marriage, marrying, the state of being married; more specific tags are `wedding` and `intermarriage`

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Intercourse with your ex-wife after giving the get

A man gave his wife a get. He then soon afterwards engaged in sexual intercourse with her. Would he be required to give another get? Possible reasons are that either the intercourse that took ...
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Correct procedures for Shidduchim

What are the correct Jewish procedures for finding someone to marry? Like does "dating" have any Jewish connection?
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Correct translation Hebrew to English Joel 1:8

Can someone help me translate the following verse (Joel 1:8). I have very limited hebrew but i would like to know the word used in hebrew. The word maiden / virgin. (Almah / Betulah) ח. אֱלִי ...
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Can the daughter of two people who could not marry a Cohen marry a cohen?

Can a woman whose father's father isn't Jewish, but whose father's mother is a regular Jew, and whose mother is the child of two converts marry a Cohen? On the one hand she isn't purely from ...
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What is the most successful way to do conversion for a Gentile girl in a relationship with a Jew?

Suppose the following situation, which commonly arises. A Jewish guy starts dating a non-Jewish girl, and they both fall in love. She respects his religion and wants to convert in order to be able to ...
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Shomer Negiyah- negated by Mikvah?

If a woman in an unmarried relationship goes to Mikvah, does that allow for freedom of touching in any way, besides for actual intercourse or spilling of seed in vain, between said couple (both ...
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Respecting your wife get you blessing/riches?

לעולם יהא אדם זהיר בכבוד אשתו שאין ברכה מצויה בביתו של אדם אלא בשביל אשתו וכך אמרו חכמים לבני דורם כבדו את נשותיכם כדי שתתעשרו (Shulchan Aruch Harav, Laws of paining and theft of knowledge, 32) ...
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requirement for Chabad shluchim to be married?

I heard that Chabad instituted a requirement for shluchim to be married because Zalman Schachter-Shalomi went off the derech. Is this historically accurate, and are Chabad shluchim required to be ...
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What customs does a divorced/widowed woman follow? (Ashkenazi/Sfardi — hers or her ex-husband's?)

When a woman gets married, she takes on her husband's customs. Thus, an Ashkenazi woman marrying a Sfardi man gets to eat rice on Pesach (and vice versa). But what happens if she gets divorced, or if ...
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Is it a biblical obligation to feed your wife?

I always understood that it was. But then I saw that it is for her work, and if she says do not feed me it is possible that the obligation to feed her goes away forever. And he does not need to feed ...
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Marriage of a Cohen to a woman with a non-Jewish father: Are the sons Cohanim?

Asking because it is not answered here: If, as suggested in the linked question, a Cohen may b'dieved (but not l'chatchila) marry a woman whose father is a non-Jew, will the sons from such a marriage ...
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Who is a bad wife? (that you are obligated to divorce?)

Shulchan Aruch Even HaEzer 119.4 said that there's is a Mitzva to divorce one's bad wife. אִשָּׁה רָעָה (ה) בְּדֵעוֹתֶיהָ, וְשֶׁאֵינָהּ צְנוּעָה כִּבְנוֹת יִשְׂרָאֵל הַכְּשֵׁרוֹת, מִצְוָה ...
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Translation please Yiddish and roshai taivois about getting married fast

Please help me translation (understand) Igres kodesh 24 pg 227 (second paragraph) I understand the last line that "whoever shortens the time between the decision (to get married) and the marriage ...
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If someone is halachically dead and then resuscitated, does his wife need a get to be divorced (is she already a widow)? [duplicate]

If someone is considered halichically dead (apparently this is somewhat of a dispute), and then he is "brought back" through modern day medical techniques, does his wife need a get to be divorced, or ...
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Can a Cohen marry a bat niddah?

Can a Cohen marry a bat niddah? Are Cohens generally restricted from marrying baalot teshuva because of the possibility that they may be b'not niddah?
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why kiddushin and nisu'in are done in the same day (no big space)

Why are kiddushin and nisu'in done on the same day, with no big space in between? I understand from the mishna: מסכת כתובות ה,ב = נותנים לבתולה שנים עשר חודש משיתבע לה הבעל, לפרנס את עצמה; כשם ...
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Getting Married With Different Customs

B'H I'm getting married in a few months and my fiancée waits 3 hours between meat and milk and I wait 6. In general, does a wife take on all the customs of her husband? In my example, would she have ...
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Payment for Shadchanim

Where did the idea of paying a shadchan come from? Is it an obligation? Is it just like paying anyone for a service? If so, why do we only pay if the shidduch leads to a marriage? Additionally, who ...
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What evidence is required to declare someone a Shituki or the like after the fact?

Somewhat related to What evidence is required to indicate mamzer status? What evidence is required to declare someone a shituki (Kiddushin 4:2) after that person has died? I.e he/she can't directly ...
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My observant boyfriend is forcing me to convert? Many Questions? [closed]

I have a few problems I would really like help with. I am not Jewish but have lived an orthodox lifestyle for the past 5 years. My boyfriend, who I love very much is orthodox and wants me to be as ...
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Giyores marrying a cohen and their offspring [closed]

If a Cohen married a giyores (convert), they had children born after the conversion of their mother, and the children had to do a geirus lechumra because the mothers' conversion was not done by ...
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Are there any halachic issues involved with using jscreen?

jscreen.org is an organization that provides genetic testing for Jews to help potential spouses better know if their children might have the potential to develop different diseases. The issue is that ...
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Do sefardim need to get genetic testing?

Some ashkenazim carry genes that could lead their children to develop Tay-Sachs disease. For this reason many ashkenazim get genetic testing - I believe that this is dictated by halacha. Do sephardim ...
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Are there any recent statistics showing the “marriage longevity” rate for shidduch arranged marriages?

There has been a "local" campaign in my neighborhood, recently, suggesting that young singles should only use shidduchim (matchmakers) when seeking to become married. Part of the "ad" campaign ...
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Are multiple wives allowed in israel [closed]

I know several people who have come from the Arabic countries like Syria and Saudi, and have multiple wives. Is it allowed to legally have multiple wives in any country today, or do they only consider ...
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What is permissible on “anything-but” night (סמוך לוסתה)?

Please see here for the source that on the night of a woman's expected menstruation, anything other than "relations" proper is permitted. What acts are included under this permission? Put another ...
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Marriage - am I doomed? [closed]

My mother is Jewish but my father isn't - I currently have no contact with my father/that side of the family and my mother doesn't speak to any of her side of the family which means I was never able ...
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Newlyweds: Only four days before Hefsek Tahara?

I recently saw on Wikipedia something I had never heard before: that for newlyweds, "a bride counts only four days before performing a hefsek tahara, instead of the usual five." No citation was ...
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Why was Esther permitted to Mordechai up untill the Feasts with Achashveirosh?

The Medrash tells us that Esther was the wife of Mordechai, and once she was forceably taken to be the queen and Achashveirosh's wife, she was still permitted to Mordechai becouse she was taken ...
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How do Rabbis deal with meshaloch manos in terms of kedushin? [duplicate]

Since the definition of sivlonos is a man giving a gift of value to a non married woman, the mishloach manos looks like this (S.A. O.C. 695,4 in Haga). So, how do Rabbis deal with this issue in terms ...
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How can a man give a woman a gift without getting himself into a safek kiddushin?

According to jewish law a women is betrothed to a man when the man gives the woman a gift worth more than a prutah and recites the words "you are betrothed to me through this object". How can a man ...
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married couples never sleeping in the same bed

I have heard that many Orthodox married couples never sleep in the same bed, even during the times that they are permitted to each other. Coming from a non-Orthodox background, this seems shocking to ...
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Questions about why is wife denied access to her own property? [closed]

Under Jewish law, Wife is not allowed to manage fruit or sell any property without husband's consent. Husband inherits his deceased wife but not vice versa. But Torah doesn't prohibit married women to ...
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Why did we get rid of polygamy?

Why did we get rid of polygamy? When did having a pilegesh become unacceptable and why?
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Betrothed or Married?: when it comes to the covenant (and the giving of Torah) being made at Har Sinai

Within the following source: http://www.jewishlifeseries.com/shabbat/voiceofthebride.pdf, i found a view statements that intrigue me: Several Midrashim employ the metaphor of engagement and ...
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Chuppah by a Zivug Sheini (second marriage) and the “main” kinyan

It seems that the prevalent minhag by a zivug sheini (second marriage) is to have the chuppah inside (as opposed to the minhag of (at least) the ashkanazim to have the chuppah outside.) What is the ...
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Same Rabbi (Posek) for husband and wife

Does a husband a wife need to have the same Rabbi (Posek) or can they have their own Rabbi's?
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Men need to get married before 24?

This (below) audio lecture has 2 rabbis say that halahikly a man need to marry by 24 years old Is this true? What might be there source? http://www.endthemadness.org/audio/TND_Endthemadness.mp3 ...
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Level of obligation of married women covering their hair

Does a married woman have to cover her hair based on a biblical commandment or a rabbinic decree?
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What is the source and nature of the prohibition on premarital sex? [duplicate]

What is the source of the prohibition on premarital sex? Is it a Biblical prohibition? If not, what is the source and how is it derived? What is the nature of the prohibition? Is it an avera? Is it ...
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Does Judaism permit sexual relationships outside of marriage?

I am eager to know more about different religions from Islam to Judaism. Furthermore, how different religions look at women and comparing their kinds of approaches to the matter of gender and ...
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Is there anywhere in the Torah,where Hashem tells someone to get married to another?

Is there anywhere in the Torah,where Hashem tells someone to get married to another? What if someone said to you: Hashem or an angel told me ,that we are getting married? Is there anything in the ...
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May a couple forgo relations out of convenience?

In my chassan classes I was taught that it is important to have relations on the night a wife returns tahor from the mikvah. I do not know the source of this idea. My question is: May the couple ...
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Is there a source for a man not addressing his wife by her first name?

I know a man who when addressing his wife calls her [for example] Mrs Doe as opposed to 'Jane' or 'Honey' [he does this when he is home too]. This person is very religious and what some might call ...
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Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters?

Are two biological brothers allowed to marry two biological sisters? Are there any halachically issues involved with such a marriage? I do recall hearing something about it but not sure what it was.
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Honey on Hallah for Newlyweds?

A friend stumped me with this question: What is the earliest reference to the custom of having newlyweds dip their hallah in honey? My guess is that it's an extension from the custom of honey on Rosh ...
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Why “lest another man take her” and not betroth?

Deuteronomy 20:5–7 (with the Judaica Press translation), describing the lead-up to a battle: And the officers shall speak to the people, saying, What man is there who has built a new house ...
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Conservative procedures for avoiding intermarriage?

Conservative rabbis are prohibited from performing intermarriages (e.g., http://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/ethical_guidelines/Code%20of%20conduct-2011-public.pdf). Is ...
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Sources for Hassidic views on marital celibacy/asceticism?

My understanding is the traditional view of Ger Hassidism was that marital celibacy was a good idea, once all procreative needs had been met. My impression is that Chabad-Lubavitch never advocated an ...
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How does the kohein gadol's substitute wife work?

The first mishna of Yoma1 explains that before Yom Kippur, a substitute wife is prepared for the kohein gadol lest his wife die -- because the torah says he makes atonement for himself and "his ...