does anybody know of a source for the minhag to recite daily the perek of tehillim corresponding to your age?
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Source for the Mitzvah Tanz

At a Chassidishe Wedding, there is a special dance done, known as the Mitzvah Tanz. Where is the source for this dance and what is the meaning behind it? Also, why is it not done at Litvish Weddings? ...
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Is it a halacha for men to cover their heads? [duplicate]

I am trying to determine the extent of the Jewish requirement for men to cover their heads throughout the day (that is, other than while making a bracha). It is fairly clear that this is not a ...
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Is the number 6 considered evil in Judaism?

I have heard from some sources that the number six is/can be construed as an evil number in Judaism, and as such, it should be avoided. Is there truth to this? If so, what is the reasoning behind ...
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Reason for Sepharadi Qeri'at Shema' Custom

I have seen no small number of Sepharadim recite Qeri'at Shema' whilst covering their eyes in the fashion below (as opposed to what I assume is the predominant Ashkenazi custom of simply placing one's ...
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What is the source for dressing in fancy dress on Purim?

I have searched in several sefarim for information about why we dress in fancy dress on Purim but, yet to no avail! Mishna Brurah, chaiyai Adam and the Kitzer all say to wear Shabbos clothes; they don'...
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Why do Sephardim tuck in their tzitzit?

It has been mentioned previously that Sephardic custom, according to R. Ovadia, is to wear the tzitziot from a talit katan inside rather than exposed. Can someone provide an explanation for this ...